Women...am i just being teased...and if I am does it really matter?

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Firstly i doubt this will make me seem very "deep" more like very shallow. However, after a drought I'm almost gagging for it, I'm sure everyone has been in this situation many times...so have some sympathy.

Ok i graduated last summer. I'm back home. Most my mates are still at uni. Life at home is relatively dull. I start speaking to an ex-girlfriend. We always sort of jept in touch. There's still some chemistry there as i can tell from texts and phone conversations.

We meet up, things go well. She clearly does think i;m attractive or "hot" as she puts it. I put a feather in my cap, and return the compliment.

However, it seems now that most of our talk is done via text. Lots of flirting, lots of "when we meet..." etc. But she is always busy.

She cancelled a date before, and I was fine with it. however, I have now found myself always chasing her. Which obviously is not a situation i want to be in.

Anyways we were due to meet again this evening. She cancelled about an hour ago. Saying she was very sorry, however, it was a situation has arisen that cannot be avoided and she'll try and rearrange. I was quite annoyed so didn't respond. She now text me saying she is really sorry, i deserve an explanation and will get one.

Now do I just say...yeah that's fine. Or say ok tell me what's up later.

What it comes down to is this. If it was not for the fact I was desperate I probably wouldn't have been happy with the situation, and probably would have just put it to one side, as if she cannot be bothered to meet me I am not going to beg. However, at this present time I sort of am willing to take this situation but don't want to seem like a doormat or someone who basically jumps when she says so.

So what should my response be.

(Aplogies if this seems like complete utter crap, makes no sense, and is incredibly immature. i realise that all...I swear my love life is going backwards)
 
waited a good while, she text again.

I responded along the lines of what Gilly said. That if it can't be heloed there's not much she could do. Hope she's ok and its not too serious, let me know when u can next meet and we'll see if we can sort something out.

There's no point throwing my toys out of my pram yet. Althought when i do there will be grenades amongst those toys!

I hate being messed around. Its one of my pet hates, if someone doesn't wanna do something tell me there and then not wait till the day and give some half assed excuse. Just be upfront about it.

Anwyays we'll see what she says.

Women eh!
 
i know...the desperation thing 100%. However anyopne i am interested in will probably take effort, whilst i have good taste, its often high maintainance as well.

I'll see how it goes with her...it hard to try and play the big-ego full of confidence game with her. As most the time she is fairly honest.

I dunno if she's just taking the mick, but if she is its one elaborate joke. That i am not playing up to.
 
speak of the devil...the response.

"Its not serious, and i apologise for being a complete a-hole to u. i just hope u understand my explanation when i call."

Now I really don't want do "the conversation" which will last for 40mins (minimum) and go around the houses so many times it will wear out the pavements.

Now I could lie and say i'm in a pub, so just text me. (however she lives up the road and drives past fairly often - if my cars there she'll know i'm lying). I could ignore her call. Or i could do "THE EAR-ACHE!".

Which one. AND what should i text back??

This is actually quite fun...its like a game however I once again appear to be a pawn. However, I'm enjoying it aswell. I suppose I don't really have much emotion invested in this except self-satifaction without too much loss of face. Wow I'm shallow at times.
 
willy-waving!!!

I basically got stood-up, hardly something to shout about. Also I have a girl who my main point of contact with is via text...and i'm not 13yrs old...again not something to show off about.

So yeah it was advice I was after, and opinion on how crap i was being.

However some of the opinion and advice I did not agree with, the brutal approach i know will get me no-where. Simply saying don't mess me about, isn't likely to get me anywhere, although to be honest i was considering it. I am in a way forced to play along a little bit.

But it is very much her who is playing the game. All I was after was how to avoid an earache after all who on earth wants to here a 40min explanation?



Gilly good advice...thanks. And Nix (bar the second post!)
 
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