What would you do?

Friend in Norwich? She sounds easy? Is she fit?

Sounds like I should have taken up that offer to go out with you ;) :p

No the mrs. Would leave me infertile....


Tell her how you feel but try to do it in a calmer more relaxed way.

Edit: realised my above advice is useless -.- you talked to her without asking for my advice.... HOW COULD YOU!?

For the record I certainly think telling her was the best idea and took balls.

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I'd say you've gone about this in the right way.

Anyway, on to more important matters... so is OP a girl or not??

Ah haa!! Pink sig - gir... no wait - sometimes it's blue... can't tell :(

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The fact is she is taking you for a ride time and time again but because you want to give her one you let her treat you this way as she knows she can get away with it and you are clinging on for dear life hoping she will one day give you something nice back in return which she wont as to her you are just a doormat.
 
You sound like a bundle of laughs.

My comments in this thread are a lot funnier than yours ;)

& frankly you could read between the lines for my advice, but to spell it out, don't concern yourself with this irrelevant, emotional rubbish, it will be old news and uninteresting, even to you, in a couple of weeks. Seek friendships which are mutually beneficial and rewarding and don't require significant management. There, am I doing it right now?
 
Ah, I remember the good days when I had platonic relationships with woman. I always seemed to either end up in bed with them or our friendships fizzled out. I would tell her she needs a female best friend that she can call when she is **** on by a man and that you are not the right person to call because

1) You have aspergers which makes it difficult to understand her relationship problems with men.
2) You are a man which makes it difficult to understand her relationship problems with men.

I don't know what age you or Erika are but if you are both young then i will say that life is a subject you can only learn by living. Sooner or later you will realise that you don't want 'sort of a relationship' but you want a 'real relationship' and this will come with falling in love with someone. When you are in a 'real relationship' then your girlfriend will not let this 'other woman' have any hold on you at all so if the woman you are 'sort of in a relationship' with is the right one then make it a 'real relationship' if not end it and find someone you can have a real relionship with.
 
I think Shayper done the right thing here...acted like a mature adult about things and thankfully ignored some of the poor advice in this thread. He obviously thinks enough of this lass to try and fix things...and that's what mates do. They don't ditch them, tell them to 'do one' and just disappear off the radar.

However, don't put up with being treated like crap dude..no matter if it's a female, or male, friend. There could be a 100 reasons for them being crappy. You've had it out with her now - see if it improves.
 
Meh, I don't know.

I've never had to 'work things out' with friendships or give any ultimatums because generally being friends with someone is a 'non-issue' thing. By that, I mean if you are good friends you will constantly hang out and if you grate on each other you see each other less or just pay less attention. There doesn't really need to be a dialogue about how you should treat each other unless there are two circumstances:

1) You live with them and it's unavoidable
2) The immature / inevitable reasoning that there is sexual attraction of some sort that makes things irk you that really shouldn't

I'm plumping with number 2. Don't worry, I've been there as well! :p

The 'mature' thing to do would be to not make such a big deal out of it and just pay her less attention, in my book.
 
Thanks again for the responses guys :)

And who on earth thought I was a woman? Yeah, I know I have rather red lips, but apart from that I have no idea where you are coming from :D
 
Sounds too much like friendzone to me bud. Better luck next time.

Remember to make your best mates guy mates, because you know you'll never want to have intercourse with them and thus avoid such awkward situations.
 
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