Threatening E-Mail

The Mad Rapper

The Mad Rapper

The Mad Rapper

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I have a son who is fifteen months old. I've been going through the Family Courts for the last year to get access to him. Tomorrow his Mum and I were due to see the Court appointed social worker to arrange more frequent contact and overnight visits etc.

His Mum has basically decided that she doesn't want to go because she does not want me to have any further access then the existing once fortnightly visits. We have exchanged e-mails on the subject today, but they were clearly written by her Dad (he has a very distinct writing style) so I asked him to keep out of it as the situation is already difficult enough.

He replied with a long e-mail basically having a right go at me, part of which states:

'I will defend my family, now including [my son], against any and all onslaughts that you or any other may make which threatens their peace, comfort and wellbeing'.

I percieve this to be an undisguised threat. I read that as 'Back off, or else'.

What can I do? As much as I'd like to, I cannot visit him or do anything that would damage my position in the view of the Court. I must be whiter than white.

I really do not like the idea of him making threats in this way. If I speak to the Police are they likely to do anything? Is there an offence I could have him prosecuted under?
 
AHarvey said:
Personally, I would reply with something along the lines of:

"I understand how you feel you must defend your family, however, you must realise that (your sons name) is my family too. Can you possibly imagine how you would have felt had you been denied access to your own daughter as she grew up? "

Try to make him realise that he is denying you the thing that he obviously holds with such high regard!

I would reply with that then just inform them that if you can't come to a peaceful solution via email you will have to allow all communication to go through the courts!

On a side note, any reason why her dad feels he has to defend them from you?
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There is no reasoning with them mate. I have been through this time and again over the last 2 years. They think their view is right and that is that.

My Ex and I had a volatile relationship. I made two formal complaints to the Police about domestic violence during our relationship. I should have walked away a long time before she fell pregnant but didn't because I loved her.

Her Father and I hate each other basically. He thinks he is defending his daughter, but he is basically just making an already difficult situation worse. He funded her legal costs, they have done basically everything possible to prevent my son having anything to do with me. They didn't even tell me he was born, I found out 11 days afterwards by calling the Registrar at the Registry Office.

I have represented myself. So far I have managed to have his birth re-registered naming me as his Dad (they left the Father space blank), I have had his surname changed to include mine and I now see him for 8 hours every other Saturday. There's still a long way to go though.
 
Some success for me today.

She failed to appear. The case worker called her to find out where she was and she screamed at the case worker down the telephone. Apparently she does not care that we have a Family Assistance Order and that she was obliged to turn up.

The case worker and I discussed my views on the progression of contact which went down very well. She has promised to support me by recommending my views to the Court. The Court rarely disagrees with CAFCASS.

I asked to care for him every Friday while she is at work, then from Saturday morning to Sunday evening every other week.

She will speak to her seperately, probably next week, then make her recommendations to the Court. I've asked for this to start on the 4th July.

I'll keep you all updated.

P.S. I showed her the e-mail from her Dad. She told me to keep it and show it to the Court.
 
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