Would you give her a key ? (ex)

[Malenko]

Morning folks.

I split up with my fiance a while ago, we'd bought a place together and as I earnt more than her it was agreed that I'd stay there for a while until I could either aford to pay her off or sell the property.

Since then I've met somebody else, we're renting a place together starting next month but for now she's moved in to my current place.

Proceedings are slowly going through to get the property sold. The ex turned up last week demanding I give her a key so she can be involved in the sale process and let people in if needed.

I can't see any reason for needing a key at all. If anybody needs to look round then the agent will take care of that, if not then either myself or a family member will be available to take care of it.

Under no circumstances do I want her to be able to access the property when I'm not there, especially as it's full of stuff belonging to myself and my new other half.

Now, ex-she thinks I'm being unreasonable and she has a right to access as her name is still on the mortgage (although I have made every single re-payment since the beginning, and as she isn't there she hasn't been expected to contribute for a some time now) ???

She's even hinted that she may hire a locksmith to change the locks again. As far as I'm aware she can't do this (can she ?)

Whatever happens, I'm not giving her a key - but does anybody else think I am being unreasonable about this ?

 

[Malenko]

Cheers.

That's what I thought, even though her names on a piece of paper.... she doesn't live there and can't prove to a (reputable) locksmith that she should have access to the property, so any good locksmith wouldn't carry out the work.

If she does then I could and would prosecute.

 

[Malenko]

Hehe cheers chaps.

To be honest I doubt she would actually do anything about getting in. Although it was her that ended the relationship (quite nastily too) Methinks a tad of jealousy has started to set in.

I've already got myself a solicitor as she was acting very childishly and lying about money that she owed me from 2 months I stupidly let her stay in a spare room while she looked for somewhere else to stay.

Ahh well, just another month while I'm there then the place will be emptied, then hopefully all sold n completed in the not too distant future.

 

[Malenko]

So, legally she does have a right (of course) but she'll have to go through costly and lengthy legal proceedings to get a key out of me if I don't wish to hand one over.. That sounds good enough for me, as long as I'm not being petty or unreasonable about it.

Dammit, I'd be well chuffed if somebody else was going to sort everything out and eventually I'd get a wad of cash for absolutely nothing... other than signing a couple more bits of paper.

My solicitor has pretty much confirmed that nobody is going to force me into handing over a key.. Her actions when she moved out will also count against her (she took away all means of me preparing, cooking or eating any food)

 

[Malenko]

Kronologic - At first it was planned that I'd borrow from my parents to buy out her half.
She got very greedy asking for more than half and rejected all offers my solicitor passed on to her (she won't even get herself a solicitior) After living there for a few months on my own, it's become quite obvious that it's just too much for me to be paying out on my own, and the property itself is far from ideal anyway so I;d prefer to just move on with my new partner.

I cashed in a policy that I'd only had for approx 10 years to put down the deposit, then I personally spent around another 5-7K on flooring and furniture etc. She probably contributed about 2-3k in total. Then I paid every mortgage repayment and a couple of bills every month, she was suppposed to pay all the other bills and buy food each month (which was always lower than the mortgage payment)

She's going to be getting half of any profit after all fees blah blah have been paid. She'll be making a few k and I'll be losing a few grand... Just want it all over with ASAP so I can start over again.

 

[Malenko]

Lol, false key would be funny but only wind her up and cause me more hassle.
Shortly after the locks were changed I got a call from her while I was at work asking if I was at home... Answered "err no I'm at work" then she asked why her key wouldn't fit the lock then started shouting through the letterbox...

Took her a few minutes while I was sat laughing at work to realise the locks had been changed.