Would you want a girl you'd been seeing for 3 months to stay...

HangTime said:
In your situation (you don't love her), probably not. 3 months isn't all that long and when I was single I don't think I would have invited a foreign gf that my dad hadn't met before round to stay for xmas. I'd want a couple of meetings beforehand for them to get to know each other.
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I agree with this. If I'd been with a girl for three months and had never met her parents I certainly wouldn't expect to gatecrash their Christmas dinner.
 
I think I can appreciate what OP is saying. For me Christmas is a family time and I'm guessing that he just wants to relax with his family without having to worry about someone else being around.
 
Stop being a **** and be happy that someone actually wants to spend Christmas with you. Some people don't have that luxury.
 
I'm a firm believer that people shouldn't be alone at christmas, I'd have let her come, even if she was just a friend and nothing more. What's more my parents would have chewed me out for not inviting her if they'd found out she'd be home alone.
 
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My first reaction was "No way, it's only been 3 months!".

But now i've thought about it, why not let her? As has been said, it would be pretty crappy to spend christmas alone.

And it's an extra few days of sex.

Fire Wizard said:
Indeed, it must be horrible to be on your own during Christmas. :(

As "andy" has said, weather she is just someone you know, friend or girlfriend, defiantly do not let her spend Christmas all by her self, that is not the right thing to do in my opinion. :(
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So it's not just Vista you provide good advice for! 'Fire Wizard - Relationship Councellor!' :D :p ;)
 
I certainly wouldn't have left her alone. My mum would have kicked my ass as well if she found out I had done.
 
Dolph said:
I'm a firm believer that people shouldn't be alone at christmas, I'd have let her come, even if she was just a friend and nothing more. What's more my parents would have chewed me out for not inviting her if they'd found out she'd be home alone.
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Somes it up really. Personally i wouldn't leave a Friend alone over Xmas let alone my women. I'd just tell her she is more than welcome.
 
How about a comprimise? Maybe 1-2 days she can come over instead of the full amount? I like my space as well, when i'm with my mrs I can't play Xbox or check my emails etc as she gets the hump. It's nice to have 1/2 evenings a week where I have time for me, do all the little things I can't do otherwise.

I don't think it's fair to leave her alone over Christmas. While it's not your problem, would you like to be alone on Christmas day? Bit lonely really isn't it. Relationships are about give or take, can't have it all your own way. t
 
Dolph said:
I'm a firm believer that people shouldn't be alone at christmas, I'd have let her come, even if she was just a friend and nothing more. What's more my parents would have chewed me out for not inviting her if they'd found out she'd be home alone.
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Ditto.

Shame on you, you obviously dont care that much for her.
 
Bar said:
Along with many others your behaviour appears to be disgusting.

IF you care for her you would not be treating her this way.

Either way you need to be far more honest with her in regards to your feelings so she can move on and find someone more honest.

She appears to be nothing more than a comfort blanket for you to stop you feeling lonely in Madrid and yet as soon as she needs the same comfort you are willing to abandon her in a foreign city at a time of the year when you should not be left alone.

Take a long look and see how you would feel if the situation was the reverse...
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You can't just leave her to linger when it becomes inconveniant. And if you dont have any particular feelings for her, stop pulling her along just to make yourself feel better.

From what you've described, a woman like that deserves better.
 
Its not that I don't want her there, for instance if I still lived on my own/ with m8s and wasn't going to my family, there would be no issue at all.

My problem is that it impacts on the rest of my family too and I only have a few days at home over Christmas: I am away over new year and am going to South Africa on the 6th January, then back to Spain a week later- then taht will be the last time I really see my family for a while.

Also someone asked: No, no one in my family knows about her- I never really talk about relationships etc, so the whole thing would be a bit of a surprise to them.
 
Surely the first thing would be to broach the subject with your family.

If you are not even willing to raise it with them then you should not be in a relationship.
 
Bar said:
Surely the first thing would be to broach the subject with your family.

If you are not even willing to raise it with them then you should not be in a relationship.
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Oh come on you can't blame me for not mentioning it if I'm never there- should I be calling up like some excited schoolgirl excitedly screaming that I had a GF the minute we got together? I don't ring my mother every time some event occurs in my life.
 
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