How do you spot lies?

Moogman

Moogman

Moogman

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I have a meeting tomorrow which I suspect is just a cover for something that is happening at work. I have a feeling in my gut that my department is going to be out-sourced in the next year from rumors that I have heard but more importantly the other businesses the company I work for have taken over.

I'm pretty good at reading people but I have a feeling that this guy coming in tomorrow has got more bs up his sleeve than a farmers market and is under some pressure to make sure no one gets itchy feet and jumps.

Body language is a big give away if he is edgy at all he will figgit, aso if he is defensive his arms or legs maybe crossed. Rubbing hands, face or neck when asked questions suggests that he is uncomfortable with an answer he is giving. Eye contact, facial expression and the language that he uses will also give some insight into the amount of bs this guy may spew.

Anyone got any good pointers? or know of anything else to look for?.

I may slip in a few questions that I know as fact just to see what come back.
 
People say looking to the left when thinking of something often indicates there making it up on the spot, compared to looking to the right if there trying to remember something.

Not sure how well that works though.
 
in all honesty, the person coming in is likely ot be experienced in this position, so will act normal and calm.

who do you work for?
 
All that pseudo-psychology is rubbish. The best analysts usually understand people around 50% of the time (a professional pyschologist tells me), so how is a random Joe Bloggs supposed to read people?

E.g. if somebody crosses his arms he's being defensive? Could be, could also be cold, or have a broken arm that he's hiding, it could be the most comfortable position for him etc etc.
 
Cobra said:
Are you sure :confused:
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I was just trying to think of things I've seen before. A lad who's arm was in a sling was half hidden under his jacket - but it looked to anybody facing him like he was crossing his arms for a long time.

Lol I suppose it was a bizarre thing to come out with, but as I say before it's just something I've seen that's all..
 
I don't believe most of that body language stuff. Things such as not keeping eye contact when lying is rubbish, it's easy to look someone straight in the eye and tell a lie.

Things like crossing arms/legs are what a lot of people do naturally, as is with eye contact, some people will make a lot of eye contact during a conversation and some won't look at you at all.

Unless you know someone very well and know how they behave normally it's hard to judge what they're thinking from their body language, unless you're Derren Brown of course :p
 
Morba said:
in all honesty, the person coming in is likely ot be experienced in this position, so will act normal and calm.
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exactly, plus the fact that everyone knows that what you said "is" what people do when lying so will avoid doing it as its so important by the sounds of it to make sure you beleive him which will have you tricked as you sound set on that a lier will do the things you have listed if that makes sense.

as well a lot of people, like myself, can be more persuasive (sp?) when they are lying then when telling the truth because when lying you need to be extra convincing.
 
know what they are talking about it and work it out yourself
if it sounds made up it most likely is

think about what they're saying not how they're saying it
 
Why not prepare a few questions that he is unlikely to have planned for, while he is effectively reading off a script it will be harder to read him. Simply ask him outright.
 
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