I have a best mans speech to make on Friday and I'm bricking it!!!

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Read a few threads on here about best mans speeches.

My best m8 gets married on Friday at 3:00pm and he has myself and another best m8 as "best men".

I understand "Two best men" is not a strange thing to have nowadays. :cool:

We have a speech all ready and printed out, and we have both practiced it a few times but we are both still a bit nervous to say the least.

It's going to be a big wedding with loads of guests at it.

Has anyone that has done this before got any good tips for calming down before the speech?. I know booze is a "no-no" for Dutch Courage and I will stay well away from that.

I have the speech here, I will post it if required to get some feedback, but I might need to post up some history between myself and the groom first.

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lol you part-timer - my brother and I (we're both Best Men to our other brother on Saturday) just sat down and wrote ours tonight.. remember that although you will be nervous it will be the easiest speech gig ever - people expect you to be nervous and allow for it entirely :)

I got married a couple of weeks ago and was really nervous about doing my groom speech but it was cool, just remember they are all family and friends and you'll be fine :)
 
I've been best man at 3 weddings (Not bragging! I'm just a great guy! ;):D)
Found that a few sprays of rescue remedy helps calm you down - give it a try! it's good stuff. Do get the spray version though as it's easy to use.

What ever you do, don't resort to a bit of medicinal alcohol (ie don't get p****d!)

Good luck, I'm sure you'll be fine. You done the right thing in preparing before hand. Have a great day, I know it's hard but try and enjoy yourself!
 
Damn, all these weddings happening this weekend!

My Mum is getting married to her fiance on Saturday. Going to be a good day :cool:
 
I've done it 3 times now it's not as bad as you expect

I will be different to the others and recommend a couple of pints before the event :)
 
Draeger said:
Close....The Groom used to work with Oxfordshire Fire and Rescue a few years back and a few of his mates are coming up to Scotland for it.

No, its at Glenbervie House in Larbert, Scotland. :cool:
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I've been there - it's a lovely place :D

Back on topic - i've given the best man speech myself twice now, I was nervous each time however one or two drinks to settle your nerves wont hurt - just dont go overboard.

I'd also say at my own wedding when i gave my grooms speech i done it entirley off the top of my head and i felt much more confident when doing it that way - each to their own i suppose.

The only advice i can give is be yourself, try to remain calm and am sure it will go down well. :cool:
 
agw_01 said:
Damn, all these weddings happening this weekend!

My Mum is getting married to her fiance on Saturday. Going to be a good day :cool:
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Hope you have a great day m8!!!

Thanks folks, still bricking it a bit though!!!.

I've never been good at public speaking, its not the content of the speech thats bothering me as after having read through it all, its pretty good. It's just my ability to stand up there and do it that I'm worried about.

I appreciate your comments though and I'll take 'em on board. :)

Sonea Fifer, yep, Glenbervie is a really nice place, lovely setting for a wedding.
 
At the begining of the speach tell the bride and groom to do the following "bride and groom please can you do the following, bride put your hand on the table and groom put yours on top, all will be revealed soon" say your speach and then at the end turn to them and say "okay groom this i have given you the pleasure of having the upper hand on your new wife, be assured that it wont happen again for a very long time"

Heard it at a recent wedding, had everyont in stitches, obv that isnt as good as it were on the day but change it a little, make it your own and let us know how it went! im sure its a good one.

Keep happy, dont think about it, and when it comes to it, start with jokes to easen the mood, if people dont laugh then just cry!! but id recommend just standing up and speaking up with a clear voice and not caring what people thnk about you as you wont see a lot of them for a while or even ever again.

Also, try make as many jokes as poss while been as sincere and nice as poss, speaches are meant to be hilarious and full of love at the same time, be sure not to insult and just dont be shy! enjoy the day mate.
 
Did it 4 weeks ago and it was no where near as bad as i expected, i had my speech on black card and printed on to the other side and stuck on. I has practiced it for around 3 weeks before hand every other night and i have to say the actual day was great. Have around 2 pints and you will likely have the odd glass of champagne anyway and thats it, dont have anymore. Just enjoy it though it went from something i was dreading into one of the best days i have had for years.
 
I did it back in June. I have to say I was really nervous right up until the point I wrote my speech

Once I had written a speech and I was pleased with the content and quality my nerves really dropped away because I knew what I was going to say and I knew it as a good speech with a decent blend of humour and sincerity

That's the key as far as I'm concered. Write your speech early and when it comes to the day you will hardly feel any nerves at all. I didn't and I can honestly say I'm usually a very nervous public speaker.

One thing I will say though is don't expect to get much enjoyment from the day. As best man you basically run flipping errands all day!
 
I've been a best man twice now, once at a days notice. I dont know where you get the idea of no booze from but that's nonsense, you should drink as much as your comfortable with.

tips:
75% of wedding speeches are woeful, if you manage to make yourself heard, get at least one laugh and sound sincere at the correct parts you will be successful

speak to the people at the back of the room, i.e face them and speak loud enough for them to hear.

if it's hired, make sure your kilt/jacket is comfortable, try it on the day before if possible for an hour or so, its hard to relax if you aint comfortable
 
did first ever wedding speech about 3 weeks ago - was nervous about 5 mins before hand but it went really well! some really good websites to help with it. I'm not scared of large audiences really so once you stand up you are fine. I always have good few notes to remind me what I have to say. Good luck with it!
 
i was really nervous before i gave my speech,

but i just sent slow, spoke clearly and loudly and all went fine


practice your speech so you are confident with it and just take your time .
 
We are getting married abroad next year, a small family and friends type do.
Everyone has agreed "no speeches" as were all too chicken :p
It would ruin the build up and the day itself if I had to do one !
 
do it before the meal if it's not too traditional, means you can then chow down and get wasted without the stress. gently mocking of the groom but very complimentary about the bride is the way to go i reckon.
 
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