How long can someone live with parents till they charge u for rent

Sudden said:
seconded

when I told my parents, after being quiet shocked myself, that people in UK (arguably, information coming mostly from this forum), paid rent to their parents to stay at home, they were shocked as well and couldn't really understand it.

Some people are making the point of helping out with bills etc. at the house cause thats needed, that is perfectly understandable. It's a different thing if the family needs it. But if that was the case, I would help out regardless if I was staying there or not. Even then though, it's not a case of paying rent or anything, just a question of contributing something to the general household. Not a specific amount that "you have to pay so much to live here" or anything. But if it's not needed, I really don't understand the concept of paying to stay with your family personally.

Friend of mine borrowed a lot of money from her parents to come on a holiday, and is now working during summer/winter to pay it back. Told my parents and they found it very very strange that you had to pay back your parents.

And please don't make the excuse of me being luckier than most. While exceptions do exist, I would contribute this to a culture thing, (came here only a couple of years ago. India before that) since I don't know anyone back home who would even think of charging their kids rent. Expect them to help out if its needed, sure, but only if its needed.
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I'm afraid your being quite sheltered from the real world!
 
After uni I paid rent.

I was earning money and eating their food and using electricity etc.

I was only payinig £100 a month but it helped them out too. Now we have all moved out the gas and electric bill have more than halved and they have gone from £100 a week shopping bill to about £40.
 
Bigstan said:
I have to agree. I had too much respect for my parents to expect them to continue supporting me when I was earning a man's wage. When I left school, I was earning nearly as much as my Dad, there's no way I would expect him to pay for my food and electricity.

For those of you who are shocked that people would pay their parents money towards their upkeep when they're earning a full wage, I'm disgusted that you have so little respect for your parents that you would hoard your money or **** it away whilst sponging off your parents after they've fed and clothed and nurtured you for the past 16 or more years.
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Freefaller said:
Agreed. There are quite a lot of kids here and a lot of spoilt brats so some of the replies are to be expected. But hey the world needs scrubbers to make the saints look saintly ;)
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It's got nothing to do with respect. I respect my parents to no end, but that doesn't come into it. "Spoilt brats", least in my opinion, should be aimed at people who are living at home and not contributing and are doing so against the wishes of their parents. Even if I was earning, (at uni, before anyone says i'm wasting away my life doing nothing at home :p) there is no way my parents would expect me to pay rent. I can easily imagine them being quite insulted at the idea of me even suggesting something like that. If I was earning, and my parents needed me to help out with bills or something, then I wouldn't give a second thought to doing what I could to help and I know my parents would do the same.

I realize that the quoted posts are not aimed directly at me, but i'm just responding as one of the few people on this board who sees nothing wrong with living at home without paying rent.

FrostedNipple said:
I'm afraid your being quite sheltered from the real world!
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How so? surely i'm being taught that whatever the circumstances, I can count on my family to help me? Nothing wrong with that lesson, especially since I know that they would.
 
Both my kids earn more than me and they don't pay a penny.
If you don't intend to support your kids forever then keep your willy in your trousers.
 
dmpoole said:
If you don't intend to support your kids forever then keep your willy in your trousers.
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Indeed :)

To all those harping on about this "real world", how do you intend to teach your children about generosity, and hospitality towards others or is your real world so cash orientated and full of vampires that these lessons are secondary. The real world I live in is about a hell of a lot more than money.
Let's face it, in the real world it's possible that my kids could get hit by a bus but I'm not about to drive my car at them to prove the point.
 
Same with Italians. Although you hear it's more like 40!

I'm currently on a PGC, which is paid, but only sufficiently to fund my rent of my 'house in the week', fees, diesel + other general costs. I live at home at weekends for nothing. Once I get my QTS in July I'll be moving back home and getting a local teaching job, with any luck, at which point I'll ask what they'd like me to pay.
 
I pay £200 a month when I stay at home during the summer. Obviously this doesn't include food or bills. Seems fair to me.
 
dmpoole said:
Both my kids earn more than me and they don't pay a penny.
If you don't intend to support your kids forever then keep your willy in your trousers.
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I agree with that. I don't intend on asking my children to pay anything when they're older. I don't want them to feel like lodgers, I want them to feel at home.

My parents asked me for money once I had a job but my dad saved it all up for me :) I did run the phone bill up a lot as well :p
 
I offered to start paying rent when I got a full time job :)

If I was short on cash I'm sure they would have let it slide, but it taught me to be responsible with money so that never happened.

Psyk said:
Surely at some point it counts as your parents living with you, rather than you living with your parents:p
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Actually when my parents moved in with me for a while they didn't pay rent. :)
 
JodieG said:
I don't want them to feel like lodgers, I want them to feel at home.
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Totall agree, if I ever have kids I would hate for them not to feel welcome or feel they haven't got a place if everything went wrong. Would much rather they saved some money for rent/buying deposit and or have a few holidays while there young and not tied down.
 
AcidHell2 said:
Totall agree, if I ever have kids I would hate for them not to feel welcome or feel they haven't got a place if everything went wrong. Would much rather they saved some money for rent/buying deposit and or have a few holidays while there young and not tied down.
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Exactly, that's why I feel the way I do. I want them to have fun and also saved their own money rather than handing it over to us. I can't imagine taking money from them to live in their home, it's like when they reach a certain age they aren't as entitled to live here anymore without paying and I don't agree with that. I teach them the value of money already and morals so I hope they'll appreciate everything as they grow.
 
People are treating this parental home rent as comparable to the rental market :confused:

I paid 'rent' when I was at home and in full time work after uni, a huge £100 a month (I was taking home £1200 a month). I didnt even pay half their council tax bill! Didnt really bother, me we had broadband at the time and they didnt even know how to use the computer yet were paying for the internet.

When you're 23 the parental responsibilty kind of dimish so this talk of keeping your kit in your trousers is rather silly.
 
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Kell_ee001 said:
I paid and never felt that way. I felt that I was finally paying my own way while helping the family.
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Glad it worked for you :) I just feel that they have enough time in life to pay their own way, it's a relatively short amount of time they will live with me so they save, go away, spend money on things as they wish and not worry about giving money to me.
 
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