why did he do it?

[xirokx]

Hi,

I'm 27 and for the past few months Ive had a number of days of sick since starting a new job...

It all came to boiling point this morning after a crap night and suddenly having caught the flu after 6 weeks of going into work (apart from the beginning of this week) i thought SOD this Im gonna quit because I feel so ashamed and poorly about having to take so much time off...

I spoke to my M.D. he told me not to worry and why was I even worried..

He said Im sure you didnt ask for the FLU you just have bad luck etc...

Told me to return to work when I get better..

I was telling him Ive had enough, Im so ashamed , Im all over the place because this is not like me, Im not a "sicknote" etc etc and that its not fair on them / his company...

he reassured me not to worry and that there was no problem his end, he even told me to change my DR cuz my current one sounds awful....

WHY WOULD HE DO THIS? or am i just a sketcy skeptical individual who is being ungrateful for what he said..I am having trouble understanding this so please help...

P.S. I would like to add I dont get paid for not going in...they dont do sick pay etc..

 

[xirokx]

You're not costing the company any money when you're not there and, when you are there, he obviously thinks your good and wants to keep hold of you.

WOW

BINGO!!!

NOW WHY DOES MY BRAIN HAVE TROUBLE ABOUT DIGESTING THIS??? raaaaaaaaaaaar

 

[xirokx]

its just that when I was supposed to start I had the cough from hell which I still have that delayed my start date for 3 weeks...

Then I worked 6 weeks constant, no messing around and now this...

I was calling in to RESIGN coz I felt like such a "sicknote" but he totally convinced me against it before I even suggested it...

Am I that lucky to have an understanding, kind, compassionate guvnor?

I just dont get it

 

[xirokx]

perhaps i am paranoid but when your stuck in a rut its hard to see why this company keeps you when they could so easily tell you to get on yer bike...

i just dont get it...

 

[xirokx]

my god, don't be such a wet tissue

its a new job , its easy for him to tell me where to go, what i dont understand is that why doesnt he?

in previous jobs thats precisely what I have seen, therefore mentally I am seeking that ulterior motive..

 

[xirokx]

ive had a few different jobs this year purely because the management were a joke....

which I guess has obvisiously left a mark in some shape n form so when you do genuinely get a GOOD BOSS "yes there are loads out there" you begin to question their motives etc etc..

Yes I have had bosses earlier on in the year who practically would drive you out of work in some way or other given the chance if you "geniunely had a cold or had a genuine
reason not to attend work" because they heavily relied upon you...not immediately but after a while they would incuiate things and make your life terrible fortuantely I never learnt this first hand but saw how others were treated incase of a death in their family or continued sickness etc etc..

I guess this is where my insecurity and paranoia stems from..

I wish I never had these experiences and came across fun, friendly and compassionate bosses which would enable me to keep my kahunas intact and would not make me doubt their kind gestures which in turn would stop me from becoming a SISSY but hey I guess I must be one of a kind to be influenced in such a way by such experiences..

How could I be so WORTHY and paranoid especially after having experienced such dictators who couldnt control strawberries on their cornflakes, im 27 I should be superman,

SHOULD I EVEN GET THE FLU or HAVE TO TAKE TIME OFF....

geez

 

[xirokx]

When I was off sick for a over a week, my boss convinced me to come in to talk things through instead of resigning as 'it isn't as bad as you're making out.'

I went in and got fired

in the words of the maestro ahem ( */&* ) - K.JACKO


"Sissy!
you are not a child who is institutionalised into thinking that you are worthless! Yet you cannot rationalise your boss's way of thinking?!
Your attitude indeed proves that you ARE lucky to have a boss like this, because having an employee who has no self-worth is not a quality i'd look for in one of my staff!"

Yes you read it correctly

not a quality i'd look for in one of my staff

this person actually employs people...

 

[xirokx]

k jacko, points noted BUT I feel again you lack basic understanding of how a person feels when they have been or are ill..

There are so many other things that need to be taken into consideration prior to summarising in the aggressive manner you choose to proceed in... Infact not only is it rude but it really portrays at how much of a naive individual you are and that everything in your eyes is either not black or white....for example if you had of responded to someone in the pub in that manner you wouldnt be standing for long...

Now to iron out the finer points...

Although my M.D. was sympatethic he never has given me feed back during the 6 weeks I have worked for him, prior to me starting my new role I delayed the start date by a few weeks because I was ill then aswell. Amongst so many other things your "black n white" mind doesnt have the ability to comprehend as a human being especially when one is is ILL , one begins to lose faith and confidence and starts to read too much into things because of lack of feedback from managers and directors so its not a clear cut case..therefore as I had the time and couldnt see things clearly I chose to use the forum as so many people do..

In the future I would appreciate it if you keep your schoolboy advise to yourself and dont even bother to take the time to respond to my threads as I feel you have nothing of any importance to say to me and even if you did I rather not hear it...

P.S. As for believing in ones self - there is a fine line between arrogance and self confidence..

P.P.S thanks to all the people who have responded and cured me from my paranoia and lack of self confidence during this horrid time...just got back from DR'S Ive got tonsillitus grrrrrrrrrrrrrr