What to do (Friends problem)

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Seemingly I have the worst friends in the world, but what do I do after this situation?

Friend 1 - Sober and driving
Friend 2 - Sober and driving
Friend 3 - 4 pints and used to be closest friend in the world
Friend 4 - 4 pints and a bit of a joker

I was out earlier and everything was going fine until about 11pm when I popped off to the toilet. My friends and I were sitting in the beer garden and they obviously didn't realise that when you were in the cubicle you could hear whatever was said in the beer garden as clear as day.

Anyway I was in the john and heard my name mentioned followed by ' I love freaks, they are so funny' said by friend 4. This was swiftly followed by lots of hateful comments by friend 2 (who I used to be quite close to). I could then hear the distinctive laughs of friends 1 and 3. The comments made were quite close to the bone so I left the pub without saying goodbye.

About 20 minutes later after explaining what I heard I received an apology in a text message from friend 4, and apologies from friend 3 + 1 in person (as I needed to give friend 3 his keys back).

What do I do in this situation, especially with the sober guy who was just being nasty and has said nothing?
 
Get over it

Or a brawl, always solves issues between friends

Seriously it works for us
 
Thats the challenge :)

Seriously though just forget about it if they apologised, whenever someone tries laying into me i laugh it off or return the fire

Meh
 
It's easy to forget if they are making fun when you can hear, as its just a form of taking the mickey. But if they are being seriously mean because they think you can't hear its a whole different ball game.
 
Simply learn from it and move on.

Friend 2 seems like a boob, so kick him/her into touch. The fact 1+3 were intoxicated might have influenced them to join in with 2, so they could be forgiven.

I'd ditch them all to be honest, but then I'm the type of person to not get close enough to have "best" friends because I believe they'll stab me in the back sooner or later.
 
I agree but when it applies to me i wil confront them and sort it out, if they have a problem they have a problem

If they dont have the balls to say what they said while you were away then its rather low of em..
 
Your a scape goat. Time to move on, unless you feel that they deserve another chance.
I dont think being drunk should have any bearing on weather they should be forgiven. I wouldnt do that to my mates, we stick up for each other and if we take the **** we do it right in front of each other.
 
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I'd ditch them all to be honest, but then I'm the type of person to not get close enough to have "best" friends because I believe they'll stab me in the back sooner or later.
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I never really did best mates but over the last year i havn't seen much of my high school homies and stuck close to about 10 mates

We're always rippin each other apart, avin a laugh and brawling

:D
 
Its hurtful because when Friend 3 lost his brother I was the person he called to come and look after him, and I spent a year helping him work through that and instead of defending me he just laughed.

Friend 1 also begged me to come at live with him this time last year, but I couldn't for financial reasons. So we were all fairly close.
 
If your close then brush it off m8, i've been there - It all turns out good in the end :)
 
Get rid of friend 2 - if the comments were that bad tell him to take a running jump, you don't need him. Catch him with a rusty bear trap, give him 30 mins on spin cycle at 40C, and nuke his ovaries with firey orbits.

You're not clear what friend 4 did either - was the freak comment aimed at you? If not, I don't get what the problem with him/her is?

And as for the other two, well, if they're genuinely sorry then i'd forgive and forget - after all they may not have agreed but just laughed along to save face.
 
Get rid of the lot. I would expect each of my friends to defend me, not **** me off. At the end of the day they either aren't true friends, or they're not decent people. Either way **** them off :).
 
M0T said:
Seemingly I have the worst friends in the world, but what do I do after this situation?

Friend 1 - Sober and driving
Friend 2 - Sober and driving
Friend 3 - 4 pints and used to be closest friend in the world
Friend 4 - 4 pints and a bit of a joker

I was out earlier and everything was going fine until about 11pm when I popped off to the toilet. My friends and I were sitting in the beer garden and they obviously didn't realise that when you were in the cubicle you could hear whatever was said in the beer garden as clear as day.

Anyway I was in the john and heard my name mentioned followed by ' I love freaks, they are so funny' said by friend 4. This was swiftly followed by lots of hateful comments by friend 2 (who I used to be quite close to). I could then hear the distinctive laughs of friends 1 and 3. The comments made were quite close to the bone so I left the pub without saying goodbye.

About 20 minutes later after explaining what I heard I received an apology in a text message from friend 4, and apologies from friend 3 + 1 in person (as I needed to give friend 3 his keys back).

What do I do in this situation, especially with the sober guy who was just being nasty and has said nothing?
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I don't get it what did he say about you?:confused:
 
I'd say have a fight with them. I've had quite a few brawls with my closest mates, and it cleard the air no end. We are still best mates though, and over the past year or so, we haven't have a bad word to say about each other, we are closer than ever to be honest lol.
 
Erm, I'm thinking... you're in the john, means you're at a party and have to dook one out. That alone is enough to get people to have a play. You're lucky they didn't crash the door in on you. ;)

Now, question is, what is it you've done that they'd consider you a freak?
 
Friends will always let you down in the end. Forget about them, obviously they aren't the people you thought they were. Put it down to experience and move on.
 
I was only barely listening at the begining because I didn't realise they were talking about me.

They were insulting someone and I was thinking that it was a bit harsh. Then one of them said that the only reason they invited them out was so that they had someone to laugh at, which prompted the loving freaks comment.

This was followed by friend 2 recounting when I was drunk one time 4 years ago (I was talking rubbish for several hours, total babble), followed by comments about how he was glad I didn't move in with him because he didn't like me very much.

This went on for a few minutes whilst I debated going out to sort them out, instead I decided to go home.
 
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