tolerance over time

cm1179 · 21 Jan 2011 at 14:12

why do you think it is that when something is new, we tolerate things which, over time end up winding us up. take a relationship for example, the other person may have a habit which might really wind you up but one would tolerate it, for a time.
or in a new job situation, either working with someone new or working in a new place. both sides will tolerate things for a while, be it a simple mistake, doing something which you maybe shouldn't (texting on your phone etc) there is a period where both sides tolerate things but sooner or later, they end up coming to a head.
does anyone else tolerate things purely because they feel it is a bit too soon to say anything about it?

Morba · 21 Jan 2011 at 14:13

Because it's all new. Once you are in a routine little things become more prominent, add that to knowing that you can now start using your voice without people thinking 'who does this new person think they are'.

Castiel · 21 Jan 2011 at 14:14

Familiarity breeds Contempt.

LordSplodge · 21 Jan 2011 at 14:17

Castiel said:
Familiarity breeds Contempt.

Indeed, or in the world of psychology behaviour reinforced with consequences.

If find as I got older I am more tolerant of some things and a lot less of others.

Cosimo · 21 Jan 2011 at 14:19

LordSplodge said:
If find as I got older I am more tolerant of some things and a lot less of others.

Same here although some of that intolerance is just grumpiness.

cm1179 · 21 Jan 2011 at 14:20

LordSplodge said:
If find as I got older I am more tolerant of some things and a lot less of others.

ditto

Gilly · 21 Jan 2011 at 14:24

LordSplodge said:
If find as I got older I am more tolerant of some things and a lot less of others.

I think that would go for most people.

bazaarboy · 21 Jan 2011 at 14:29

tolerance increases also with self-confidence and your idea of your self-worth, I think, that is to say in my humble opinion, please accept me!

Castiel · 21 Jan 2011 at 14:39

simulatorman said:
Same here although some of that intolerance is just grumpiness.

Some!???!........

LordSplodge · 21 Jan 2011 at 15:39

simulatorman said:
Same here although some of that intolerance is just grumpiness.

It is more bitterness and sarcasm for me!

Gilly said:
I think that would go for most people.

So in essence it is all about getting old. Bummer.