Whose baby is it ?

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A girl that my girlfriend works with has recently announced that she is 7 months pregnant :confused:. She lives with her fiancé just around the corner from where she works. For a few months last summer she made no effort in hiding the fact that she was also 'seeing' a bloke from work. They were seen kissing at work and used to regularly get in his car and go to her house at lunch times! She lives literally 30 seconds from work and they get an hour for lunch. Further to this, people she works with have managed to uncover and print a pile of e-mails proving that she was also having a full sexual relationship with a SECOND colleague at the same time, also visiting her house at lunch times. These e-mails describe sexually, what they did in her bed and what they will do next time. Her fiancé works about 40 miles out of the area so no chance of him turning up unannounced. Now I or anyone else can't really see how she could know which one of these 3 men is the father of the baby.

Now, I don't know any of these people, but as a man I just feel that someone should tell her fiancé of all of this. I have even offered, quite passively, to drive round and post these e-mails through their door. If 'caught', I would even stop and chat to the fiancé about what I have learnt. I think being conned into thinking you're the father of a child is about as sick as it gets. Imagine introducing a baby to your parents as their grand-child that isn't even yours, all because of a girl putting it about? She seems more than willing to let her fiancé foot the bill of the baby and support her to be off work for the next few months.

What is everyones view on this ? If it was simply a case of telling of someone having sex then I would stay out but this more than that.
 
I'd be tempted to confront him or at least post him the emails. Of course the baby could be his but I would like to be warned if I was being cheated on. You friends with the guy? I'm assuming no.
What does your girlfriend think?
 
I think the just thing to do would be to let him know, but anonymously I guess. If they find it's you, your life could end up equally miserable if they are unsavoury characters, which it seems like anyway. A letter with the printed emails explaining it should be enough that the fiance doesn't have more questions for you but enough to confront the fiancee himself.
 
It is hard to say. On one hand you could be saving some poor guy the trauma of finding out a child is not his but on the other you could be distancing a father from the mother of a child and/or ruining a perfectly good relationship (if they get on well).

I personally would tell him though.
 
tell him! he has the right to know she is a ****! and the odds are it isnt his child! i would want to know and im sure you would aswell.

print the address and his name on the envelope so she doesnt intercept them though
 
Why even get involved? It's got absolutely nothing at all to do with you what anyone else decides to do with their life.
 
Azagoth said:
Why even get involved? It's got absolutely nothing at all to do with you what anyone else decides to do with their life.
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i hope someone gives the same advice when its your partner cheating on you with multiple blokes and you get some nice STD's , maybe even aids and a baby that isnt yours.
 
Those kinds of stories can be common among my collleagues too, with sometimes witnessing people make complete muppets of one another. Best thing is to just stay aside and "enjoy the show" as much as possible(dont forget the popcorn!).
 
Who gives a **** if it's none of your business?! I know for a fact if I was her fiance I would wanna know asap, regardless who tells me. What difference does it make if you tell him, he's still gonna react the same. The dude needs to know before he marrys this ****-whore-sket.
 
pitcl said:
Who gives a **** if it's none of your business?! I know for a fact if I was her fiance I would wanna know asap, regardless who tells me. What difference does it make if you tell him, he's still gonna react the same. The dude needs to know before he marrys this ****-whore-sket.
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for example, her fiance might kill her when he finds out.

how would you feel if you told him and thats what happened?
 
Before you start meddling in someone else's business, have you ever stopped to consider that the guy already knows about her actions and is perfectly OK with it. Not everyone conforms to your stereotypical view of a monogamous relationship, perhaps he enjoys the fact that his girl is seeing other men. Who knows, she may even video it for them to watch together at a later date. I once dated a girl who was bi-sexual and had a girlfriend 'on the go' at the same time as seeing me. It didn't bother me in the slightest, perhaps this guy is the same.

Like I said above, it's got nowt at all to do with you or anyone else what someone does in their private life.
 
Tell him. It's none of your business, but I'd personally definitely want to know. Ergo you should tell him somehow. IMO.
 
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