Im on an apprentice wage, minimum is £85 a week which is what im getting payed, so thats £370 a month. I know its poor as i work a 37 hour shift a week but im getting used to working in the type of environment. I have made so many mistakes if i was on a real job i probably would have been sacked by now ;D
How long can someone live with parents till they charge u for rent
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Im on an apprentice wage, minimum is £85 a week which is what im getting payed, so thats £370 a month. I know its poor as i work a 37 hour shift a week but im getting used to working in the type of environment. I have made so many mistakes if i was on a real job i probably would have been sacked by now ;D
I didnt pay board/rent until i was 21 after i had left UNI, while i was at uni i was given £40 a week from my parents and i lived at home, this was to cover travel and the rest i would just spend on going out once a week. When i left uni i claimed dole for around 8 months and didnt pay board (they wouldnt accept it) but then when i found the job i was looking for i was asked to pay 100 a month in board which was fine and i was made aware that was the position months before.
As soon as you earn you pay towards your food and take a small part of the bills aswell, i ate and probably cost more than 100 a month to be fair looking back now but i was only on 14k. Its not so much the parents NEED the money its more a lesson of life i think and i will do exactly the same if and when i have kids.
As soon as you earn you pay towards your food and take a small part of the bills aswell, i ate and probably cost more than 100 a month to be fair looking back now but i was only on 14k. Its not so much the parents NEED the money its more a lesson of life i think and i will do exactly the same if and when i have kids.
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You can all have your rants but I made the decision to have them and it is my decision to house them even if they never move out.
They both work in a restaurant and don't get up until midday where they go straight out of the house to work where they can eat to their hearts content.
They usually get in around 1 am where theres usually a knock on the door from a takeaway.
If we bought food for them it wouldn't get eaten and I'm certainly not ordering takeaways for them.
I can't see a problem with the bank account thing.
She comes in with a wage packet ......... gives mummy £50 and mummy puts it in the bank when she goes.
Daughter could do it herself but its easier to make the one trip.
Being a father of two girls aged 20 & 18 and hearing all the stories about their mates/parents and also working with the naughtiest young offenders in the country and listening to their stories about parents has led me to my opinions.
Virtually all of them have had no homes to go home to or parents to look after them and that will not happen with my daughters.
Therefore it is my decision to put a roof over their heads, to give them all the love they want and to let them spend their money how they want and if you lot don't like it then tough.
They both work in a restaurant and don't get up until midday where they go straight out of the house to work where they can eat to their hearts content.
They usually get in around 1 am where theres usually a knock on the door from a takeaway.
If we bought food for them it wouldn't get eaten and I'm certainly not ordering takeaways for them.
I can't see a problem with the bank account thing.
She comes in with a wage packet ......... gives mummy £50 and mummy puts it in the bank when she goes.
Daughter could do it herself but its easier to make the one trip.
Being a father of two girls aged 20 & 18 and hearing all the stories about their mates/parents and also working with the naughtiest young offenders in the country and listening to their stories about parents has led me to my opinions.
Virtually all of them have had no homes to go home to or parents to look after them and that will not happen with my daughters.
Therefore it is my decision to put a roof over their heads, to give them all the love they want and to let them spend their money how they want and if you lot don't like it then tough.
I agree, 100% with your view... however i am still far off from having a 20 yr old daughter so my opinion won't count as much.
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Thats fine, its personal opinions at the day.
However I do raise, and subsquently did so, an issue with you telling me not to have kids based on some tenious link you had in your head with small amount of board as some sort of extortionate contractual house charge. More than pathetic, and frankly rude. I do hope the 'mummy' is sarcasm.
All i know with £100 a month and helping the parents pay the mortgage thats one of the best investments you can make
However I do raise, and subsquently did so, an issue with you telling me not to have kids based on some tenious link you had in your head with small amount of board as some sort of extortionate contractual house charge. More than pathetic, and frankly rude. I do hope the 'mummy' is sarcasm.
All i know with £100 a month and helping the parents pay the mortgage thats one of the best investments you can make
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All i know with £100 a month and helping the parents pay the mortgage thats one of the best investments you can make
Why investment?
They will get the house anyway so I much prefer them to put the £100 in a bank account.
Go on then, ive been reading this and my thought have been touched upon but not answered...
Some think its fine for their Children to live with them at no cost indefinitely, but surely there must be some kind of limit?
Are you saying if the Child finished eduction, gets a full time well paid job and has there own children that you would continue to house and feed both the Children and Grandchildren? again for how long? What if the child felt no incentive to leave and get his/her own place, i mean why would they they are getting everything they want for free.
Also, what would happen if, god forbid, you lost your job? the child would still be earning and your struggling to pay the mortgage and put food on the table, yet your still happy for the child to not pay its way and instead go on foreign holidays? Simply because you don't want the child thinking you don't love them anymore and are treating them like tenants?
I must be really out of touch with modern society as half the posts in here seem just plain Odd...
Some think its fine for their Children to live with them at no cost indefinitely, but surely there must be some kind of limit?
Are you saying if the Child finished eduction, gets a full time well paid job and has there own children that you would continue to house and feed both the Children and Grandchildren? again for how long? What if the child felt no incentive to leave and get his/her own place, i mean why would they they are getting everything they want for free.
Also, what would happen if, god forbid, you lost your job? the child would still be earning and your struggling to pay the mortgage and put food on the table, yet your still happy for the child to not pay its way and instead go on foreign holidays? Simply because you don't want the child thinking you don't love them anymore and are treating them like tenants?
I must be really out of touch with modern society as half the posts in here seem just plain Odd...
No, at some point it just becomes that you're living with the child rather than the other way around. My grandparents live with us, and as far as I know, they always have. While earlier it was my dad living with his parents, it later just became that his parents are living with him. Essentially the same situation, just a difference in who makes the decisions and pays the bills. Why should the child be forced to pay just for the sake of it? At some point, it'l just become that the child becomes the breadwinner and he pays all the bills since parents are retired etc. and what not. When I was younger, both my parents were working (well, they still do, but that's not the point) and it was great to have my grandparents around. Come home from school in the afternoon, and not to an empty house but to family. My parents didn't get back till the evening, so my granddad was the one who used to help me out with schoolwork, and made sure I did it etc. It was great to have them around. Right now, i'm just with my mom, and I do certainly miss having them here.
Next year, she goes back to India, and i'l be here myself, but if I was still there, then nor I, nor anyone I know, would think of moving out of their house if their family was in the same city.
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Not giving your parents money when earning a wage and living off of them is tight, or you just don't love them very much
See how that works both ways? People keep saying how families should support each other, exaclty, which is why contributing to household income while living together is the right thing to do.
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