What do I do? any help please urgent!

Hitman_Leon

Hitman_Leon

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My daughter came home yesterday and asked me to get the childline number for her friend. her friend from school told her that her has been hitting her and her mum and wanted my daughter to get the childline number for her. I gave my daughter the number and she gave it to her friend at school today. Further to the conversation they had yesterday my daughters friend showed her bruises where she says her dad hits her every day. Also she told my daughter that her dad has done sexual things to her.

friends from school and I never knew where they lived or surnames ect because they were just friends from school. My daughter has asked her friend where she lives but her friend will not tell her because she thinks my daughter will say something to other people or report her dad to childline. And as for my daughter giving her friend the number for childline she says her friend is too scared to call them. Also she said that her dad has told her she will be taken away if she ever tells anyone. My daughter says that her friend was thinking of suicide lastnight she put something round her neck and was going to hang herself.

Now im sat here wondering what the hell to do, I can't figure out what my next move is. if I knew where he lived I would send the police in a heartbeat. Im really stuck now this girl is one of my daughters friends in the same year at school and the same age probably around 11/12. If I knew the guy I would lynch him but I don't I just know this girl might be in a lot of danger but I don't know where she is or who to talk to.

One other thing what if I did tell the police or childline and it was just too vague for them to do anything, also what if the story was not true, there are so many variables i can't think right.

Any help guys, thanks in advance.

One thing, I know this much my daughtr is not spinning me a line or telling lies as I know her too well and she would never lie about something so important.
 
HITMAN_LEON said:
One thing, I know this much my daughtr is not spinning me a line or telling lies as I know her too well and she would never lie about something so important.
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Is your daughter sure that this girl isnt just making the story up. Get some attention or something. Not saying your daughter is lying but the other girl might be just seeking some attention.

If it is indeed true though then I think you should speak with the school.
 
Well since you're getting the information 2nd hand from a minor as an adult it's your duty to report it to both the police and child services and let them take over. Child abuse is never taken with a touch of salt and will be dealt with promptly and seriously and they can exercise precautions should they see fit to do so. You're just wasting valuable time posting here asking for help with help is a few numbers away if the kid was thinking of suicide :/
 
Tell the school but don't leave it in their hands - find the full name of the girl, contact the police explain what you know - the name of the girl and which school she goes to.
 
Visage said:
Have a word with the school?
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I was thinking that but my daughter will not point her out to me so I don't know how else i would do it, as my daughter says she dose not want to upset her friend. I know misguided loyalty and all that but she is stubborn.
 
HITMAN_LEON said:
I was thinking that but my daughter will not point her out to me so I don't know how else i would do it, as my daughter says she dose not want to upset her friend. I know misguided loyalty and all that but she is stubborn.
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Then you need to have a calm word with your daughter. If she didn't want to share it, she wouldn't have said it to you in the first place and explaining the situation more fully to her might convince her to give you the information you need.
 
I would get in touch with the headteacher and tell them what you know, including the fact that your daughter wont tell you who it is. They might be able to arrange something between the three of you to try to get to the bottom of it.
 
I'm assuming your daughter has at least told you the girls first name? If so then go to the school and tell them. They should be able to work out which girl it is and will have a surname/address on file which they can take to the police.
 
platypus said:
Help is so urgently needed, you've waited a day to..post a thread about it on OcUK forum.
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Its not like that, her friend only said her dad hit her now and then yesterday so she needed the childline number. Today it took on a whole new look for the worse and I posted as soon as I knew while im sat thinking what to do. im not ignorant i would not have left it on purpose had I known yestrday what I have just been told. And its not like anything like this happens everyday, how would you react, you don't know because its not in your lap like it is mine.
 
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HITMAN_LEON said:
My daughter came home yesterday and asked me to get the childline number for her friend. her friend from school told her that her has been hitting her and her mum and wanted my daughter to get the childline number for her.
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Why the hell doesn’t her mum just call the police herself? And tbh I can't imagin the child line number is partiularly hard to find, why do they need your help? Obviously don't brush the problem under the carpet, but I'd take what the child is saying with caution. I wouldn't go round accusing people of things until at leased you or someone from the school has had a chance to speak to the mother and child first. How old is your daughter and the other girl?
 
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cleanbluesky said:
Then you need to have a calm word with your daughter. If she didn't want to share it, she wouldn't have said it to you in the first place and explaining the situation more fully to her might convince her to give you the information you need.
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You may have trouble getting the address from the school, because of privacy and data protection.

On the other hand, they'll want to help, so go to speak to the headmaster, and perhaps they can call the girl in to the office one day, and get her to tell them the story.

If it's apparent that she isn't lying, the school could easily setup a meeting with a counselor and/or inform the police of the situation.

Either way, it's not a position I'd like to be in personally, but I wouldn't leave it go, not if the girl has already contemplated suicide.
 
platypus said:
Help is so urgently needed, you've waited a day to..post a thread about it on OcUK forum.
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Don't insult a guy for trying to do the right thing, he's come here for advise, not to be ridiculed for doing so.

I say tell the school, make the teachers aware and to keep an eye on your daughter, then through a process of elimination they'll find out who the little girl is and will be able to act upon it.

Or you could force the issue and try to get her to tell you, spin a few white lies and see if she'll tell you. Not the best option, but its still an option.

Do you know any of her other friends? If you do, maybe you could take them aside or call them up and ask them if they know who she is?

The sick thing is, how far has this dad gone? Is bruising the extent or is there more you just don't know about.

Good luck, but don't attack him, you'll make the situation worse and only get your self in trouble.
 
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