Girlfriend problems what do you guys make of this situation?

A one sided tales - such a lovely thing on an internet forum.

4 months is not serious.

If you love her you will accept these minor things.

You also have not said how big the tattoo is. Is it a small ince to two inch thing or is it the size of a dinner plate?
 
@ OP:
Dump her if you feel that strongly about it. Ask how much more she intends on scarring herself, then you will have an idea as to how she will look in the future.
 
Zip said:
Almost exactly The same thing happened here today:eek:

Well apart from It being a Celtic tattoo, already having one and the fact that i wasd there when my girlfriend rang up.


But she still got a tattoo in the centre of her back, Its a name of a kid that she used to baby sit that died last year and she had it done in japanese.

But I hate tattoos with a passion and always have, Im kinda sad/disappoint shes gone through with it and there is no way im gonna be excited and all happy for her when i finally see it.

But i suppose Relationships are about compromise and understanding and thats how they work.

Well she better not complain about me eating things that might contain chemicals anymore:p
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Got to say this is how any "normal" person should take to something this dislike in a relationship. You don't own her, she told you before she did it and you didn't agree. End of.

In the term "Normal" I mean by not getting upset over it which you imho are.

ScarySquirrel said:
Ask yourself this, would you have gone out with her if she had the tattoo when you met?

If the answer is yes, then get over it.
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Agree.
 
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I also think she doesn't love you. Do you love her?

If she loved you, she would have listened to you. I can use my GF as an example. She loves me. She would ask me first of how I felt, then she woudn't do it. That is Love.
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get over yourself dude LMFAO

DezUk I can understand how you must be feeling but if you are so strict you could end up losing her...At the end of the day you know what might happens when it does then you simply explain to her what you wanted to avoided but as she went ahead with it you now have to live with the consequences...Everyone would deal with this in a different way, ultimately its up to you to decide if its really hurt and upset you and made you lose trust in her then walk away....but you need to learn to forgive and forget and be able to move on if you think shes worth it, if not and you cannot then walk away..

good luck
 
DezUk said:
I am being to harsh ?
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Yes, you are sounding controlling and clingy.

It's her body, as her boyfriend you are more than entitled to voice your opinion, but if she disagrees then at the end of the day it's her decision/mistake to make, you being her boyfriend doesn't give you a 'right' to tell her what to do whether its the right thing or not.
 
Damonic said:
Got to say this is how any "normal" person should take to something this dislike in a relationship. You don't own her, she told you before she did it and you didn't agree. End of.

In the term "Normal" I mean by not getting upset over it which you imho are.
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TBH i bloody hate tattoos if you haddnt noticed.


But even though i still hate them and didnt want her to get it i was the one that actually went and got the name tranlated into japanese by my old Japanese teacher.

I still dont like her but i didnt go and stop her
 
platypus said:
When you go into a relationship with someone, you kind of give them the right to certain things, compromise is what being in a relationship is all about.

Ok now maybe the op should compromise his feelings and let her get the tattoo - but for her to know he doesn't like tattoos and then to get one shows nothing but disregard for his feelings. If she'd sat down and said that she really wanted one, and she was going to get it done fair enough, but to just turn up with a tattoo on? Why shouldn't he give her aggro about getting a tattoo? Or does being in a relationship mean you can no longer voice your opinion?

How do you know she owes him nothing? A comment based on assumption rather then fact.

Of course he has the right to be annoyed with her, she did something he's explicitly told her he wouldn't like behind his back.

Slightly O/T but you know full well that if you did something a woman wasn't happy with you'd never get away with it, live it down, or hear the end of ot.
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The OP didn't compromise. He told her not to get a tattoo. That is disregarding her feelings.

It seems the reason this girl did it behind his back is that he would have 'put his foot down' and told her not to get one if she'd told him she was definitely going to get it. Which is not his right.

And of course being in a relationship gives you the right to voice your opinion. Being in a relationship - especially a four month one - does not give you the right to control your partner's actions.

To expect to be able to control your partner's actions and tell them they are not allowed to get a tattoo is ****ing pathetic, and anyone who tries it needs to grow up or ship out.
 
Girl problems? Thats not problems! If your GF cheats on you with her ex, then keeps staying round his house (claiming she sleeps over in the spare room) and keeps going insane whenever I get arsey about her staying over then you have girl problems! Throw in the fact I'm 100 miles from her and he's 20 miles so whenever her phone is off I'm up all night wondering what shes upto even though I have no definite proof so cant dump her properly as I'll be worried I was just being paranoid... come the morning she calls with the same old story "My phone had no reception and I went to bed early so couldnt call to say goodnight". This is after years of knowing her!

I'd love the only issue we had is for her to have a tattoo! You've only been together 4 months so tbh unless it affects your relationship like you think it will wait for it to happen and dont try to predict stuff that hasnt happened yet. Will drive you insane.
 
Dude,

im only gonna echo what most have already said,

Its been 4 months, its hardly a serious relationship and no way qualifies for you being able to tell her what she can and cant do.

Im not a big fan of tatts. But my lass has a really nice design which she had done just after i met her on the base of her spine. I hated it at first but it has grown on me.


I know where your coming from when you say you feel it will cause agro when out and about which it could do. But cross that bridge if/when it happens.

At the end of the day, you have been with her 4 months, if it was 4 years then yeah you'd have every right to be narked.
 
Zip said:
TBH i bloody hate tattoos if you haddnt noticed.


But even though i still hate them and didnt want her to get it i was the one that actually went and got the name tranlated into japanese by my old Japanese teacher.

I still dont like her but i didnt go and stop her
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I also quoted someone else

"Ask yourself this, would you have gone out with her if she had the tattoo when you met?

If the answer is yes, then get over it."

No need for this thread to continue, you hate it. We know. You asked in these forums for opinions and the general opinion has been expressed.

I'm engaged, and would be against a Celtic tatoo as well, however. I wouldn't make such a fuss over it.
 
DezUk said:
It will cause her hassle as it is so visible and these sort of things spark trouble (especially in Scotland) - I agree
It doesn’t look good, especially on a woman - That's your view
Its not in a good area - Same again
I don’t agree with it - sums up all 3.
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Totality said:
Girl problems? Thats not problems! If your GF cheats on you with her ex, then keeps staying round his house (claiming she sleeps over in the spare room) and keeps going insane whenever I get arsey about her staying over then you have girl problems! Throw in the fact I'm 100 miles from her and he's 20 miles so whenever her phone is off I'm up all night wondering what shes upto even though I have no definite proof so cant dump her properly as I'll be worried I was just being paranoid... come the morning she calls with the same old story "My phone had no reception and I went to bed early so couldnt call to say goodnight". This is after years of knowing her!

I'd love the only issue we had is for her to have a tattoo! You've only been together 4 months so tbh unless it affects your relationship like you think it will wait for it to happen and dont try to predict stuff that hasnt happened yet. Will drive you insane.
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Totality

If thats true you need to get out of that relationship dude.
Even if she isnt sleeping with the guy in question you have trust problems.

Trust problems = end of relationship been there an done it myself :(
 
Damonic said:
I also quoted someone else

"Ask yourself this, would you have gone out with her if she had the tattoo when you met?

If the answer is yes, then get over it."

No need for this thread to continue, you hate it. We know. You asked in these forums for opinions and the general opinion has been expressed.

I'm engaged, and would be against a Celtic tatoo as well, however. I wouldn't make such a fuss over it.
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Make sure You go read my other post aswell and the last line in it:p
 
Wardie said:
It's her body, I wouldn't try telling her what to do.
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It may be her body but a Celtic tattoo?!

The fact that she was keeping it quiet shows that she doesn't care enough about the relationship and any football tattoo especially with Ranger or Celtic is no-no.

She won't want to expose her back in some certain areas like Glasgow or Belfast!
 
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