When I was a kid I was always taught that whilst tolerance was important, consideration for others always trumped this.
It's a rule that I've generally lived my life by however I seem to be more and more of a rarity in this respect.
I'll give a prime example, one that others in here have probably dealt with.
Walking by a cafe today I noticed a family with a few kids. The kids were running around the place, bumping against tables and chairs, getting in the way of servers and clearly annoying some of the other patrons. I know the cafe well, it's a lovely quiet place overlooking the sea. Nice atmosphere, good food, stunning views.
Now, when I was a kid my parents would have reigned me in pretty sharpish. A quiet word and a little explanation would have had me understanding it's not a playground and I was disrupting others. These parents did sweet F A. For the time that I was passing one never looked up from her phone and the other was troughing away on a toastie.
I think it's also incredibly evident in driving standards. Right of way just doesn't seem to exist. People will cut you up completely unnecessarily. Another example of mine from yesterday, was out for a great drive on country roads and a woman pulled out in front of me from a side road. She was in a t-roc, not exactly made for twisting, undulating roads and so didn't go above 35. There was nothing behind me. There are plenty of laybys and she could have pulled in to any of them. I do it all the time if I'm in the pickup and there's something quicker that is going to be held up behind me (Which tbh is pretty much anything!). It literally takes seconds. In fact, the gent in the Mondeo that was in front of me before that did just that. Gave me a wave and nod and I gave him a thumbs up. He then pulled out behind me and it cost him no time at all and I was able to push in and have fun.
Consideration. Ain't it great? Why then do so few people seem to possess it anymore? I feel this is one of the reasons, as stated in the declining attitude to law and order thread, that we're seeing the problems in society that we have. Instead of trying to have a better society, tolerance is requiring us to put up with the worst behaviours and attitudes that people exhibit.
Or am I just weird?
It's a rule that I've generally lived my life by however I seem to be more and more of a rarity in this respect.
I'll give a prime example, one that others in here have probably dealt with.
Walking by a cafe today I noticed a family with a few kids. The kids were running around the place, bumping against tables and chairs, getting in the way of servers and clearly annoying some of the other patrons. I know the cafe well, it's a lovely quiet place overlooking the sea. Nice atmosphere, good food, stunning views.
Now, when I was a kid my parents would have reigned me in pretty sharpish. A quiet word and a little explanation would have had me understanding it's not a playground and I was disrupting others. These parents did sweet F A. For the time that I was passing one never looked up from her phone and the other was troughing away on a toastie.
I think it's also incredibly evident in driving standards. Right of way just doesn't seem to exist. People will cut you up completely unnecessarily. Another example of mine from yesterday, was out for a great drive on country roads and a woman pulled out in front of me from a side road. She was in a t-roc, not exactly made for twisting, undulating roads and so didn't go above 35. There was nothing behind me. There are plenty of laybys and she could have pulled in to any of them. I do it all the time if I'm in the pickup and there's something quicker that is going to be held up behind me (Which tbh is pretty much anything!). It literally takes seconds. In fact, the gent in the Mondeo that was in front of me before that did just that. Gave me a wave and nod and I gave him a thumbs up. He then pulled out behind me and it cost him no time at all and I was able to push in and have fun.
Consideration. Ain't it great? Why then do so few people seem to possess it anymore? I feel this is one of the reasons, as stated in the declining attitude to law and order thread, that we're seeing the problems in society that we have. Instead of trying to have a better society, tolerance is requiring us to put up with the worst behaviours and attitudes that people exhibit.
Or am I just weird?
