Update on my "advice with girlfriend" thread

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So for those of you who posted in my other thread that got closed as it quickly went off track

we had a chat and for various reasons she just dot have the time so weve agreed to end it as its for the best

to everyone who gave their advice, thanks for that and as much as i am a little bit gutted its the best thing to do
 
yeah we said we'll stay on good terms and maybe get in touch, we've both said if things change in the future who knows, it probably wont come to that but its better we stay cool than have a massive falling out
 
Sorry to hear this, it does get easier though. Plus, at least you ended on good terms so theres no bitter taste in your mouth afterwards!
 
I just couldnt continue with how it was, i am buying my first home soon so will be moving a bit further away, if we cant see each other now it will only get harder, she agreed to that so whats the point in dragging it out another couple of months.

i am more gutted than i thought id be, especially as its only been 6 months but everyone i know has said ive done the right thing so that makes me feel better
 
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At least you know now OP better than the what if's. Now go out, get drunk and pasty smash your way to a new life!
 
Was this the one where you thought she was having an affair?

I get confused with so many GF threads on the go at the moment :(
 
When I got dumped last year a lot of my friends told me "the best way to get over someone, is to get under someone else"

It didn't work, she was a munter and a nut job, don't do it. Take time to chill out, relax, catch up with friends and be yourself.
 
Greebo said:
Was this the one where you thought she was having an affair?

I get confused with so many GF threads on the go at the moment :(
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the original OP said:
I know I’m asking for trouble by posting this in the GD but here goes……

I met this girl 6 months ago, we went on a couple of dates over the course of the first month or so and they we started seeing each other every week.

We only see each other twice a week most weeks, basically she’s just finished a degree and is now working a full time job but also does a few hours part time after her normal job, I understand it leaves little time for her and for a while I’ve been happy with what we are doing as we both like a bit of our own time anyway but here’s my problem…….

Obviously when we first started seeing each other we was txting all the time, having a laugh, being flirty ect, she’d often say she’s excited to see me tomorrow or whatever and looking forward to cuddling up ect. Over the past week this has just suddenly stopped, I’ve mentioned it to her and her reply is “after a while things change, you don’t keep that up forever” which is totally fine. It just seems to me that it’s a massive drastic change, not one flirty message in over a week.

We had a bit of a clear the air talk a few days ago and I said if you’re not feeling this anymore then we can call it a day and explained that I feel she’s been very distant. She said that she does want to carry on seeing me and has just been really busy at work ect and if she didn’t she would soon say, but I just can’t help but feel it feels different when we see each other now. She’s always on her phone txting her friends when before she would send maybe one or two through the course of the night, I just feel like I’m not getting a lot back.

I am one to overthink things and can sometimes make things worse than what they actually are.

What’s the thought of the GD, has she lost interest or am I just making a mountain out of a mole hill.
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I think the lesson here is that whilst it's unfortunate and of course sad to break up, it was six months and it sounded like a relationship with a short shelf life.

That's ok - a lot of them can be.

Chin up champ and keep on keeping on :)
 
Phate said:
When I got dumped last year a lot of my friends told me "the best way to get over someone, is to get under someone else"

It didn't work, she was a munter and a nut job, don't do it. Take time to chill out, relax, catch up with friends and be yourself.
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To be fair, rebound sex works wonders unless you pick a total nutter :P
 
Greebo said:
To be fair, rebound sex works wonders unless you pick a total nutter :P
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Agree the nutter was the bad bit.

Years ago I was with a hot and intelligent but complete headcase, and the relationship was extreme both ends of the spectrum. After many scrotum wrenching breakups and makeups I had enough of it, dumped her and then started shagging a lovely cuddly girl who I was mates with for a while who was into me. After a while she wanted more but I let her down gently - of course having the perfect excuse of just having been in a long term relationship, wanting nothing serious etc. Seamless transition into single batchelorness.
 
oulton said:
Agree the nutter was the bad bit.

Years ago I was with a hot and intelligent but complete headcase, and the relationship was extreme both ends of the spectrum. After many scrotum wrenching breakups and makeups I had enough of it, dumped her and then started shagging a lovely cuddly girl who I was mates with for a while who was into me. After a while she wanted more but I let her down gently - of course having the perfect excuse of just having been in a long term relationship, wanting nothing serious etc. Seamless transition into single batchelorness.
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Is this 'Sharing Hour' because if it's not, it should be. That's a good story :)
 
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