Do you find overweight people attractive?
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I'm glad you posted this too, in a sense you may have saved the thread. A lot of people needed enlightening here, me included. What you're saying is that for some people being obese is caused by a knock-on effect starting with something mental.
There is a singer from a band I know who used to be very slim and attractive. Then her boyfriend died [at only 34 - sad] and she ballooned. She says she does all she can to stay positive, good for her, but it's not easy. I'm sure she's not happy with her weight but it's a by-product of being mentally insecure and emotionally unhappy. It's also a by-product of too much food[!] but I have more sympathy for people who are suffering in some way and eat to feel better, rather than those who just stuff their faces for the hell of it.
Can't say I do...
If a girl is under 5"4, anything over size 10 looks way too big
If a girl is under 5"9 then 10 is perfect, 12 acceptable
If over 5"9, 10 is again good, as is 12
Sorry, if you're size 14 or above, you are more than likely overweight, overweight means over what your weight should be, and i don't find fat/overweight people attractive!
Harsh, but my opinion
Hit the gym fatty!
My gf is a bit overweight, but she also has a larger frame she got from her dad, so her body fat is actually lower than her dress size suggests.
Thing is, she is incredibly sexy, oozes hawtness, and has the best personality I have ever seen in another person in my entire life. As a result, I don't even notice.
As for getting to the gym, not always as easy as that. She works long and hard at her job, 9:30 and often only leaving the office at 9pm. So no time for gym during the week, and her working hours have a knock-on effect to her free time, which needs to be concentrated into the weekend, along with any sundry activities that fall outside of work, so even weekends are busy with all the day to day stuff we can't do during the week.
So it's not even a case of laziness, she's putting in so much time and effort into her career, to ensure that we can clear our debts faster, and plan for our future better, which in the grand scheme of things is far more important than her being a few pounds overweight.
Exactly Lysander, it is usually the result of a whole load of things but I'm not making excuses here. I know that I am fat because I have taken in more calories than I used. The point is that the calorie intake wasn't some attempt to cripple the NHS or offend peoples sensibilities. If I knew why I did it I could probably do something about it.
I find it to be exactly the opposite - certainly with regard to commenting on other girls' looks.
I've had girlfriends who were size 8-10 and girlfriends who were 12-14. It was always the larger girls who would insult other womens' appearances -"those shoes look awful on her; her make-up's terrible; she shouldn't have done her hair like that; what an awful bag" and the classic "the thing is, she doesn't actually look like that". I even had one gf say "Beyonce is unfanciable and never will be attractive".
The gfs I had who were size 8-10 never made a comment about other womens' appearances. It's those who are unhappy with their size who insult others.
Not true, I know plenty of thin, but ugly women, who don't put people down as a result of their own uggerness.
Probably just my experience then lol.
It's all down to self-perception, which isn't limited to dress size, though for some women it can be the main reason for their bitchiness towards other women.
Some women will just make catty remarks if they see a girl they think is attractive or more attractive than them, or if they have an aspect that they don't like about themselves (bra size, type of hair, bad teeth, etc)
I am not sure why people are getting offended. At the end of the day people are just telling the truth, fat isn't nice, end of story for most people. If you are fat, you are fat. I am not fat but I have other issues but I accept them ( for another thread 
). Get over it or lose weight tbh.
I disagree with "fit" birds being stuck up, they generally have better social skills imo and are usually nice, unless you are in high school or just hangig with ***** in general.
). Get over it or lose weight tbh.I disagree with "fit" birds being stuck up, they generally have better social skills imo and are usually nice, unless you are in high school or just hangig with ***** in general.
Negative - theres a difference between giving your own opinion and espousing it as fact. A radical difference.
If people were just saying things like "its not for me" "dont feel attracted to obese obese women myself"
Then what they are saying is something personal and individual about how they feel.
As soon as they start making more of it though (as seen by some folk in this thread)
Then it becomes more abusive (imo)
e.g.
Fat = ugly
Munter
god knows how obese people go on
Fat chicks are like mopeds.
Fun to ride till your mates find out
Fat people are not attractive. The severly overweight I saw whilst in texas (in mcdonalds obviously) deserved a good pointing out to by mate
Wow, you really are quite deluded
I love the fact that only overweight or obese people say that BMI is rubbish
Well read the thread, butterball. Me and many others think similarly. Fat is not attractive. It's the people who say, "she's fat - she's gorgeous!" whose reasoning I question most.
Are you fat? (personal and context)
lol (context)(basically 2 ppl attacking 1 person on the forum)
feed the ugly fat people to the poor?
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There was more but i cant be bothered going through them all.
The thing is, some can be funny. *But there is a line between deciding to be funny at the expense of someone else on a forum*. Thats when it becomes spiteful. And imo starts becoming personal.
I guess the good thing is - 'crap' always floats to the top of the barrel so you see it and can stick it (the person on your ignore list.
Seems things are taking a turn for the better. I did think a lot of people were being a bit blunt and seemed to be taking the moral high ground. "I keep in shape so should everyone else, and if you don't you are a lazy fat ass with no standards" erm yeah, ok...
It's all being a bit judgmental imo and tarring a large group of people with same brush. I'd bet at least half of the "I keep in shape people" are still not that attractive... I'm not overweight but I've been on the receiving end of judgmental b******* for other reasons
I used to work with someone who was pretty overweight. But I found her incredibly attractive. She had a cute face was always laughing and happy with a great sense of humor of personality. But then the next overweight person I might find to be totally ugly. And I could say the same for people of average weight and hight. What really annoyed was the couple of posts I seem to remember of people saying they would leave their partners if they became overweight. Obviously not with them for the right reasons then and probably about as shallow as it gets. Would you leave them if they were in a bad accident that disfigured them in some way?
It's all being a bit judgmental imo and tarring a large group of people with same brush. I'd bet at least half of the "I keep in shape people" are still not that attractive... I'm not overweight but I've been on the receiving end of judgmental b******* for other reasons
I used to work with someone who was pretty overweight. But I found her incredibly attractive. She had a cute face was always laughing and happy with a great sense of humor of personality. But then the next overweight person I might find to be totally ugly. And I could say the same for people of average weight and hight. What really annoyed was the couple of posts I seem to remember of people saying they would leave their partners if they became overweight. Obviously not with them for the right reasons then and probably about as shallow as it gets. Would you leave them if they were in a bad accident that disfigured them in some way?
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Shapely (short of chunky)>Skinny>Chunky>Fat>Obese. For me anyway. I've had several uber skinny girlfriends, and It's just not my thing anymore. But if I'm really honest, I don't find overly fat females attractive. So long as they're happy though ./
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so your telling me your 100% perfect???