What would you do?

NitrogenY3K · 15 Mar 2009 at 19:41

Yes i know another woman thread :eek:

I have been with my current gf for 1.5years now, but as of late we have been going through a bad patch and I have finished with her a couple of times, but gone back as i feel terrible and try and see if my feelings can change and it can work (i dont love her). I just feel so terrible when i have finished with her and i hate seeing her upset. (shes been through a lot)
We have been on a break once and i met a really great girl with no baggage (my current gf has a child, not mine) and she is such a nice person and we get on really well. I see her quite often as i work in the same place as her, she even brings me food into work for me, and i just feel that i can have a great time being with her

I recently split with my gf but again got back because of the obove reasons, i am so indicisive its unbelivable and I dont want to string my gf along as its not fair on her, but i know ive made her unhappy for a while now but im finding it hard to finish it and leave it finished because i feel so terrible.
I think its just a familiar thing because its routine and its been the same for 1.5 years and its hard to break routine, and thats why im finding it hard to finish her.

Any opinions on what i should do? Do i finish with her and take a chance with the other girl or make 1 last effort with my gf and then finish it knowing i have tried?
Im stressed ha

gumbald · 15 Mar 2009 at 19:42

Sounds like you've made your decision...

Gilly · 15 Mar 2009 at 19:42

It's a bit harsh calling her child baggage when you've been with her that long.

If you don't like her you make it worse going back.

Aero · 15 Mar 2009 at 19:44

I think you answered you own question there to be honest. You don't love her. Do her and yourself a favour and break up. It might not be easy and quite upsetting but its probably better in the long run for both of you, who wants to be in a relationship with no love?

As for the girl at work thing just think about how awkward it could be if you split up with her?

Just my opinion and thoughts of course...

Aero

EDIT: I also agree about the baggage thing, not appropriate imho.

^TANK^ · 15 Mar 2009 at 20:21

You've answered your own question, you don't love her so leave her so she can find someone who will love her!

SwishSpencor · 15 Mar 2009 at 20:26

If you went back to her again it would be wrong for yourself, her and the child.

If you cared you'd leave her letting her know its for the best.

pingwing · 15 Mar 2009 at 20:30

To quote iron maiden "RUN TO THE HILLS"

Urm so have you got this new girls number? Then we can alos have something along the lines of a number of the beast quote...

Anyway, if you dont love her and see the child as baggage you should do your self a favour and leave it. She might be unhappy now but staying together will probably make you VERY unhappy later on and well thats just bad.

NitrogenY3K · 16 Mar 2009 at 13:32

pingwing said:
To quote iron maiden "RUN TO THE HILLS"

Urm so have you got this new girls number? Then we can alos have something along the lines of a number of the beast quote...

Anyway, if you dont love her and see the child as baggage you should do your self a favour and leave it. She might be unhappy now but staying together will probably make you VERY unhappy later on and well thats just bad.

Thanks for al the replies, well baggage is a bit of a harsh word as i got with her knowing she had a child. I dont get on with the child at all and find it hard to talk to children/

Yeh I do have this new girls number, and shes very keen and she is a lovely girl.

I think i am making my current girlfriend and happy ebcasue ive told her (as nicely as i could) that i dont love her, and this has played on her mind for months and i think its bringing her down as well, and i dont want her to be unhappy at all. She deserves the best.

Converge · 16 Mar 2009 at 13:36

NitrogenY3K said:
(i dont love her)

Bit of a no brainer there chief. Finish with her, its fairer on her.

Mull3t · 16 Mar 2009 at 13:52

NitrogenY3K said:
...and thats why im finding it hard to finish her.

IMO Liu Kang..

LordSplodge · 16 Mar 2009 at 13:59

Ffs grow a spine and leave your current girl. After all you don't love her.

Oh and great attitude calling a child "baggage" :rolleyes:

NitrogenY3K · 16 Mar 2009 at 14:10

LordSplodge said:
Ffs grow a spine and leave your current girl. After all you don't love her.

Oh and great attitude calling a child "baggage"

That was a bit harsh I know, wrong choice of words I think.

ScarySquirrel · 16 Mar 2009 at 14:21

Why is everyone jumping down his throat for saying she had baggage? IMO it IS baggage, in the sense that it is something (or in this case, someone) from a past relationship.

[TW]Fox · 16 Mar 2009 at 14:24

LordSplodge said:
Oh and great attitude calling a child "baggage"

Not really. Some people don't like the idea of having a constant noisy reminder of who else their girlfriend has had before them.

4T5 · 16 Mar 2009 at 14:26

Have you rode the new one yet ?
I'd start riding the new one to see if she is worth the Trade in or not. You should never trade in without a test drive, Everybody knows that.

V4NT0M · 16 Mar 2009 at 14:27

Stop going back, you're making it worse on both of you especially because you don't love her.

NitrogenY3K · 16 Mar 2009 at 14:41

Skyfall said:
Stop going back, you're making it worse on both of you especially because you don't love her.

Yeh your right there, i dont love her but when i finish her i just feel i need to look after her as shes had a hard life. I just feel like a horrible person.
But i do need to finish it once and for all so at least she can move on, its not fair on her knowing i feel like i do.

V4NT0M · 16 Mar 2009 at 14:43

NitrogenY3K said:
Yeh your right there, i dont love her but when i finish her i just feel i need to look after her as shes had a hard life. I just feel like a horrible person.
But i do need to finish it once and for all so at least she can move on, its not fair on her knowing i feel like i do.

I hate to sound trite but man up, people can take care of themselves.