i think dreamlinux is worth a shot tbh, it runs XFCE but looks really sweet. I haven't tried it on a laptop so unsure about wireless support in dreamlinux, I guess google will be your friend there!
erm, I would start investigating either installing XFCE/openbox or fluxbox desktop environments in ubuntu or checking distrowatch for a distro that uses one of those desktop environments.
VENT - when you boot the livecd of ubuntu look for text at the bottom that will say something like press F6 for more boot options or graphics options. may help, I havent usewd ubuntu for ages so my memory is a little hazy.
EDIT - I tried DSL but found it weird too