Wedding donations...how do you did yours?

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Phate

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Hi all,

Wedding is looming and one thing we're being asked about is donations/gifts.

Well, we don't have a wedding list as we already have an apartment and we don't need anything. Nothing springs to mind. I told my family that I'm happy for them just to come along (they're already shelling out travelling from the UK) but they're insisting on "something"

So we thought of donations. Typically at weddings there are those letterboxes with a slip for the envelopes to go in and et voila. But as family are travelling they might not want to bring cash in an envelope like that, coupled with if its a cheque in £ it would need to go back to the UK anyway to go in our English bank accounts. So I am thinking of maybe an online page of sorts and can just send the link out, makes it easier all around.

Now, in a true "very british problems" type way...I feel bad about just sending bank details out to people :p

So, has anyone used an online page for people to contribute/donate to them?Any services that people can recommend? :)

TIA
Jake
 
We didn't personally, but a couple of friends simply had a donation "thing" setup to essentially pool into their honeymoon spending money. They, like you, already had all of the typical "wedding gifts" as they'd been living together for years.

I'll see if I can dig out their link.
 
We didn't want anything either. So we created an "activity list" for our honeymoon that people could contribute towards. All it was really was a holding account/pot for money - but we did use it for the activities we wanted to do on our honeymoon.

The stuff left over we just used towards our home.

We were in the same position, we didn't want gifts and we had people coming over from dozens of countries around the world (from Oz, Malaysia, Canada and S.America, France and lots of other countries) so felt that was enough - but people insisted.

Ultimately the "oldies" gave us cheques.

Whilst it feels weird having people giving us money to celebrate our day, in some cultures (e.g. Greek) they pin money to you and it's expected to give you money to help you start on your life as a married couple. So once you get over the "British" thing you'll end up just realising people want to give you stuff to enjoy yourself as a newly married couple.,

Oh and congrats!! :D
 
Could a just giving page be setup for this?

I'm not sure of the in's and out's but seems like the sort of thing that it could be used ofr, I'm also not sure if the just giving people take a cut.
 
paradigm said:
I'll see if I can dig out their link.
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Great, thank you :)

Freefaller said:
Oh and congrats!! :D
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Thanks! :D

But we're in the same boat as you were. I'm wondering if maybe something can be done with Paypal...hmmm...that might be too technical for some of my family :eek: :o


JOSH86 said:
Could a just giving page be setup for this?

I'm not sure of the in's and out's but seems like the sort of thing that it could be used ofr, I'm also not sure if the just giving people take a cut.
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I thought about Just Giving but I'm fairly sure they'll take a cut from it. need to confirm that though.
 
they do take a cut.

There are wedding gift "funds" like the deposit protection scheme (the money is held securely on your behalf) - but ours was part of the services our honeymoon broker offered us - not sure if there's a stand alone service like that, but paradigm seems to be aware of it so I'm sure that will help!
 
We had a post box thing, we looked into some of the services but they take a cut so opted against it. I'll ask the other half if she knows any that don't take a cut, she did it all so might remember ;)
 
We never asked for anything, not even money, however most guests brought something small or a small donation of their own choosing. We did get asked a couple of times from guests what we wanted but we just said that we did not mind.

I think in the end we got a few hunder quid cash, about £300 in various vouchers and a handful of homely display items.
 
smeaney said:
We never asked for anything, not even money, however most guests brought something small or a small donation of their own choosing. We did get asked a couple of times from guests what we wanted but we just said that we did not mind.

I think in the end we got a few hunder quid cash, about £300 in various vouchers and a handful of homely display items.
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We didn't ask for anything either, we specifically said on the invite we don't want anything but if people really wanted to then we would take "money donations" to put towards the honeymoon. I think if you don't state something, you'll end up with 15 toasters and 12 photo frames or something.
 
We're using Prezola.

It does the usual wedding gift stuff, but for a fee (us not guests) allows you to accept monetary gifts towards (in our case) a honeymoon fund.

Not something I was initially happy with (the whole gift idea), but guests specifically asked and I always give generously to friend's and family's weddings.

Congrats btw.
 
See all the dilemmas living in sin with your bidey-in creates!



...only kidding. I'd certainly be ok with just depositing money into a bank account and it would work for people with online banking or without (they could just go in to the branch to do it).
 
we set up a wish list / contributions list for our honeymoon with Trailfinders (as we were already set at booking with them) for our honeymoon to japan.
 
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