When to have children?

anytime from now would suite me fine :) (it would require a missus and sex, if anyone wants to volunteer...:p).

i'm really good with kids (and have been for quite a while), seem to get on well with them (maybe because i can stoop to their level of maturity :D) and i'm pretty good at looking after them.

i can't honestly think of anything more worthwhile than helping bring another person up well
 
Im 27 and have a 4 month year old daughter. There is no best time for kids as there are always pros and cons. Just make sure that your in a relationship that can take a beating and survive. Kids are hard work!
 
Just transplanting what I posted in the "Do kids bother you?" thread:

I can see the merit in having kids really young, then finding yourself at age 40, free, and then able to enjoy the rest of your life at an age where you'll (hopefully) be financially better off, more confident and with more than enough time to educate yourself/re-train and find yourself something fun to do in life.

But, that sort of plan's too late for me. I've not yet found my man and even if I did find him right now, I can't see kids being any closer than at least 5 years away, putting me at 29. I'll be pushing 50 by the time I am 'free'.

So I'm having all the fun I can now - good holidays, raucous weekends, expensive and time-consuming hobbies...

As Kelly/Jesmond was saying, it rather /depends/ doesn't it? Then we have our biological clocks to think about... Mum had me pretty late, at 35, dad was 40. I can see them getting old now (both are now only-just-pensioners), but I'm 24, independent, and them being older never affected me adversely, I had a good childhood :)
 
First I want to be married with my own house and financially stable enough to consider it. I think at this point in time I am too selfish with my money, which I need to grow out of.

Hopefully by my early 30's.
 
Gimpymoo said:
THAT HURT MY HEAD.
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Sorry. Its a bit like "o'clock", why do people say its 5 o'clock. When is it ever not "something" o'clock. Just used to saying "something" year old.

EDIT - my response is evidence that I need an early night tonight if I can get it...
 
dannyjo22 said:
Now I'm nearly 34 I feel I've missed the boat. I've left it too long. Even though my wife wanted them from when we were 21 I kept putting her off with just about every trick in book.

If I could have my time again I would have them in my early 20's. Now i'm older I realise the things I thought mattered in life don't actually and I wasted my 20's being a selfish dick.
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FFS your not even that old. Most of my colleges (whom may I add most are old enough to be my parents) had theirs in their late 30s early 40s. You my friend have time to spare. Now. Go home, with bouquet of flowers, start making a nice romantic dinner with candles (not out candles us some meat and sauce or something) run a nice deep bath with smellies and candles. Put on some romantic music and put your woman in the mood for ***. Forget to put on the penis protector and your on your way to makin' babies.


Oh and the trashed house thing. You'll very quickly get over it. Every scuff will have a memory attached to it, every scrape a story. A house is only a home after your children have put their input into it.

What your really afraid of is being the 3rd best gamer in your house... Aren't you.


Oh and for those curious. I had my first at 24 and I have never ever been happier. I was absolutely bricking myself when I got the call from Miss K saying "I think we need a pregnancy test" . But as soon as she said. "Positive" I could not stop smiling.
Since he was born even if I had the worst day at work, just coming home to see him has made everything seem all right and completely worth it. To hear about the new things he has done, to see the drawings, and the mess, to hear about his adventures. I wouldn't give up having him for the world.

I think the right time to have children is when you are with the right person, and have been with the right person through thick and thin so you know they won't leave you when things get tough.
 
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Personally I think the ideal age is late twenty to early thirty's, ideally when your financially secure with your own place and a girl you have been with for a long time. This age because you are most likely to have started to find your way in life, you would have had time to travel and have some fun with your partner and your going to be at a good age to have fun with your kids and be wise enough to be a good parent to them as they hit teens etc.

Never happens quite that way though... most important thing is knowing the person your going to have the kid with really really well because one way or another your going to be linked to them for the rest of your life, marriages, relationships and love come and go but kids are yours forever !
 
Me and the missus are going to have one as soon as we're financially ready, but that'll be a long time from now, need a house first, no chance we'd have one in our flat

Id say we're looking to be about 25 by the time we have one, until then its lots........and lots of practice ;)
 
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