Wedding hints

[NotAGolf]

So yesterday I finally popped the question to my gf, thankfully she said yes

I'd like to say thanks to everyone on here who posted in my threads or someone else's with advice on everything from the ring, to timing, to ideas, to food and anything else

So onto my next question... the wedding!!! Any hints and advice on anything and everything around the wedding? Do's and dont's etc.

Tbh I don't really have much of an opinion on it all so I've already told my gf it's pretty much up to her. Not because I can't be bothered, but because I'd like it to be what she wants. Obviously I'll put my foot down on anything I really don't like (probably the budget!).

 

[NotAGolf]

Congratulations!

Where do you live/what area with you be getting wed in?

Problem number 1! We live in West Sussex (where I'm from and all my family/friends are), but her family/friends are in Essex (where she's from). As I've dragged her away from her lot and she'll have more people to shuttle down, I suggested having it in her neck of the woods, but I think she's 50/50.

 

[NotAGolf]

So, how did you pop the question?

Took her on a suprise outing. Went on a walk to one of my favourite spots on top of the South Downs which we'd been to a few times before. Three course picnic and popped the question after a boss cheesecake! Celebrated with a bottle of champers and strawberries. The weather was superb, as was the view. She loved the ring and the fit was just right. Couldn't have gone any better.

 

[NotAGolf]

Thanks for all the feedback and well wishes

On the present front, like some people here, we already have a house and have got everything we need so 'traditional' wedding presents would be of no use. I've been to a few when they've asked for cash towards their honeymoon or whatever and it feels a bit 'off', and sounds even worse when you accompany it with the "Being here is enough in itself...but if you want to give us cash...". The idea of having some kind of fund for them to pay into (John Lewis or Travel company etc) is better but still doesn't sit right with me.

The entertainment options is a good talking point and one that I hadn't really thought about. After thinking about the events I've been to (not just weddings), the live band has always been much more engaging, even if it's music I don't like. Maybe they've all been dodgy DJ's! My dad's is in a band which would be cool but I don't think I'd like to put the pressure on him! Although I would feel mean getting another band and not asking him!

I'm not sure about the photographer. Obviously we'll get one, but I'm not convinced on shedding out ££££'s on one. Very rarely have I seen wedding photos that aren't cliche and corny. The ones that I do like are more like works of art and are not the kind of photos you look back on as it always looks staged.

Lastly, there's no way we'll be getting into debt to pay for the day. If she wants to spend thousands then she'll have to wait a few more years to save up

And Kappa; the honeymoon is the one thing I'm not worried about! We already agreed I can be in charge of the honeymoon Need to save enough to get to Tahiti though!

 

[NotAGolf]

I think he was trying to say that he doesn't like them when they're staged.

Yep. I've had a flick through the sample albums in Raymond's link and quite frankly I think they're hideous. They are undoubtedly very impressive pieces of work but they belong in a perfume advert or some fancy catalogue, not a wedding album. In my onion of course!

Thanks for the hint about meeting the photographer - wouldn't have thought of that, and is a very sensible thing to do thinking about it.