Internet dating making people shallow?

PiKe

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In my opinion it does because people the first thing people do is to look at the profile picture and not the profile, therefore, they're not going to read on if what they see doesnt interest them even if they've got a great personality, this maybe leads them persueing people out of their league?

Anyone got any thoughts/oppinoins on this?
 
Isn't this just like real life? E.g in a bar, you look around to see if there's anyone you think you'd like to get to know, you don't see anyone who you find attractive on first impressions, so forget the idea?
 
Probably depends upon the person's character in the first place.

I've got two mates who met their partners though internet dating, one has since got married to the girl he met and I don;t think the other will be too far behind.

If someone seriously wants a partner then they are going to look for someone they will be compatible with. If they don't then they may get lucky, but it will probably be a waste of their time.
 
Andelusion said:
Isn't this just like real life? E.g in a bar, you look around to see if there's anyone you think you'd like to get to know, you don't see anyone who you find attractive on first impressions, so forget the idea?
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Spot on (sort of)... Personality matters in the long run - but when you don't know somebody then e.g. for one night stands, (and / or more) then attraction is at first probably the only thing to go for. Whether that's physical attraction or ten minutes down the line you find this person hilarious or what not is a different debate altogether.

For some reason I'm now thinking of the buying [her] a drink / prositution concept lol!
 
PiKe said:
In my opinion it does because people the first thing people do is to look at the profile picture and not the profile, therefore, they're not going to read on if what they see doesnt interest them even if they've got a great personality, this maybe leads them persueing people out of their league?

Anyone got any thoughts/oppinoins on this?
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What is "internet dating"?
 
PiKe said:
In my opinion it does because people the first thing people do is to look at the profile picture and not the profile, therefore, they're not going to read on if what they see doesnt interest them even if they've got a great personality, this maybe leads them persueing people out of their league?

Anyone got any thoughts/oppinoins on this?
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Are you assuming that people only look for looks?

If you want to attract people using a photo it is good to show yourself having a good time, being adventurous, with lots of friends etc... not just looks.

Is it shallow to judge people on their amount of friends, or just looks?
 
[TW]Fox;10658615 said:
It doesnt matter how amazing they are, you dont want to go to bed with a moose. It's really that simple.
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I doubt you'd say that if you considered yourself a moose. I wonder what you would think if someone thought you a moose.
 
Its a good thing. It means that you only have to meet up with stunners. Otherwise you might waste time on some moose with a 'personality'. Whoopee-flamin'-dee.

Will personality put lead in my pencil? No.
 
seek said:
It's a perfectly reasonable question. How do you "date" on the internet? :confused: I honestly have no idea what you are talking about
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I think the OP means internet dating website rather than taking your modem out to dinner - i.e. post your profile on a website, browse other people's profiles and make contact with the aim of going on a date
 
PiKe said:
OcUK is full of shallow pretty boys it seems.
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An odd conclusion just because people disagree with you? Would it soothe you if we agreed?

It's an unfortunate fact, if you're bothered find a way to make yourself look cooler in photographs. Being attractive isn't all about your facial features
 
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