If your longterm partner cheated would you want to know?

You mean the vocal majority do. Most people that visit forums don't actually post :)

For the record I have never cheated, I'm with dreadi when he says its a massive betrayal of trust and my conscience wouldn't let me do such a thing. I couldn't even sleep with someone that was cheating on their long term partner, I still feel that is wrong.
 
If (in some kinda weird recursive time-travelly way) it could be shown that the relationship would last the test of time, be a happy one, and foster balanced children (or whatever you wish from the future of the partnership) - despite one partner having cheated or had an affair (or even several) which was (/were) never disclosed - then I wouldn't want to know.

BUT - we don't know these things. It's all hypothetical - and aye, if someone's cheated, it's usually due to something underlying, and I'd want to know so that I could have the opportunity to get out before something else slips.
 
Shadez said:
Dont know which is best to know or not to know, i think it was just a single one night stand then its probably best not to know.

on a similar note what would you do if you knew your father was having an affair , would you tell your mother?
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I wouldn't say anything, not my decision to make.
 
JodieG said:
I wouldn't say anything, not my decision to make.
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You'd be happy knowing that one of your parents was cheating on the other, and that unless you intervened it would carry on?

I know I couldn't keep that to myself in good conscience.
 
Shadez said:
Dont know which is best to know or not to know, i think it was just a single one night stand then its probably best not to know.
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But if they did it once, whats to say they wont do it again? If they feel the need to cheat then there must be a reason for it
 
I'd want to know so I could finish the relationship.

Similarly, if I knew one of my parents was cheating on the other, I'd let the cheating one know that if he/she didn't tell the other one asap, then I would.
 
I found out, I forgave, then it ate away at me - we broke up.

Personally I'd want to know - because it's a bit of a lie of a relationship otherwise.

Rich
 
Gilly said:
You'd be happy knowing that one of your parents was cheating on the other, and that unless you intervened it would carry on?

I know I couldn't keep that to myself in good conscience.
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Well I wouldn't want to be responsible for what could occur, it's not something I'd be happy about and if was still going on then I'd encourage them to finish it or come clean but I wouldn't say anything. Really wouldn't be my place.
 
I'd want to know, Then i could Smack her about a bit & use her as a Slave for a few months. I wouldn't take her seriously though & would Sack her as soon as a Decent woman came along. Loyalty is Number one in my book.
 
I'd like to know so I could get rid of them. Any women who values sex above a relationship is not the one for me.
 
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