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[sx_turbo]

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My youngest (under 2..) has been sick at 3am.
My wife who think that her job is vastly more important than mine wants me to work from home tomorrow to look after him. I can't work with a 1 year old attached to me. I have a full day of teams meetings and 2 physical on site visits to do. The on site ones will be a real pitta to reorganise as there are multiple people traveling to do them.
All of which I'll have to cancel and rearrange now. And my wife... will go to her job as a nursery teacher...

Why are wife's so ridiculous at times? Unable to listen to reason?

Rant over...
(Happy to look after the child, will be a nice chill day with snuggles.. but going to cause headaches at work)

Hmmm yea similar thing here, however I ultimately won out, we agreed the largest salary wins. We could cope (just) on my salary, we'd be homeless on just hers.

That said as I can work from home if I've not got meetings etc booked in then I generally will stay home and look after child.

It is harder for her to get time off and usually have to take a day unpaid if I can't stay home.

 

[Diagro]

She won't get paid for a day off. Which I accept.
However, I've had meetings that are now pushed back by nearly 14 days which I've had on the books for a month!
And due to this, my next two weeks of work has now got to change and I need to adjust my priority list. Really is a massive headache, I'd rather give her the days wage instead lmao.
She doesn't care about what I do. It's a desk job so "can't be hard" lol.
Some days I wish I stayed a teacher. Just to get her to accept I work hard too hahaha.

Marriage dynamics are fun.

 

[Mason-]

Bit of a palaver last 24 hours. Our son was born with forceps. They said he’s very likely to be jaundiced because of this and that it’ll peak at around day 5. Well yesterday was day 5 we took him to the day 5 midwife appointment. She did the skin test for jaundice and she said based on this reading I advise you to go to A&E. As well he had dropped 15% body weight since birth, apparently 7-10% is ‘normal’.

So we went to A&E and they took bloods. His levels were just below the boundary for phototherapy treatment, however his sodium levels were high, they would have told us to go home if not for the sodium levels. So he’s been admitted, and because of that they might as well do phototherapy as well. Been tough, more expressing and bottle feeding to measure exactly how much he’s taking. He seems to have come on loads though, eating a lot, lots of nappies. And his skin is looking better. They took bloods at 1:30am. Hopefully they’re back by 4, and hopefully they’re good enough that we can go home. If not it’s another 8 hours of phototherapy and bottle feeding until he improves enough to let us home.

Just want my boy and wife to be home and safe. Absolutely shattered but got to crack on. Currently home to pick up some supplies. We only left the house with enough to go to the midwife and back home… that was 9:30am… it’s now 17 hours later….

Finally home… sodium levels good. Put on 225 grams in 48 hours. God I hate being in hospitals. The relief of being in your own home with your family. Priceless.

 

[dlockers]

Finally home… sodium levels good. Put on 225 grams in 48 hours. God I hate being in hospitals. The relief of being in your own home with your family. Priceless.

Well done fella! Hopefully all behind you now.

 

[theone8181]

She won't get paid for a day off. Which I accept.
However, I've had meetings that are now pushed back by nearly 14 days which I've had on the books for a month!
And due to this, my next two weeks of work has now got to change and I need to adjust my priority list. Really is a massive headache, I'd rather give her the days wage instead lmao.
She doesn't care about what I do. It's a desk job so "can't be hard" lol.
Some days I wish I stayed a teacher. Just to get her to accept I work hard too hahaha.

Marriage dynamics are fun.

Does she not get holiday time? We've been fortunate as either mine or my wife's parents can cover as they are all retired. Not sure if I could claim to be sick to look after my kids (although I did during COVID, although that was a bit more serious for others).

 

[Gary*]

Finally home… sodium levels good. Put on 225 grams in 48 hours. God I hate being in hospitals. The relief of being in your own home with your family. Priceless.

Great news! Enjoy your baby bubble

 

[dl8860]

Finally home… sodium levels good. Put on 225 grams in 48 hours. God I hate being in hospitals. The relief of being in your own home with your family. Priceless.

Those first few weeks are so hard if feeding is tough, both of our first two dropped a lot. Totally know the feeling of getting away from the hospital, hope it's all plainer sailing from now on, good luck.

 

[Freefaller]

Demand Fair and Equal Holiday Pricing During School Breaks! Lend Your Voice and Sign the Petition!

14,125 signatures are needed, let’s get there by the end of the day?

chng.it

Not sure if any of you are interested, but this petition came up and whilst I'm sure no one will care about it nor anything will happen about it. Afterall we live in a capitalist and commercial society, but as parents we're force to go on holidays during school holidays and prices are hiked disproportionately.

This will probably have no impact or effect, but meh, I signed it.

 

[dlockers]

Demand Fair and Equal Holiday Pricing During School Breaks! Lend Your Voice and Sign the Petition!

14,125 signatures are needed, let’s get there by the end of the day?

chng.it

Not sure if any of you are interested, but this petition came up and whilst I'm sure no one will care about it nor anything will happen about it. Afterall we live in a capitalist and commercial society, but as parents we're force to go on holidays during school holidays and prices are hiked disproportionately.

This will probably have no impact or effect, but meh, I signed it.

You dirty commie

 

[t2na]

This will probably have no impact or effect, but meh, I signed it.

It'll surely have zero impact, it's supply and demand? More people want to go away during the school holidays, the prices are raised because of that.

During the summer air conditioning units and fans have their prices increased substantially, people don't start a petition to keep those prices the same all year long.

 

[Diagro]

It will do absolutely nothing.

 

[Freefaller]

I know it'll do nothing, but I signed it anyway and thought I'd share it just in case... you're all absolutely right it is about supply and demand, it just sucks that it. And yes I'm a dirty socialist.

 

[Freefaller]

It'll surely have zero impact, it's supply and demand? More people want to go away during the school holidays, the prices are raised because of that.

During the summer air conditioning units and fans have their prices increased substantially, people don't start a petition to keep those prices the same all year long.

I suppose it could be argued that just as A/C is not needed, nor are holidays. But meh, it's a nice whinge to have and then you can forget about it!

Very first world problem of course.

 

[Nutty667]

It's often cheaper to go in term time and just pay the school fine.
My sister-in-law's kids school even tells them to just take 4 days and call in sick the next day to avoid the fine.

 

[Freefaller]

It's often cheaper to go in term time and just pay the school fine.
My sister-in-law's kids school even tells them to just take 4 days and call in sick the next day to avoid the fine.

A lot of people can't do that if they're teachers (this is the person that started the petition). I also don't really like the idea of taking kids out of school...

I'm not debating/disagreeing with any of you, you're all right 100% that this won't do anything and this is just how the world works, but a 2nd click to say "I protest-eth!" is all I was getting at

 

[Diagro]

It's often cheaper to go in term time and just pay the school fine.
My sister-in-law's kids school even tells them to just take 4 days and call in sick the next day to avoid the fine.

No any more. new rules show £180 per adult for 5 or more days out of school. if its on a week that has a bank holiday, then its 4 days...
Thats £360 PER DAY PER CHILD for a family with two parents in the household.

 

[Nutty667]

No any more. new rules show £180 per adult for 5 or more days out of school. if its on a week that has a bank holiday, then its 4 days...
Thats £360 PER DAY PER CHILD for a family with two parents in the household.

Not sure that's right.
From August it will be £80 per adult per day if paid within 21 days. So £160 a day per child.

Fines for parents for taking children out of school: What you need to know – The Education Hub

The Education Hub is a site for parents, pupils, education professionals and the media that captures all you need to know about the education system. You’ll find accessible, straightforward information on popular topics, Q&As, interviews, case studies, and more.

educationhub.blog.gov.uk

Can still be cheaper when prices go up a grand in school holidays.

 

[Diagro]

Not sure that's right.
From August it will be £80 per adult per day if paid within 21 days. So £160 a day per child.

Fines for parents for taking children out of school: What you need to know – The Education Hub

The Education Hub is a site for parents, pupils, education professionals and the media that captures all you need to know about the education system. You’ll find accessible, straightforward information on popular topics, Q&As, interviews, case studies, and more.

educationhub.blog.gov.uk

Can still be cheaper when prices go up a grand in school holidays.

Sorry, I added £100 to it lol.

Even so, 2 children is £320 per day.
5 days that's £1600...
Because they will now file for every day, not the 5th day onwards.

 

[theone8181]

Sorry, I added £100 to it lol.

Even so, 2 children is £320 per day.
5 days that's £1600...
Because they will now file for every day, not the 5th day onwards.

The good thing is that during COVID when there was hardly any teaching going on, we all got massive rebates . I wouldn't take kids out during something like GCSEs, but I highly doubt a week in most years is going to make a difference in education based on what we've been through the last few years. Imo the increased fine is just wrong and money grabbing. What's to stop the kids being "sick" for a full week and just coming back tanned?
I do think they should shift holidays around a bit, at Easter our kids were out of sync by a week with those down south not sure prices were affected though.

 

[Diagro]

The good thing is that during COVID when there was hardly any teaching going on, we all got massive rebates . I wouldn't take kids out during something like GCSEs, but I highly doubt a week in most years is going to make a difference in education based on what we've been through the last few years. Imo the increased fine is just wrong and money grabbing. What's to stop the kids being "sick" for a full week and just coming back tanned?
I do think they should shift holidays around a bit, at Easter our kids were out of sync by a week with those down south not sure prices were affected though.

Unfortunately, kids can't keep a secret. And if the school caught on, fine incoming.

I was a teacher during covid. I taught every hour of every day lol