How long can someone live with parents till they charge u for rent

The thing is that kids weren't asked to be born.
We parents made the decision that we would have a new toy and its awful to think that some parents decide after 18 years (or so) that their toy is no longer useful.
I know teenagers who knew that when they reached 18 they were expected to leave home :(
To me those parents should never had made the decision to have their new toy.
My girls do actually give their mother money but it all goes into their bank accounts and we don't get a penny.
They also buy all their own clothes and mostly buy their own food which is also a massive saving for us.
 
I'm 29 and have just been living in Brighton since July. I have been getting in worst and worst debt in that time and so am moving back to parents for 6 months, to get debt free and to save some money for a deposit on a house. I don't want to go back after finally leaving but it'll be far better in the long run.

I used to pay rent to them of about £250 a month, they have said they don't want any money for this 6 months as they'd rather see me celar my debts first.

I won' be taking any libs this time expect mum to wash/iron etc. I can do all that myself.


I don't know how anyone under £25k a year can live on their own, it's ridiculous the cost of living now. I suppose it doesn't help at moment i drive 60 miles a day to work :( at least at my parents place I can walk or cycle.
 
Surfer said:
1.care/retirement home or live in care worker
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Thats the cultural difference right there. In most Indian families, old parents would be living with their children, not in some home. That's where the importance and closeness of family comes in.
 
Liquid_Entity said:
I'm 29 and have just been living in Brighton since July. I have been getting in worst and worst debt in that time and so am moving back to parents for 6 months, to get debt free and to save some money for a deposit on a house. I don't want to go back after finally leaving but it'll be far better in the long run.

I used to pay rent to them of about £250 a month, they have said they don't want any money for this 6 months as they'd rather see me celar my debts first.

I won' be taking any libs this time expect mum to wash/iron etc. I can do all that myself.


I don't know how anyone under £25k a year can live on their own, it's ridiculous the cost of living now. I suppose it doesn't help at moment i drive 60 miles a day to work :( at least at my parents place I can walk or cycle.
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Dude, Brighton is retarded its so expensive. I have a colleague who survived on 6k a year during her PhD, living just outside Wolverhampton.
 
Sudden said:
Thats the cultural difference right there. In most Indian families, old parents would be living with their children, not in some home. That's where the importance and closeness of family comes in.
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My grandmother is 89 and lives in her house still. Not everyone ends up in homes. I'm sure she wouldn't want to live in my parents house either.

All depends on circumstances in the end.
 
Liquid_Entity said:
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I don't know how anyone under £25k a year can live on their own, it's ridiculous the cost of living now. I suppose it doesn't help at moment i drive 60 miles a day to work :( at least at my parents place I can walk or cycle.
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How come you moved to brighton ? It obviously wasn't for work
 
Simon said:
At 18 you are no longer a child. It's not really Rent as such anyway, its contributing to the house bills. Food, electricity, gas and other bills.

I certainly don't see giving parents money to live in the house as 'proper' rent, or paying them for doing your washing, cooking etc.

Parents living with you when they old is certainly not normal in this country. I don't know anyone whos parents live with them.
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But at 18 you are still in education. As for parents living you when old, it certainly is normal in asian communities. To be honest I think charging your kids rent is mainly a white thing which is why it seems bizarre to me.

Kell_ee001 said:
This makes me sad :( My heart goes out to you.
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Thanks:)


dmpoole said:
The thing is that kids weren't asked to be born.
We parents made the decision that we would have a new toy and its awful to think that some parents decide after 18 years (or so) that their toy is no longer useful.
I know teenagers who knew that when they reached 18 they were expected to leave home :(
To me those parents should never had made the decision to have their new toy.
My girls do actually give their mother money but it all goes into their bank accounts and we don't get a penny.
They also buy all their own clothes and mostly buy their own food which is also a massive saving for us.
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Well said.
 
dmpoole said:
mostly buy their own food which is also a massive saving for us.
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Based on that it sounds like they would be better off paying the typical 'rent to parent' rate TBH. Your toy anology is amusing and pretty pathetic at the same time, feeding and clothing a child is a 'toys' most fundamental need, as you don't do that I call the hypocrit card.
 
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For the guy who said he doesn't know how anyone can live on their own with 25K... im doing it from next month on 18K... In LONDON

Flatshare, Tesco Beans, 8p ASDA noodles and no luxury goods.
 
gurdas said:
But at 18 you are still in education.
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Exactly, hence I paid rent once I left uni.

I was on £20k a year living at home. £100 a month was nothing to me and covered my additional costs that I brought to the house after returning from university where I looked after myself.
 
on about 9k a year p/t (full time would be around 20k)

easily manage to survive, consume stuff, techie stuff, go holidays etc.. although dont own my own home and perhaps that is a drawback... buying a better vehicle (prolly campervan) to go travelling in later next year as well. It all depends on your expenses though i guess.
 
I have nothing left to say in this thread. I really feel sorry for a lot of you, parents and children alike - but if it works for you who am I to argue. Some people I guess don't have the same values as the major populous. It seems that we live in a bit of one sided world that I haven't been aware of. Yes when my folks are old and need help I'll help them out for nothing, but what's the harm in helping them out now? Some people have different priorities on where they spend their money and what is deemed fair and general manners. I guess some people are considerably better off than me and the rest of us in the forum - and good luck to you, mashallah. :)
 
Jonnycoupe said:
Based on that it sounds like they would be better off paying the typical 'rent to parent' rate TBH. Your toy anology is amusing and pretty pathetic at the same time, feeding and clothing a child is a 'toys' most fundamental need, as you don't do that I call the hypocrit card.
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Please don't have kids because you'll be making them pay through the nose.

My eldest earns about £250, she gives my wife about £50 which goes into a bank account and the rest goes on clothes, the odd takeaway and money for a holiday.
God knows how much you're going to charge your kids.
Do us all a favour and don't have them.
 
dmpoole said:
Please don't have kids because you'll be making them pay through the nose.

My eldest earns about £250, she gives my wife about £50 which goes into a bank account and the rest goes on clothes, the odd takeaway and money for a holiday.
God knows how much you're going to charge your kids.
Do us all a favour and don't have them.
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I dont understand the purpose of this bank account? Your daughters pay money to their Mum and she puts into their accounts?

£50 seems a hell of a lot when they only earn £250


Oh and LOL at calling kids toys. What on earth is that about.
 
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Simon said:
I dont understand the purpose of this bank account? Your daughters pay money to their Mum and she puts into their accounts?

£50 seems a hell of a lot when they only earn £250


Oh and LOL at calling kids toys. What on earth is that about.
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Daughter earns money ..... she doesn't want to spend all of it on clothes ....... Mummy puts it in the bank for her ............ what is there not to understand?
£50 is a lot? I personally think we should be putting £200 of it a week into an account.

Kids are toys for new parents.
You decide to have a child because you want the pleasure of this little person for the next few years.
You must decide there and then if you want to look after it for the rest of your life and not throw it in the bin when you've had enough.
 
dmpoole said:
Please don't have kids because you'll be making them pay through the nose.
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Oh wow, personal time. How thoroughly embarassing for yourself.

Too late, certainly will NEVER ask him and her to pay for their own food though. I was simply saying compared to a £100 mediocre amount some people paid there parents to help out when back at home after graduatating university (much less than they were as students yet are now actually earning money) then that would actually be less than clothing and feeding someone in the same circumstances. So dont go off on a rant that I'd 'overcharge' them when the opinion I was expressing was that your kids would be better off just paying a flat rate. How old are they anyway?

Based on me taking home £1200 a month and paying my parents £100 a month when i was at home you can probably make a quick guess at how much I'd expect from a fully degree educated adult child without resorting to 'asking god'. Indeed if the 'overcharging' thing is gonna be thrown about take a look in your own greenhouse. Worth noting at this point that my parents paid the tution fees whilst I studied, and gave me money here and there when I went home on some weekends to cover fuel etc. Its not like there are rules, its give and take sharing what you have and what you need where everyone feels comfortable. £100 now is positively nothing in the grand scheme of things.
 
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What I don't understand is why you bother. Does she not have her own bank account?

Part of the discussion in this thread is about giving 18 year olds their own responsibility and ability to handle their finances. Seems like your daughter doesnt have that skill set yet if she cannot save money herself.

How on earth is asking for a £100 a month 'rent' throwing your kids out.

Let me guess when your children are 30 with their own kids you will be paying for everything for them too? There becomes a point when they will have to look after themselves, the earlier the better IMO.


Anyway this point you are tryng to make is irrelevant to the post, helping your child save money has nothing to do with the opening post.
 
Should i ring child line?

My Grandma no longer buys my Mums food. Does this mean she is unloved, surplus to requirements and only fit for landfill?

Please help, its tearing me apart to think such horrors still exist in the UK
 
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