Not at all. His 'friend' has shown no respect for either of them. He made the choice to feel up his mates gf. No matter how depressed he knows its wrong so he's consciously making these decisions.
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Not at all. His 'friend' has shown no respect for either of them. He made the choice to feel up his mates gf. No matter how depressed he knows its wrong so he's consciously making these decisions.
No, we're not. His 'friend' has sexually assaulted his girlfriend. The OP made it clear that she's not happy about what has happened.
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If he's carrying on after you've told him to stop then use it as an excuse to have a rant at him about how he's wasting his own life and how it's up to him to do something about it.
He'll either listen or crawl off to eat more crap and get fatter, but at least you tried.
He'll either listen or crawl off to eat more crap and get fatter, but at least you tried.
Is that a joke?
I certainly wouldn't do anything off that list to a girl i wasn't interested in, and i wouldn't expect anyone else to be doing any of it to my girlfriend.If he was my mate... well, he wouldn't be any more.
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Q.F.T. Get it sorted, think of your GF first, think how this is making her feel.
i have to agree with most people here, he is showing no respect for you or your gf. If this is how behaves with girls he knows are unavailable how does he treat unknown girls in pubs/bars etc..... that is why he doesn't have a girlfriend. he needs it spelling out to him that his behaviour is totally unacceptable
another question, has he tried looking out for other girls? some girls like larger men,
also has he tried doing something about his weight? if he can get a hobbie, go to gym or something, go along with him to help it, it will help boost his confidence and will stop him harrasing your girl eventually he'll hopefully get back on his two feet and on his way, but first he has to stop harrasing your gf! it concerning if he has tried dating other girls and he acts like that around them then yes they probably won't want to know him
also has he tried doing something about his weight? if he can get a hobbie, go to gym or something, go along with him to help it, it will help boost his confidence and will stop him harrasing your girl eventually he'll hopefully get back on his two feet and on his way, but first he has to stop harrasing your gf! it concerning if he has tried dating other girls and he acts like that around them then yes they probably won't want to know him
all this talk about "respect"... its like being on the Jeremy Kyle Show, or some crappy US version of it anyway.
it has nothing to do with respect. your mate has issues, sit him down, talk to him tell him how you feel and how your GF feels.
if he is a good friend then he will listen and take heed. if he doesnt then he isnt a good friend.
it has nothing to do with respect. your mate has issues, sit him down, talk to him tell him how you feel and how your GF feels.
if he is a good friend then he will listen and take heed. if he doesnt then he isnt a good friend.
Fist in face would be my quite word, he sounds a right *******.
And you complain about other people fighting at raves......maybe its you.
But yeah I think you should just ignore him, he will get the idea.
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He's already had a word about it - "Now obviously after the last incident i took him to one side and told him he'd crossed the line, but it didn't stop."
Which is why people are going on about 'respect', he's been made aware of the effects of his actions, but has chosen to continue. As you said, it's clear he's not a very good friend and if he acts inappropriately like that around girls then it's no wonder he can't find a gf.
haha oh come on thats completley different you pendant
Is it? You cant solve problems without violence, that would be escalated with booze and then pick fights with other people, but this is OT.
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Have a word with him and explain how you and your girlfriend are unhappy with his behaviour and that he needs to be a bit more mature. Years ago when me and Cliff were out in a pub one of his "friends" put his hand on my bum and Cliff nearly hit him, he had him round the throat about to but the others pulled him off. He wasn't a proper friend. He isn't usually so agressive but the drink fuelled it I think.
If he didn't change and apologise I wouldn't see him anymore tbh.
If he didn't change and apologise I wouldn't see him anymore tbh.
Who said people cant solve problems without violence?
Basically, chavs fight these days because of mental attitude, they get drunk off super strength lager lose senses and will fight or as often the case just start attacking any old stranger.
The OPs friend has stepped over the line of trust and the unwritten rules of what you do and dont do with their partner, its a mixture of emotion and anger.
Reasons and lack of reasons are the difference.