you didn't ask the father did you?

[CircleFaust]

getting engaged , did you tell them you were going to ask your daughter to marry beforehand?
surely not needed these days...

 

[CircleFaust]

the thought of it makes my skin crawl
an awkward and embarrassing tradition in this day and age if you ask me

why would you feel disrespected as a father out of interest ? just because of the tradition

 

[CircleFaust]

I told, I didn't ask.

i think if i have to do it it would be this
pop round and say i'm going to ask X to marry me, just letting you know

 

[CircleFaust]

I didnt ask but I did tell him I was planning it, but we were living under his roof at the time so it was more just being polite than anything.

that sounds more like an idea, i might even just bring it up with her there, tell them our plans. much less cringe for me
we've been living together for a good while anyway so its really just going the next step. we've been looking at rings etc