The nervous wait to... have a baby

NoNameNoNumber · 27 Jul 2022 at 19:58

Evening all,
Currently sat in the maternity ward with my wife. She's 41+1 with our first baby.
She's come in for a checkup and just dropped the news that they're keeping her in to induce her.
We aren't going home until the baby is out and I think it's kinda just hit me.

We're in a long term stable and happy relationship, both early 30s, no other children etc. The dream I guess, but I've not really been excited at any point. I'm not against kids in the slightest, and as I've gotten older, I have grown to love some of the friends babies/toddlers etc. Happy to be having our own child, and my wife has yearned for years... so here we are.

Sorry, no question or real point to my ramblings...
Probably just a little shell shocked.
Poor dog is at home and has no idea!

I think my fear is being in the room with her and lots of skilled professionals, all with real purpose. Me feeling powerless and her needing me.
Nerves? Not so much, not scared, a little squeamish, so it'd be great if they didn't have to c section her.

It'll be fine right GD?

NoNameNoNumber · 27 Jul 2022 at 20:08

MrRockliffe said:
Best advice I can give is put the phone down and spend time with your girlfriend, if you can. She’ll be nervous as hell.

I'm in the communal waiting room, they will call me through when they have a room for us.

Thank you guys. Really appreciate your words

NoNameNoNumber · 27 Jul 2022 at 21:01

Tachyon said:
I was the same, didn't feel excited, it just seemed all very surreal. In the end it all seemed to happen very quick, although my wife probably didn't think that at the time. Enjoy every minute and best wishes to the the 3 of you.

Bizarre isn't it.
Everyone seems to be so excited about it all, I've just missed that boat
The wife has just asked if I've spoken to mum, it hadn't really crossed my mind. I'm in the waiting room looking up 3d printer filament

NoNameNoNumber · 28 Jul 2022 at 03:25

Her waters broke on Tuesday, unbeknownst to us.
So they are having to induce her with oxytocin to get things going quickly due to risk of infection. That's bought contractions on strong with no option of the pessary to soften the cervix so it got pretty intense pretty quick. She's soldiering on wonderfully though and the hospital staff have been awesome.

NoNameNoNumber · 28 Jul 2022 at 21:06

BUDFORCE said:
Any update OP?

C section.

I'm in scrubs, we're off to the theatre shortly. Wife's been a trooper but it hasn't worked out. She feels like she's failed, knocked her pride having to 'concede' to a section.

It's for the best. Baby is still absolutely fine and no signs of distress which is comforting.

Thank you for asking.

NoNameNoNumber · 29 Jul 2022 at 15:05

We had a beautiful boy. Born via c section at 23:10 last night @ 8lb 13oz
Mum and baby are fine, just waiting to be discharged sometime today.
Thank you GD for being there.