Ok heres the low down.
For the past year and a half, my sister (Still 16) has been seeing a lad (aged 18) he lives about 8/9 miles away.
In the past few months, my parents have noticed, as well as myself that she has been coming home with brusing all over her body. At first we thought it was just random, but its been constant, and its apparent that my sister is trying to hide them, and they are getting more severe.
So a couple of months back, my mum asked her if her bf was abusing her in anyway, she implicitly denied it, and it went away a little while. But recently he has been a real ***** about certain things, for example me or my parents having to go and get her from my Grans (Who lives 10m away, where as for him its more than half that) saying he's got no petrol, although the previous day, my sister has been in the car with him when he's filled his car all the way up. The way he acted upset my Gran, and my mum then went off saying he wasn't welcome in the house untill he appologised to my nan.
Anyway, my sister seemed to be doing really well, she had started at College in september doing Forensic Science, and last week, she dropped a bomb shell on us saying that shes decided to leave.. and get a job. Now its not like her, because she took a part time job before she started college and left inside two weeks because she hated it and said she would much rather go to college. So again, this doesnt make sense.
My parents have started to say things like shes just doing it to line his pocket.. on the same day that he refused to pick her up he knew it was the day that my sister got her family allowence, and beacause he knew this and the fact my sister for some bizzare reason owed him £70, he insisted that it was transfered Electronically (same bank as my parents) to cover his D/Ds that were going out. This didnt happen and he kicked up a stink about that too because what had been going on.
Now back to the whole denial thing... the other day after all this had happened, because Louise was acting so strangely leaving college and trying to get a job, my mum confronted them both over it, and pointing quite angrilly she said to him, if you lay another finger on here etc.. she wont be responsible for her actions. Which seems totally fair, because if I ever saw him do it i'd give him the decking of a life-time. He nodded at her perfusley (Sp?) and hardly said a word, now whats so strange is that if he wasnt doing it, he would be defending himself (what normal bloke wouldnt) and my sister also told my dad on the phone that he (the bf) was looking at getting help for his temper. And if it wasnt true, my sister would be jumping down their throats in denying it, so from the way they're acting, theres deffinatley something not right.
Now me, and my parents especially are seriously worried about her, because its not just physical, its obvious a degree of psycological minipulation involved here. They have said to me they think they are going to have to loose her in order to get her back sorta thing.
Thoughts/Oppinions?
For the past year and a half, my sister (Still 16) has been seeing a lad (aged 18) he lives about 8/9 miles away.
In the past few months, my parents have noticed, as well as myself that she has been coming home with brusing all over her body. At first we thought it was just random, but its been constant, and its apparent that my sister is trying to hide them, and they are getting more severe.
So a couple of months back, my mum asked her if her bf was abusing her in anyway, she implicitly denied it, and it went away a little while. But recently he has been a real ***** about certain things, for example me or my parents having to go and get her from my Grans (Who lives 10m away, where as for him its more than half that) saying he's got no petrol, although the previous day, my sister has been in the car with him when he's filled his car all the way up. The way he acted upset my Gran, and my mum then went off saying he wasn't welcome in the house untill he appologised to my nan.
Anyway, my sister seemed to be doing really well, she had started at College in september doing Forensic Science, and last week, she dropped a bomb shell on us saying that shes decided to leave.. and get a job. Now its not like her, because she took a part time job before she started college and left inside two weeks because she hated it and said she would much rather go to college. So again, this doesnt make sense.
My parents have started to say things like shes just doing it to line his pocket.. on the same day that he refused to pick her up he knew it was the day that my sister got her family allowence, and beacause he knew this and the fact my sister for some bizzare reason owed him £70, he insisted that it was transfered Electronically (same bank as my parents) to cover his D/Ds that were going out. This didnt happen and he kicked up a stink about that too because what had been going on.
Now back to the whole denial thing... the other day after all this had happened, because Louise was acting so strangely leaving college and trying to get a job, my mum confronted them both over it, and pointing quite angrilly she said to him, if you lay another finger on here etc.. she wont be responsible for her actions. Which seems totally fair, because if I ever saw him do it i'd give him the decking of a life-time. He nodded at her perfusley (Sp?) and hardly said a word, now whats so strange is that if he wasnt doing it, he would be defending himself (what normal bloke wouldnt) and my sister also told my dad on the phone that he (the bf) was looking at getting help for his temper. And if it wasnt true, my sister would be jumping down their throats in denying it, so from the way they're acting, theres deffinatley something not right.
Now me, and my parents especially are seriously worried about her, because its not just physical, its obvious a degree of psycological minipulation involved here. They have said to me they think they are going to have to loose her in order to get her back sorta thing.
Thoughts/Oppinions?
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