Feel like my whole world has just been crushed :(

MaX_PoWah

MaX_PoWah

MaX_PoWah

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Well ive been seeing this girl on and off, but in the last week its been going really good.

Today however she doesnt text me very much because she is off shopping then off out with her friends, i think well, shes been pretty honest with me lately, so ill give her the benefit of the dought, maybe she is just busy, id rather she be able to entertain herself than just relying on me to entertain her.

Later on in the evening she rings me and tells me she is coming to see me at work, which is a pub, she turns up, im pretty happy about that, i buy her a drink.

However she seems off with me, and the next thing she is sitting next to some guy in the pub, i think oh well and yet again give her the benefit of the dought.

The next thing she gets up and says she is taking her friend home and then coming back and that i should wait here, her friend lives literally 20 seconds from the pub, i yet again think this is suspect especially as the guy disapears as well, i go back inside and clear up for a bit.

I then think, whats going on and go outside and look over towards her friends house and see two people stood about, not been that sober myself i think that doesnt look like her and her friend and it isnt, its her and the guy from the pub.

It also turns out his brother is in the pub so he comes up to me, and says whats going on like, to cut a long story short it turns out they have been seeing each other for a while, obviously inbetween her seeing me twice this week, to make matters worse the guy is like a human mountain.

I feel so angry and annoyed at myself for letting her get to me, the last time we had a serious conversation i said i could not trust her not to mess me about and she said that we should try, and she had till tonight stuck to her word.

Why do i bother with women ?
 
Sorry to here that, they can be right nasty things at times can women! Look on the bright side though, at least you found out what she was like now, rather than later - you are better off without someone like that.

Chin up mate,
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...and all that stuff! :)
 
sounds like it's a good thing that you found out now rather than wasting more time on a girl that clearly isn't worth bothering with :)
 
One for the road I say, but dumb her. Wouldn't get too upset, happened to me before much worse than that imo of course.

You will get over it.
 
Almost similar experience about a week ago.
I don't post in relationship threads but what the hell ;)

Met this girl and we went out a couple of times. She had only just recently broke up with her ex and then tells me she still had feelings for him. A few weeks later she sent me a msg asking if I wanted to go out and that night we got off with each other. Then a few days later she was acting a bit strange and I found out during the few weeks that I didn't see her she was with someone else! And it was the guy that txted me to let me know!! LoL. I thought it was a joke so he told me to give him a ring. so I txted back saying I don't call random guys and apologised that I don't swing that way ;) anyway gave her a call and told her was dissappointed and to take care. txted the guy back to take care of her (hmmm.. Dammitt, am too nice sometimes!! )

hmm... my composition skills need a lot of work I think.
anyway.. its a cliche, but chin up dude. life goes on :)
 
Wow, she seems really rather callous and unpleasant from your account. I'd say you're better off without her, but obviously it's unlikely you'll appreciate this point until you get over her fully.
 
Id have to say in both cases the blokes have posted, that theyve either been a very early relationship, or as you said yourself an on/off one, so you probably havent got to the "lets just see eachother and not other people" conversation. I went out with a bloke on one date, decided it wasnt meant to be, but then after one date he gets all devastated and gives me this big sad puppy dog act, which really put me off.

The girls sound like they still have things going on with their ex's and so therefore were just kind of testing the water with you (which yes kinda stinks because it means you both got hurt) but you werent exactly going out for months or married for years or anything.

Maybe next time if you dont want the same thing to happen, you just kind of keep your guard up a bit, and have the "are you seeing anyone else" conversation sooner.
:)
 
knip said:
Maybe next time if you dont want the same thing to happen, you just kind of keep your guard up a bit, and have the "are you seeing anyone else" conversation sooner.
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ive known the girl months, this is like the third time we have tried to make it work, i tried to finish with her last weekend and it was her who insisted that it could work, and for a week it has, at no point have i had any reason to believe she was seeing anyone else, but obviously at this point im questioning half the things she has said.

I dont feel as wound up as i thought i would this morning, i dont know what to think, i suppose its because i have kept my guard up with her to an extent this week to the point that i knew something was going to go wrong.
 
Do the OcUK classic ditch manovoure (courtesy of Penski):

Try and blag one last bit of crumpet with her, just as you're nearing 'completion' pull out, do it in your hand and throw it at her face shouting: "Go web go!!" :D

In all seriousness, she sounds like a cow, you got rid nice and early in my opinion, go out and find someone awesome :)
 
Maybe she saw your spelling of "doubt" :p

Seriously though she sounds like a colossal waste of time. Check out the fish in post #3 ;)
 
both cases seem like all that had happened was the first kiss, then the women went elsewhere.
seriously, get a grip of yourselves, if you are like this after nothing in a relationship then you will be having nervous breakdowns when a real relationship hits the rocks!
 
Morba said:
both cases seem like all that had happened was the first kiss, then the women went elsewhere.
seriously, get a grip of yourselves, if you are like this after nothing in a relationship then you will be having nervous breakdowns when a real relationship hits the rocks!
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Pretty much what I was thinking, neither of the 'relationships' in the two posts says to me that they were anything serious, so quite whining and get back out there.

InvG
 
MaX_PoWah said:
ive known the girl months, this is like the third time we have tried to make it work, i tried to finish with her last weekend and it was her who insisted that it could work, and for a week it has, at no point have i had any reason to believe she was seeing anyone else, but obviously at this point im questioning half the things she has said.

I dont feel as wound up as i thought i would this morning, i dont know what to think, i suppose its because i have kept my guard up with her to an extent this week to the point that i knew something was going to go wrong.
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If you only saw her twice a week, what was she doing on the other nights you didnt see her? As in did that not make you a teeny bit suspicious?
 
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