Work Xmas Do

Jonners · 3 Dec 2016 at 18:55

Kol said:
Why are you so worried about it? Plenty of people in our office have said yes then changed their minds. No one cares. Unless you work at a small company? Even then I don't get why you'd be worried, it's not even a 'thing' surely?

But were their meals paid for by the employer?

scorza · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:16

Not attending the dreaded Christmas Do in my experience will be noted and not send a positive message to the bosses about yourself. Unless you have a genuine, decent excuse then it's better to show your face, consume the food then make a discreet departure as soon as possible.

I try to get out of as many of these work social events as I can but the Christmas Do is the one that's the most difficult to get out of effectively.

Malevolence · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:17

I refuse to socialise out of work hours with a bunch of ***** that I can't stand.

NooBish AbbZ · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:20

We had ours last night in the mess; slightly different for the forces but there were people who had said they'd attend but didn't, although of course it doesn't cost the 'company' as it was 'in-house' so to speak and the person(s) in question will pay for their ticket nevertheless.

[TW]Sponge · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:24

Is it just that you don't want to go? Or have a better offer?

Jonners · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:26

The former. Got a lot on my mind at the minute.

Beerbaron · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:29

Current employers have Xmas party in January and it's drinks at a bar with nibbles. Worse type of parties for non drinkers.

Fluke? · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:33

Just tell them you can't go. Doesn't need to be a big deal.

Malevolence said:
I refuse to socialise out of work hours with a bunch of ***** that I can't stand.

You sound like fun...

Pawnless Endgame · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:46

OP, if you don't want to go, then just tell them asap. The most they'll lose is the deposit if you give them enough notice.

Hades said:
I was fired from my last job for not turning up to a Christmas party. I lost my house and car when I couldn't keep up repayments. Then my wife left me. I'd never do it again

That's a bit harsh (if you're being serious). Last year, one of us couldn't make it due to late notice childcare woes. She lost the £25 as she's already paid and it was too late notice for her to get any of it back, but she she didn't get fired!

Sliver said:
No. Etiquette requires that you shag the bosses wife, and curl one off on your bosses desk. It's the only way to be sure.

This. When you curl one off, make sure it's a big fudge dragon for all the world to see, m'kay.

BuffetSlayer · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:51

Pretty shoddy behaviour in my opinion. Why order food and say you are going when you have no intention of going? Do you find it that hard to say "sorry I cant make it"?

I dont get it, but to each their own

Kol · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:53

When is it? I'm pretty certain they really really won't mind at all.

Spook187 · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:53

If i don't show up at a xmas party or any work do thing i get charged the price, fair enough, i don't really do work things as that's all they are work colleagues, 90% are not my mates

Robdav · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:56

no one cares. move on.

Deleted member 77746 · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:56

Why are you making such a big deal out of it. Just tell them you can't attend as you are doing something else. Nothing hard about that.

Jonners · 3 Dec 2016 at 19:58

BuffetSlayer said:
Pretty shoddy behaviour in my opinion. Why order food and say you are going when you have no intention of going? Do you find it that hard to say "sorry I cant make it"?

I dont get it, but to each their own

Since ordering food (Friday am), 28-29 hours had elapsed.

But really? Perhaps if you knew the ins and outs then you wouldn't say this.

Kol said:
When is it? I'm pretty certain they really really won't mind at all.

This time next week.

BuffetSlayer · 3 Dec 2016 at 20:05

Jaymond said:
Really? Perhaps if you knew the ins and outs then you wouldn't say this.

I comment based on the info you provide. If there are circumstances that you feel excuse the behaviour then enlighten me.

To answer your question - on face value yes it is immoral.

Like I said - to each their own though. You clearly have concerns or you wouldnt be posting on a forum asking for advice. If you only give half the story then dont be surprised if people respond based on face value of your OP. This is GD afterall!!

Kol · 3 Dec 2016 at 21:05

Jaymond said:
Since ordering food (Friday am), 28-29 hours had elapsed.

But really? Perhaps if you knew the ins and outs then you wouldn't say this.

This time next week.

That's plenty of notice. You'll be fine. Ping them a note and if you don't feel comfortable saying you don't want to go simply say it's a family occasion that night that you'd forgotten. You'll be fine.