Girlfriend problems what do you guys make of this situation?

Drazic said:
**** tag. I hate them, there nasty, they look cheap, they strech, crack and go minging! I find it so funny all the women that have it done.

A mate has it and in some her wedding photos you can see it and she has now destoryed all her photos, paying for it to be removed. Why, she had a 2 part dress, corset thingy and it lifted when she bent over and stuff.

Plus it's highly dangorus in that aera!

I'd dump her now dude. Shes not listing or willing to do anything and in 5 years she will regret it after manny kickings and blame you
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Stop talking out of your arse:rolleyes:. Highly dangerous??:eek:, im sure if that was the case then the tattooist wouldnt have done it. Christ ive heard some pretty funny things but that has to take the biscuit along with the tea:p.
 
rofl - lets not go off topic here.

No one should be telling the guy to dump her, if anything you could say if you are not happy with what she has done, and no longer wish to be in the relationship because she went and got the tatoo then end it. Telling someone to end it is going a bit to far since we don't really know them.

Even if you were in the relationship for 10yrs, you still shouldn't have reacted to it in the way you have. You don't own her, and things like a tatoo don't need to be agreed by both of you, it is her choice and hers alone.

Just remember she took the time to tell you before she got it, I'm sure she thought about what you said before but in the end, she still wanted it and went and got it.

How you deal with it now is up to you.
 
Heres one for you Dez.

Did she have any tattoo's before you were together?

If the answer to above is yes - im afraid your onto a losing streak.

After the first tattoo there will always be more to follow IMO.

Im sure you know where me and my missus stand on them ;)

TBH i'd just let her know you were ****** off she didnt tell you
she was going to get it done and leave it at that :)

HTH

Andy
 
Damonic said:
Even if you were in the relationship for 10yrs, you still shouldn't have reacted to it in the way you have. You don't own her, and things like a tatoo don't need to be agreed by both of you, it is her choice and hers alone.
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Not always that simple.

Getting a tattoo in a visible spot of something that draws attention both good and bad is a bit different from getting a little heart by your hip.

Just because it's my body doesn't mean that I should be allowed to go my labret and eyebrow pierced and have a chain linking the two without considering my gf.

The OP actually had valid reasoning behind his reluctance for the tat.
 
I think the fact that she got it, knowing full well you won't be happy shows a serious lack of mistrust, I sympathise with you but unfortunetely I have no clue what you can do.
 
There is no right or wrong answer over tattoo's is just personal taste.

Im still waiting on my 4th one, im sure my missus will get another too :)

Andy
 
Not a personal attack, just an observation;

You're an idiot, you don't own her.

pallys said:
If she loved you, she would have listened to you. I can use my GF as an example. She loves me. She would ask me first of how I felt, then she woudn't do it. That is Love.
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Rofl... Just... Rofl.. Thats not love, thats fear.
 
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she has a right to do whatever she wants but my god that is tacky. i think most of you lot are looking too much in to this. its one post and already people are either calling him a whinny kid. a little to presumptuous for my tastes.

MY take on it, is that the op tried to warn her for her best interests. yes, he doesn't like the idea at all, but then we can all see what trouble having your favourite clubs logo tattooed on your back can bring. can i jsut say its TACKY again? and when she gets it done, despair and disbelief that she'd done it anyway. that's how i would react. doesnt really mean im all whinney and weak though.

whatever your (the op) real thoughts are. the answer is simple. deal with it, or get rid. personally, id get rid.

krooton said:
Not always that simple.

Getting a tattoo in a visible spot of something that draws attention both good and bad is a bit different from getting a little heart by your hip.

Just because it's my body doesn't mean that I should be allowed to go my labret and eyebrow pierced and have a chain linking the two without considering my gf.

The OP actually had valid reasoning behind his reluctance for the tat.
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Agreed, totally. but people are too quick to go on the offensive.
 
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Mohinder said:
Has it not occured to you that there's probably a reason why she got it behind his back?

Look how much he's freaking out over her getting a tattoo, and they've only been together four months. He's a whiner.
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Yes, there probably is a reason: she's a selfish, spoiled girl!
If she'd sat down and explained "I understand your concerns but I've decided to go ahead with it anyway. If that means you don't want us to be together anymore that's fair enough" then that would be ok, but by going behind his back she's demonstrated that she doesn't give a toss about his feelings or opinions.
It's perfectly possible that the implications you made about the OP are true: that if she had told him he would've lost it and tried to forbid her from going. His OP was written in a calm and reasonable manner, but we dont' really know the guy - he could be an obnoxious, violent and abusive ****** in real life, who might've given his gf a black eye for Defying his Will! :p But somehow I think it's more likely she went behind his back because she doesn't really give a damn about his opinion, and tbh I would've kept away from such a selfish girl.

Who's making assumptions now?

None of my friends or family have tried to stop me getting a tattoo, or given me any grief about them.
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OK, I apologise, I drew the wrong conclusions about your friends and family because I happened to have noticed you're quite vociferous in threads where people say they don't like tattoos.

As I said, I don't have a problem with body mods in themselves. But when people start turning a tacky little tattoo into a mega-politicised issue about their freedom to express themselves through their bodies, and act like stroppy teenagers whining about how people "oppress" them if they say they find tattoos unattractive, then I get annoyed. There's people who get tattoos because they genuinely find them aesthetically pleasing, but there's also people who just get them because they enjoy the attention, whether positive or negative, and will do their best to rub it in your face and provoke comment so they can "take offense" if the comment is negative.

I don't think you're one of the latter crowd, because I remember you showing some of your tattoos and they were pretty tasteful, but the way you're standing up for this girl whom you don't know despite her boyfriend's expression of quite reasonable doubts about it. This isn't political, it's not your fight, and tbh I find it hard to understand why someone who gets the kind of tattoos that you get would jump to the defense of someone who wants to get something as tacky as what that girl got!

I do agree with you that he doesn't own her, and she's well within her rights to get any kind of tattoo she wants, even if it means he'll leave her. But what kind of person would rather have her football team's badge tattooed on her back than be with the person she (supposedly) loves? OK, so she doesn't care if he thinks it's unattractive. She doesn't find his fears about it being the source of comment or getting them into fights with football hooligans valid. All that is fair enough. But what hurt the OP wasn't just that she got it, but that she didn't even bother telling him, as if whether he leaves her over this or not is not even an issue for her! Why is that "whining"? I would certainly be hurt if this happened to me: she showed him not just that she disagrees with him and is going to do her own thing despite his opinion, but that she simply doesn't give a **** about his opinion or about his being with her or not at all!
 
Mate let her get it done, if some hun comes along and stabs her to death outside some pub in or around Ibrox least you can come out with 'I told you so...'
 
manveruppd said:
As I said, I don't have a problem with body mods in themselves. But when people start turning a tacky little tattoo into a mega-politicised issue about their freedom to express themselves through their bodies, and act like stroppy teenagers whining about how people "oppress" them if they say they find tattoos unattractive, then I get annoyed. There's people who get tattoos because they genuinely find them aesthetically pleasing, but there's also people who just get them because they enjoy the attention, whether positive or negative, and will do their best to rub it in your face and provoke comment so they can "take offense" if the comment is negative.

I don't think you're one of the latter crowd, because I remember you showing some of your tattoos and they were pretty tasteful, but the way you're standing up for this girl whom you don't know despite her boyfriend's expression of quite reasonable doubts about it. This isn't political, it's not your fight, and tbh I find it hard to understand why someone who gets the kind of tattoos that you get would jump to the defense of someone who wants to get something as tacky as what that girl got!

I do agree with you that he doesn't own her, and she's well within her rights to get any kind of tattoo she wants, even if it means he'll leave her. But what kind of person would rather have her football team's badge tattooed on her back than be with the person she (supposedly) loves? OK, so she doesn't care if he thinks it's unattractive. She doesn't find his fears about it being the source of comment or getting them into fights with football hooligans valid. All that is fair enough. But what hurt the OP wasn't just that she got it, but that she didn't even bother telling him, as if whether he leaves her over this or not is not even an issue for her! Why is that "whining"? I would certainly be hurt if this happened to me: she showed him not just that she disagrees with him and is going to do her own thing despite his opinion, but that she simply doesn't give a **** about his opinion or about his being with her or not at all!
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I'm not trying to politicise anything. I'm just trying to give the guy some perspective. It's more down to his reaction and my suspicion (yes, it's just a suspicion) that basically it went like this:

Girl: I want this tattoo

OP: NO! WAAAAH! WAAAAH! DON'T GET IT! WAAAAH! DON'T YOU LOVE ME?! DO YOU LIKE FOOTBALL MORE THAN ME?! WAAAAH!

Girl: *thinks* sod that, I'll get it anyway but I can't be arsed with this aggro


I totally agree it sounds like a ****ing horrendous tattoo, and I'd be fairly livid if a girl did that to me too, but the fact is I wouldn't come and whine on a forum about it. I'd either cut her loose, or suck it up and get on with things, depending on how awful the tattoo was and how much I liked the girl. I also think there must have been a reason why she would go behind is back.

She might just be a dick though, you're right.
 
I'd be annoyed if my girl friend got such a tacky tattoo, I'd forgive her as it's her body though. As you said to her you really wouldn't like her to get it, it comes across a very childish to just go ahead and do it. Fair enough if she's going to do it but at least sit down and tell you she has put some thought into what you said but still feels strongly about getting it done. It comes across to me that she doesn't really care what you think, nor even pretend to do so. It's very hard to judge a character over the internet, even more so through someone else's eyes so I'm not going to make any suggestions, just some food for thought mate.
 
I guess we're more or less of the same mind about this, seems we simply read the OP differently. You took it as "I told her not to and she went and did it anyway! What a *****! I'm gonna cry now!" I thought it was more along the lines of "Am I entitled to feel as angry at her as I do, or am I being a bit petty about this?" I got the feeling that he actually felt bad about being upset at her, and posted here because he wasn't sure how valid his reasons for being were and wanted to see what others' reaction would've been, rather than to simply whine about it (as most relationship threads on this forum do:p).
 
krooton said:
Not always that simple.

Getting a tattoo in a visible spot of something that draws attention both good and bad is a bit different from getting a little heart by your hip.

Just because it's my body doesn't mean that I should be allowed to go my labret and eyebrow pierced and have a chain linking the two without considering my gf.

The OP actually had valid reasoning behind his reluctance for the tat.
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She did consider him by asking for his opinion before she went and had it done. I guess some people are more uptight than others in the end.

OP does have some valid reasons, it is his actions and the way he is acting that the general population in this thread dont agree with.
 
Starts with a tattoo next she will want to shave her hair off!

On a more serious note I agree with the OP but I guess as others have said comes down to how much you feel for this girl and if shes more hassle than shes worth on the whole.
 
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