Do you find overweight people attractive?
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Didn't read the whole thread, but while she has obviously gained a lot of weight, I wouldn't say she was ugly as such, still seems to have an attractive face.
I'm not overweight but due to two operations I have two pretty huge scars so I always take the view that I'm not in a position to judge. I wouldn't say weight is the first thing I see in a person, it's always been their face for me. Ok if they were huge/clinically obese that might turn me off but being a bit over weight hasnt bothered me much
My girlfriend is pretty slim, but to be honest I can't imagine not loving her no matter how she looked now, after 5 years it's gone far beyond looks. My ex girlfriend could probably have been described as curvy, she wasn't huge or anything but definitely a little overweight, yet that initial attraction was still there
I'm not overweight but due to two operations I have two pretty huge scars so I always take the view that I'm not in a position to judge. I wouldn't say weight is the first thing I see in a person, it's always been their face for me. Ok if they were huge/clinically obese that might turn me off but being a bit over weight hasnt bothered me much
My girlfriend is pretty slim, but to be honest I can't imagine not loving her no matter how she looked now, after 5 years it's gone far beyond looks. My ex girlfriend could probably have been described as curvy, she wasn't huge or anything but definitely a little overweight, yet that initial attraction was still there
I don't remember any fat girls I have found attractive. I see a lot of slim girls who are though.
I wouldn't be happy if I was with her and she went from the first picture to the bottom. She clearly doesn't care about her body, which says a lot about her personality. To me it says she is lazy and has no self control. Obviously this doesn't apply to people with certain medical conditions. The people whose bodies' don't know when they are full can get away without the lack of self control bit applying (they should exercise more when they put on weight) to some extent, but I'm sure they know 5 big macs are probably more than enough for one meal.
I wouldn't be happy if I was with her and she went from the first picture to the bottom. She clearly doesn't care about her body, which says a lot about her personality. To me it says she is lazy and has no self control. Obviously this doesn't apply to people with certain medical conditions. The people whose bodies' don't know when they are full can get away without the lack of self control bit applying (they should exercise more when they put on weight) to some extent, but I'm sure they know 5 big macs are probably more than enough for one meal.
Yes, I find overweight women attractive, I also find average weight women attractive and slightly skinny women attractive. I don't find women with no bum or no boobs attractive regardless of their size, or women with uneven leg to torso ratios.
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Schopenhauer's pessimism comes from his elevating of Will above reason as the mainspring of human thought and behavior. Schopenhauer pointed to motivators such as hunger, sexuality, the need to care for children, and the need for shelter and personal security as the real sources of human motivation. Reason, compared to these factors, is mere window-dressing for human thoughts; it is the clothes our naked hungers put on when they go out in public. Schopenhauer sees reason as weak and insignificant compared to Will; in one metaphor, Schopenhauer compares the human intellect to a lame man who can see, but who rides on the shoulders of the blind giant of Will.
Likening human life to the life of other animals, he saw the reproductive cycle as indeed a cyclical process that continues pointlessly and indefinitely, unless the chain is broken by too limited resources to make continued life possible, in which case it is terminated by extinction. The prognosis of either pointlessly continuing the cycle of life or facing extinction is one major leg of Schopenhauer's pessimism.
Schopenhauer moreover considers the desires of the will to entail suffering: because these selfish desires create constant conflict in the world. The business of biological life is a war of all against all. Reason makes us suffer all the more, in that reason makes us realize that biology's agenda is something we would not have chosen if we had a choice, but is helpless to prevent us from serving it, or allow us to escape the sting of its goad (compare this to the role of desire in Buddhism).
No. Can't quite believe that is the same person in those photos.
Likening human life to the life of other animals, he saw the reproductive cycle as indeed a cyclical process that continues pointlessly and indefinitely, unless the chain is broken by too limited resources to make continued life possible, in which case it is terminated by extinction. The prognosis of either pointlessly continuing the cycle of life or facing extinction is one major leg of Schopenhauer's pessimism.
Schopenhauer moreover considers the desires of the will to entail suffering: because these selfish desires create constant conflict in the world. The business of biological life is a war of all against all. Reason makes us suffer all the more, in that reason makes us realize that biology's agenda is something we would not have chosen if we had a choice, but is helpless to prevent us from serving it, or allow us to escape the sting of its goad (compare this to the role of desire in Buddhism).
No. Can't quite believe that is the same person in those photos.
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Absolutely right.
My wife would be the first to admit that she's put weight on since we've been together, but most of the time I don't even notice - all I know is she's the love of my life and I find her sexy as hell. She's a size 14-16, 36DD and has the typical 'English pear-shape' narrow waist and child-bearing hips. I look at her and think 'Phwoarr' even more now than I did when we first got together. It goes beyond mere physical attraction though - I don't know what that extra 'component' is, but I do know it's never been present with any other girlfriend I've ever had.
This is another of those divisive issues that inspires strong opinions on both sides. I don't find fat or overweight women attractive as a rule but curves are awesome - only I know where I consider the boundary between 'curvy' and 'fat' to be, but that boundary doesn't hold true for everybody.
Too many posts that I cant be bothered reading, so in reply to the OP:
I dont find fat (over weight) people attractive in any way. That wont stop me loving some one, but that would be 100% not about looks. I have already informed my long term gf of this, though im sure we will both grow fat in old age, but do you really still fancy your partner when you get old?
I dont find fat (over weight) people attractive in any way. That wont stop me loving some one, but that would be 100% not about looks. I have already informed my long term gf of this, though im sure we will both grow fat in old age, but do you really still fancy your partner when you get old?
Hmm I don't know as I'm not old yet but I assume people must find each other attractive still? Tastes change as you get older so where I used to be attracted to younger men now it's older men, I'm 29 now and don't find 19/20 year olds attractive, well I can see good looks but wouldn't want it iyswim.
I understand what you mean. I find teenage girls attractive. I find older women good looking. e.g. I can appreciate that men in their 30s would find them hot and would be attracted to them.
I really like it, I think she’s hot, I still find some thinner women attractive. But I do prefer the bigger woman, not the ones with rolls of fat spewing over their pants and 4 chins. There is a bit of a difference and I'm not ashamed to admit to it.
Lmao. I dont like fat birds, really unattractive. But I dont like skin and bone. Us fellas like a bit of "meat"
.Maby I have not got old enough yet (only 22) but i still find younger more attractive that older, though i can see what others could see in older people which i was never able to see before.
Any proper old'ies on here able to comment (with out getting a beating from your partners) if you still fancy a) your partner b) younger people or people your own age
(sorry for going slightly ot, just trying to expand the chat)
Any proper old'ies on here able to comment (with out getting a beating from your partners) if you still fancy a) your partner b) younger people or people your own age
(sorry for going slightly ot, just trying to expand the chat)
Thing is when you get to 35 (my age) you probably have cousins and nieces so that are in their late teens and that puts it all into perspective. Could I have a fling with my nieces mate or someone of that age? Definitely no. It just wouldn't be right.
I think so also you have to connect mentally with someone and it's easier to "connect" to people your own age. Not to mention that the chances of a 1 nighter after clubbin are reduced when you are over 30 married with kids
Yeah booze can have that affect.
Thing is when you get to 35 (my age) you probably have cousins and nieces so that are in their late teens and that puts it all into perspective. Could I have a fling with my nieces mate or someone of that age? Definitely no. It just wouldn't be right.
I think so also you have to connect mentally with someone and it's easier to "connect" to people your own age. Not to mention that the chances of a 1 nighter after clubbin are reduced when you are over 30 married with kids
Yeah. I agree with that to some extent; I'd say that the cousin thing applies to people over a certain age though (probably about 30), as someone who is 25 isn't going to have any hesitations sleeping with an 18 year old.