Eye contact when communicating

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Two questions:
  1. When you talk to someone who has an eye that isn't quite flush with the other, do you find yourself struggling to know which eye to look at? I saw someone today like this and found it difficult to not wander about their face looking for a point of focus.
  2. What's with people that don't make eye contact when talking to you? Some people choose a space about 12" from your face and talk to it. What is that? Look at me when I'm talking to you!
I seem to have a real problem with this lately as I'm very client focused and talk to lots of different people on a daily basis.
 
i think i usually look at the thing that stands out most on their face.. if i think about where to look on someones face i find it becomes quite awkward..
 
I can't give eye contact with people even my friends when I'm stood too close to them, it's like a big lingering gay stare, I'm talking a metre apart here, more and I'm fine, with lasses that are a treat on the eyes I generally look all up and down them on the sneak, don't think they mind.

If someone's got a funky eye, just try remain normal and if someone doesn't look at you don't ask, they're obviously not confident/slept with your mum/you're stood too close. :p
 
the biggest problem i have is if i'm talking to more than one person, my eyes just kind of waver about the group especially if i'm close to them
 
I only look away when talking to someone if they are constantly looking at me in the conversation. I look away for a brief second and look back.

I dunno if it makes them feel awkward if i keep staring at them when i talk to them or if they think its creepy. Also depends who im talking to. I have no problem with close friends or family.
 
I often wonder if people with a lazy eye in fact realise that they have one.

Anyone on here shed any light?

I might have one but everyone is too polite to say, these people don't always wear glasses so their vision can't be affected.
 
Look between the eyes, apparently what they tell people with Aspergers who find it difficult/uncomfortable maintaining eye contact.

Can't generally be told apart from looking someone in the eyes I think.
 
Funnily enough, making eye contact is perceived in most species as a threat or a precursor to a fight or attack - one of the reasons most normal homo-sapiens have a problem with it.

Japan and China have a different meaning when people lock eyes. Its only in the UK and the westernised countries that people feel the need to lovingly stare into each other (although why people feel threatened or uneasy just becuase people don't look at them is beyond me)

Its only in the last few hundred years that the psycologists sprouting their usual mumbo-jumbo have managed to convince people that making eye contact is a way to improve social situations and get on friendly terms with complete strangers.
 
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