views on casual 'arrangements'

Nothing wrong with it if you're both on the same page. Did it at uni and it was great fun - they then moved on but so did I, we stayed as friends (to this date) and still have something to giggle about even though 2 of them are married and one is engaged. No bitterness and it was fun. Even after uni when in between relationships had a couple and it was fun to clear that urge and frustration especially when you're used to more regular sex. A couple of times things developed, but that's not a bad thing, no one has to get hurt, and no one has, it's how you treat the other person.

All in all, it's all good if you both know what you're in for. But I'd agree that being in a relationship is more fun, however when you're not in one, it's fanbloodytastic. :)
 
Ive been single for about 8 months now, and in that time ive had two partners who were just sex. Thats all I saw in it, thats all it was, I havent got attached, and if I never saw them again I wouldnt care because I have no emotional attachment to them.

They were just taking care of a need that I sometimes have. I can kick them out when ive had enough, and dont feel bad for a second about that, I could also say no if they wanted to come round and not feel bad about that. I knew before I got involved with either of them that that was all it was, and so I didnt let my heart get involved because basically there was no point in either of us ending up feeling that way.

It kind of makes you feel special in one way because you know they actually want to see you for that reason, as in I must be doing it right if they were coming back. (if you get my drift, not wishing that to sound bigheaded, and sorry if it does)

If I was in a relationship I wouldnt think about doing that sort of thing behind the other persons back for a second, but as im not, and until someone permanent comes along then wheres the harm?

I would say though that in the majority of cases one partner usually ends up liking the other more, but I went into it with my head screwed on, and so didnt let my mind wander down that road.
 
JodieG said:
Nothing wrong with it imo.
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Not what I thought a woman would say.

knip said:
Ive been single for about 8 months now, and in that time ive had two partners who were just sex. Thats all I saw in it, thats all it was, I havent got attached, and if I never saw them again I wouldnt care because I have no emotional attachment to them.
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Also I surprise. Shame I can't scratch that itch of yours! ;)

I really did think that women would be against it. Guess you learn something new everyday.
 
depends if you differentiate between one night stands and **** buddies. I don't, as a rule, do one night stands but I've had lots of girls I was just sleeping with but not in a serious relationship.

I guess my problem is I don't do emotionless sex, even the girls I was just sleeping with occassionally I cared about. Which was great for me as I'm generally suited to being in a serious relationship except I get bored and like some variety from time to time.

It sucks when one of you decides you want to date someone else though, that's just not pretty.
 
LordSplodge said:
Same here, which I why once I'd tried it I vowed never to bother again.

Would not mind a bash at swinging though...just to see what it is like. ;)
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I'm with you on both counts actually.

I used to think 'No strings sex' could be fun for a while, but to be perfectly honest, I'd much rather masturbate. It's cheaper (no pretext about buying drinks and all that nonsense), and its a lot more likely to be better - unless you have sex with someone regularly, you can't learn what it is that makes the other person really 'tick'. Also a lot less hassle.
 
helpimcrap said:
what are your views on having a casual arrangement of basically sex with no strings attached.
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Can't fault them, was meeting a girl purely for sex for around 15 months up untill recently - all the pleasure with none of the arguments, moaning etc :p
 
Too much of an emotional fool myself, starts out alright, but then i either end up liking them and getting hurt, or i think i do so start giving them more time, then decide i dont get annoyed at all the attention and push them away.

Its not really the way were meant to function tho is it, apart from the fact its just better with someone you care about it often ends up feeling shallow.
 
As long as both concerned are happy that's all it is then no problem. I've had a few over the years and made the mistake of falling head over heels for one, which very nearly cost me more than I care to think :/

However I'm still great mates with all of them, I wouldn't have it any other way.

~S
 
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