So…just a bit of ‘light’ background reading into the current situation. I am currently half way through an MSc. This costs money. To help fund this I am having to work part time (the course is two days a week so I work the other three). This is relevant in the fact that I need a job and the job I have is extremely flexible around my uni hours / exams / any time I need off to study... and is also quite well paid.
The work is ok, the workplace is ok, the people are ok… As long as you don’t mention race/ethnic minorities/homosexuality/religions other than Christianity/people on benefits. This is where we run into some problems. The office is 99% white. Which is not a problem in itself.
I am fortunate in that no one can ever really tell where I am from or what race I am (the most common assumption is some form of Mediterranean mix). Bearing in mind it is very difficult to tell my heritage by looking at me...I also believe one would be unable to assume (as, arguably you cannot with anyone), the ethnicity of my boyfriend.
So...After not participating in numerous conversations about ethnic minorities, I decided to inform my work colleagues that my boyfriend was indeed black and I was under the impression they assumed, (for reasons unknown to me), that he was white. How did they react at the news that he was not? Well, one woman said, ‘Are you kidding?’, whilst another (who happens to be my manager) could not stop laughing and then proceeded to ask me various idiotic questions about my boyfriend based on stereotypes of a black person (use your imagination). I cannot decide whether the best description of how I felt is angered, upset, disgusted or shocked. I guess a mixture of all four. Perhaps I was naïve, after already hearing their conversations I should have guessed their reaction, however, I did not think their views would be directed towards someone who was close to me and they know means a lot to me. Also…before there are any comments regarding HR…the HR manager is just as bad. In an office where I am indeed a lone voice, (the only black employee has given up long ago and has already once advised me to ‘keep my head down and get on with the job’), do I stick to morals and most probably be out of a job (I am paid hourly and am very easy to get rid of), do as I have been advised and ‘keep my head down’, or….well I don’t know a third option.
This is not based solely on the one conversation where I mentioned my boyfriend. conversations of this nature are constant and on a daily basis.
The work is ok, the workplace is ok, the people are ok… As long as you don’t mention race/ethnic minorities/homosexuality/religions other than Christianity/people on benefits. This is where we run into some problems. The office is 99% white. Which is not a problem in itself.
I am fortunate in that no one can ever really tell where I am from or what race I am (the most common assumption is some form of Mediterranean mix). Bearing in mind it is very difficult to tell my heritage by looking at me...I also believe one would be unable to assume (as, arguably you cannot with anyone), the ethnicity of my boyfriend.
So...After not participating in numerous conversations about ethnic minorities, I decided to inform my work colleagues that my boyfriend was indeed black and I was under the impression they assumed, (for reasons unknown to me), that he was white. How did they react at the news that he was not? Well, one woman said, ‘Are you kidding?’, whilst another (who happens to be my manager) could not stop laughing and then proceeded to ask me various idiotic questions about my boyfriend based on stereotypes of a black person (use your imagination). I cannot decide whether the best description of how I felt is angered, upset, disgusted or shocked. I guess a mixture of all four. Perhaps I was naïve, after already hearing their conversations I should have guessed their reaction, however, I did not think their views would be directed towards someone who was close to me and they know means a lot to me. Also…before there are any comments regarding HR…the HR manager is just as bad. In an office where I am indeed a lone voice, (the only black employee has given up long ago and has already once advised me to ‘keep my head down and get on with the job’), do I stick to morals and most probably be out of a job (I am paid hourly and am very easy to get rid of), do as I have been advised and ‘keep my head down’, or….well I don’t know a third option.
This is not based solely on the one conversation where I mentioned my boyfriend. conversations of this nature are constant and on a daily basis.