What would you do?

LOL.

You have all the negatives of being in a relationship without any pasty smashing.

End the friendship/move on - the situation you are in will never end well
 
Tell her if she's going to keep treating you like **** then you're going to stop the friendship.

If she knows that you like her then she'll know that no matter how much **** she throws your way, you'll stay there.
 
[TW]Fox;20837528 said:
You fancy her. She doesn't fancy you. This is what happens as a result. You get worked up because of it.
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Have you read the whole thread or just the op?
 
She isn't very nice and then she gets angry when you don't answer your phone like she is your girlfriend or something?

Either have a stern word or ignore her. It's not fair on you but she expects you to be a backup plan when all else fails.
 
[TW]Fox;20837528 said:
You fancy her. She doesn't fancy you. This is what happens as a result. You get worked up because of it.
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Shayper said:
Have you read the whole thread or just the op?
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It's obvious you do. :p


Just don't be there, simples. She texts you or rings your just say you're busy or can't come see her.


p.s. your sig is too big!
 
[TW]Fox;20837615 said:
Whole thread. You are just in denial :p
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YDlWP



Skidder said:
I always thought the OP was a bloke. More chicks on OcUK than I ever guessed.
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That's a point, are you sure she doesn't take you as a girlfriend given the amount of lippy you wear Shayper. :p
 
Shayper said:
Ok, this is a bit of a rant post.

Quite frankly, I'm fed up with one of my best friends. She split up with a guy recently, and I've helped her through not only that but pretty much every shut thing that's happened to her recently. I'm probably. The only one who has been there for her, been the one she can cry down the phone too, and looked after her when she has been recently upset.

Recently, she has been treating me like absolute ****. Every time we are on a night out she constantly takes the ****, purposefully gets with people in front of me (she knows I like her, and holds it over me). Every time she gets with some ******, then cries to me the next day. And every time that I tell her to stop getting with such ****holes she then has a go at me. Nothing I can say seems to work. And then when she tries to come crying when I'm fed up, and I don't answer my phone because I'm busy with something she has a go at me.

So, GD, what would you do in this situation? I'm thinking about calling her up tomorrow and explaining just how ****ed off I am with her, and telling her that if she is not going to appreciate just how good a friend I am to her, then she can go **** off.

Sorry about the level of vitriol in this post, but I needed to rant somewhere before I rant to her, and need some advice on just what to say.

Thanks guys.
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So reading between the lines, you're in love with her, but she's not interested. For your own sanity walk away, or she'll keep using you.
 
Shayper said:
And magnolia you are going to be overjoyed but I am going to play the Asbergers card. I have been officially statemented with it, and although it doesn't affect me anywhere near as much as it used to, I still have some issues socially, which makes it hard for me to deal with these sort of issues.
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I don't think I've ever said a bad word about someone who hasn't self-diagnosed their Aspergers. I know this thread isn't about that but I wanted to clear it up.

Regarding still finding her attractive, I was waiting for someone to say you're in denial to see your response. I think you need to be honest with yourself and admit that it's a factor whether conscious or not. The bottom line is that you're putting a lot of effort into this friendship and not getting much back. Don't continue to be her enabler. There are lots of friendly people in the world who won't treat you like crap and although it's not really her fault for being young and stupid why put yourself through the hassle?

Sometimes things just don't work out. That's just how life goes. Go be awesome with other people who like and respect you :)
 
Shayper said:
. I'm not really that great with social issues like this, due to Asbergers,
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our son has Aspergers.

she is using you,

you just cannot understand it

you probably find it hard to understand normal people doing normal things.

tell her fancy her and does she fancy going out on a date.

if she says yes thats all good....

if she says no just don't speak to her ever again.

you have to be careful not to hang round with weirdo's (like our son seems to keep doing because he cannot see that they are weired)
 
Ahh, you got stuck in the friend zone as they call it.

If she's purposefully going out with other guys and rubbing it in your face, she's either a right tard, or wants YOU to actually tell her how you feel.

Either tell her to sod off, or tell her how you feel EXACTLY, and let her decide. If she's going to treat you like crap dude there really is no point in sticking around.
 
Thanks for the replies guys. :)

I have read every one, and the consensus seems to be that I should just stop being friends, however I have said that this isn't as easily said as it is done, due to the mutual friend problem.

However I can guarantee that I am not in love with her. At one point, yes, but that was a while back. I don't feel that way towards her at all anymore. I find her attractive, yes, but that goes for quite a few girls; I don't necessarily fall in love with every girl I meet. I'm not in denial over this, just annoyed with the way she has been treating me as a friend, which I consider to be out of order.

However, it is likely that after this phone call we won't be on the best terms anyway, as I am prepared this time, thanks to you guys, to tell her exactly how I feel. And it will be a massive wake up call for her, even if she doesnt realise it. She considers me to be among her best mates, and if she loses that it will be a huge shock to her, hopefully enough to realise that she is being quite a large *** at the moment.

If not, then her loss. I won't be the last friend she loses if she keeps on this way.

As I said, thanks a lot guys for the advice :)
 
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