married women tells me she loves me

If as you say you have been friends for some time then ask yourself are you:

a) Shallow, prepared to wreck a marriage, friendship just for a bit of action.
b) An adult who accepts that the best friend you can be is to try and get her to address the issues with her husband.

As you can guess my advice would firmly be option b !
 
paddyuk said:
Ive always had a thing for someone I used to work with and we go out quite often as my friends all still work there. A few times getting drunk we have snogged etc and thought nothing about it. she got married 6months ago and has a son. Now weve always both had chemisty but recently its got worse and she texts me during the day saying how much she feels about me and shes confused what to do, she thought she was happy but shes not and only happy when were together.

I feel bad, i wouldnt like to be cheated on so I tend to stop things going to far out of hand on a night out but I really do care for her and i am falling for her. we meet up a few times and have a right laugh together, shes been one of my best friends for a few years but up to recently I cant get her out my mind and i dont know what to do. ive said ill give her some space or back off etc. but she doesnt want me to.

anyway needed to get it out my system.
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Dude if you like the girl then you can tell her that but dont sleep with her or do anything while she is in the relationship its the worst thing you can do. I mean if she means what she's saying to you why is she with this other guy. I do understand that they have a kid together but really if she is unhappy then she shouldnt be with this guy. I mean if she cheats with you then you will hurt more people and possible cause you problems with the EX coming after you or what ever. If she means it then she should break up with the other guy, take a break for while for her to make sure its what she wants then go out with you. Thats the best way to save an hurt or problems later down the line and at least everyone is being honest. But you also have to think is it really what you want.
 
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Well you are not riding her so its a Lose Lose. You are having to put out all the loving/comfort/texts/open ears/understanding etc & you haven't even riden her yet. POOR DEALS !!! On top of that you are risking the Husband coming round & setting about you with a Bat.
Either ride her & stand up to the consequences or Tell her to Stop with all the Romance chat & sort her life out.
 
G-MAN2004 said:
Think of her son, and how you will almost certainly make his life miserable if his parents split up.
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Would it not be worse growing up with the fact his mum clearly doesn't love her husband which will lead to fights etc throughout the years, till a messy break up when he's older?
 
If she cheats on him why wouldn't she cheat on you down the line?

She obviously just likes a bit of foreign sausage, IME.

Either

1) Have the shag and run, ending your friendship

2) Go serious and run the risk of her going and opening up her legs when she gets bored of you.
 
Tell her to sort her life out. If she's not happy in her marrage that's something she needs to deal with, and without you making it even more complicated. Use some common sense and back away until she's done whatever she needs to do.
 
Tefal said:
Would it not be worse growing up with the fact his mum clearly doesn't love her husband which will lead to fights etc throughout the years, till a messy break up when he's older?
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So you're saying he should intentionally try to break up a marriage and a family "because it'll be for the best"?
 
Hen_Dawg said:
So you're saying he should intentionally try to break up a marriage and a family "because it'll be for the best"?
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no just that's it's probably going to happen and he should probably talk to her, not what all yo people are saying that it will magically fix itself he he isn't involved, as she'll probably just go find some random guy which will make things even worse.
 
malc30 said:
Well you are not riding her so its a Lose Lose. You are having to put out all the loving/comfort/texts/open ears/understanding etc & you haven't even riden her yet. POOR DEALS !!! On top of that you are risking the Husband coming round & setting about you with a Bat.
Either ride her & stand up to the consequences or Tell her to Stop with all the Romance chat & sort her life out.
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malc, I didn't realize you were such the romantic.
 
Kid or not, she is married!!

If she thinks she made a mistake, then she should devorce the other guy then start something with you afterwards.

She is married.

Put yourself in the other guys place, you wife is out giving it to some other guy.

I personally think if someone cheats with one person they will with others, regardless of what they say.
 
Been in this situation. Flirted with a MILF, she felt "special" etc, although i do flirt with most woman at work, helps the day go by. She found out my number, text me, asked me out for drinks, called me, etc, etc. She offered herself on a plate to me, although to wind her up some more i kept refusing but teasing her.

She was prepared to leave everyhting behind, which set off the alarm bells for me, i didn't really like her much, she was a MILF but not wife material, so i told her that. She took it well and still wanted me to smash her pasty. I don't know how, but i refrained from doing so. Seeing upset husband and kids just said walk away, despite my manhood wanting the opposite.

The pain you could put her and her family through isn't worth it. If she is willing to cheat on her husband after 6 months, you have no hope of keeping her. My guess is she has a problem, is lonely and her new husband isn't giving her the attention she desires.
 
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