iBot said:
So do you think I should break off all contact? It's not something I really want to do though, I like her company I'm just not too comfortable with how much time she spends at mine.
Assuming the girl is underage, doing that could trigger exactly the consequences we're warning about.
Personally, I can't see a better option than approaching the parents about this .... though that has its risks too. If you do it, it'll all come out and, rather than be dropped in the poop herself, she may try to drop you in it. It then comes down to who gets believed. Or, of course, it may not.
But teenage girls sometimes feel very flattered by attention from an older bloke. They see it as some kind of confirmation of their own maturity and appeal and, as I said earlier, aren't always entirely rational or in control of their emotions. Gawd knows it's hard enough when you're older, more mature and not so hormone-controlled. So, she could well see "breaking all contact" as a very personal rejection, and react accordingly.
One option might be to talk to her about all this, and explain that you're worried about all this could appear. She may see the point ..... or you may give her ideas that wouldn't otherwise have occurred to her.
I can't see any course of action guaranteed to extricate yourself from this. Whatever you do, it could turn messy. All you can do is decide the best course, cross your fingers and get on with it. I would just strongly advocate NOT doing nothing. Don't just let things drift, because they're unlikely to improve and the complications will probably grow. Suppose she tries to take this a step or two too far? You either end up breaking the law, or risk her feeling very rejected if you don't. You're playing with dynamite, and it could all too easily blow up in your face.
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great sig though Penski - haven't had the opportunity to comment til now...
