Wife's manager being a complete chuffer

Raymond, her son has a cleft palet, she wants to be involved in the process of trying to repair it. As a parent, they have my sympathy and some day if you're a father I guarantee that you'd look at it differently.

Exactly, look at it from a father's point of view.

Her boss isn't the father is he. He has a business to run. I am looking at this objectively.

I want to be compassionate but in this case I am on the other side.
 
Exactly, look at it from a father's point of view.

Her boss isn't the father is he. He has a business to run. I am looking at this objectively.

I want to be compassionate but in this case I am on the other side.

But even as a boss you must expect to hire a human and humans generally have families. I work for one of the biggest companies in the world and they accept that family comes first. Maybe a small company can't afford this luxury but if 4 weeks notice massively impacts a catering business then the long term prospects of that company don't look great anyhow and I'd want out.
 
Exactly, look at it from a father's point of view.

Her boss isn't the father is he. He has a business to run. I am looking at this objectively.

I want to be compassionate but in this case I am on the other side.

Of course he has a business to run, but what part of that means he can't try and accommodate a reasonable request from one of his staff? No point in having an unhappy work force when trying to run a good business.
 
Just had a txt from her

Muppet has said no to a shift swap wife's raging if I wasn't wearing my sensible trousers I'd be going down for a word

Going to advise wifey to state in writing she will not be available for work that day and cc HR in on it
 
Just had a txt from her

Muppet has said no to a shift swap wife's raging if I wasn't wearing my sensible trousers I'd be going down for a word

Going to advise wifey to state in writing she will not be available for work that day and cc HR in on it

That's just being a ****. If there is a HR department then submit an parental leave request which can't be refused.
 
Sorry, I was under the impression it was a small business - is it a large business? If it is then going above the bosses head will work, but it'll make him look bad and might cause him to pick on your wife.

In that case I'd make him aware that a parental day could be taken, and that he needs to be reasonable, otherwise you'll have to put it in writing to HR. That way might do less damage to the working relationship - although by the sounds of things he makes no effort to create one.

Edit : You've just put more clarity on the manager. Write to HR. Stuff him :)
 
But even as a boss you must expect to hire a human and humans generally have families. I work for one of the biggest companies in the world and they accept that family comes first. Maybe a small company can't afford this luxury but if 4 weeks notice massively impacts a catering business then the long term prospects of that company don't look great anyhow and I'd want out.

I understand the need. Show compassion, it would create better relation on both the employer and employee. Sure, if I am her boss and if I can find cover or can do without her for 1 day then I would let her go. However, if I can't do without her and she is legally contracted to work then I am sorry.

The size of the company has no relevance in the matter. The law doesn't say over a staff of X means you can take any day off you want.
 
I understand the need. Show compassion, it would create better relation on both the employer and employee. Sure, if I am her boss and if I can find cover or can do without her for 1 day then I would let her go. However, if I can't do without her and she is legally contracted to work then I am sorry.

The size of the company has no relevance in the matter.

With a months notice if you couldn't manage without her then you'd be an inordinately bad manager. If it was Tuesday next week I'd be on your side - how long has she known etc.
 
I understand the need. Show compassion, it would create better relation on both the employer and employee. Sure, if I am her boss and if I can find cover or can do without her for 1 day then I would let her go. However, if I can't do without her and she is legally contracted to work then I am sorry.

The size of the company has no relevance in the matter. The law doesn't say over a staff of X means you can take any day off you want.

He's refusing a shift swap too, so he's just being a **** :p
 
With a months notice if you couldn't manage without her then you'd be an inordinately bad manager. If it was Tuesday next week I'd be on your side - how long has she known etc.

I can see both points really.

At the end of the day, as Raymond has said he has a business to run. However, if it was me, I'd see if anyone can swap shifts or wanted to do an extra one or something.

What the Boss is doing is just being a prat really. Again, YOU don't know the full story other than what the OP has said ;)
 
I can see both points really.

At the end of the day, as Raymond has said he has a business to run. However, if it was me, I'd see if anyone can swap shifts or wanted to do an extra one or something.

What the Boss is doing is just being a prat really. Again, YOU don't know the full story other than what the OP has said ;)

Other than the OP intentionally trying to mislead us by missing out something important there is no other information that could change things.

It's a very good reason for a day off. It's plenty of time in advance.

If he can't run his catering business with one part time person short then I'd say he can't run it anyway.
 
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