Thanks melbourne, and to the other people for your feedback, positive or negative, although i'm not sure where people are seeing it as something for a "quick couple of grand" Like i said, i wasn't making this thread to talk about/mention amounts, thats not what this is about, we had planned to do it, with a LOT of research, but things do go wrong, and this did. We've actually been looking into other avenues and someone we know is looking to invest to help us out and get a proper buy to sell mortgage, of course, this news makes the seller say "Can i call you on Monday?" if we go through with it, it will work out, if we don't, we walk away and in the end, its not that big of a deal, there will always be others.
As said above, i know some people think it was just some flash of the pan "quick buck" idea, but thats not the case at all, we're looking to gather a portfolio of buy to let properties over time, and some to buy and sell on as well, but as this was our first one, it would have helped to finance the first buy to let, but as said, first time, is ALWAYS a learning curve, no matter how much research you do, there's nothing to prepare you for the reality of it!
At the end of the day, its still up in the air, things might happen, having an investor we know is a good thing to happen and allows us to not have to pay out on the deposit and pay minimum (1.5%) interest on the amount owed to him.
Make of it what you will, i know this kind of thing isn't for everyone, before i learnt more about it, i'll openly admit i spent 6 months telling my grilfriend to not even think about doing this as it was a stupid load of carp.
As said, if it works out, yay, if not and we don't get this place in the end, it happens, I can understand the vendor's POV being peeved about things, if she wants more time and decides to go for it, its all good, if not, then surely she'll be held accountable for the costs as she would be the one who pulled out (We are yet to, officially, as our solicitor is on holiday now!)
Edit: CI, saw your post, and yeah, i know it will cost them a huge amount if we pull out, but as said, it happens to hundreds of people every day, and why they moved out before the sale went through, totally baffles me.
As we don't have our own place right now, the payments would make a dent, but be managable, but time will tell on what happens.