Girlfriends, how many is too many ?

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Ok before you go getting all excited by getting the wrong idea, I was not suggesting at the same time but through out your life before settling down and getting married (if that is what you choose to do).

Usually when getting to know someone new the subject comes round to the number of previous partners and I am quite surprised the person I am going out with is shocked at the number of relationships (i.e. 3 months or more) I have had. I don't think the number is very high and as an average over the time I started dating until current it still works out that most of the time I was single.

My wife is my 14th relationship in 16 years (18y/o till now) I believe. I am her 5th relationship.

So what are the averages for others ? Is 14 a high number ?

Oh and buttering someone's muffin after getting legless :eek: is not counted as a relationship for the purpose of this thread unless you then spent the next 3 months with her excluding prison time or hospitalisation ;).

RB
 
Define "relationship" - you may get higher/lower numbers purely on that definition. Each person's perception of a relationship is different. I've only been in 3 possibly 4 "serious" relationships, but have had dozens of "girlfriends".
 
RimBlock said:
......relationships (i.e. 3 months or more) I have had.........
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Personally I would define a relationship as above, serious relationships as living together / talking about marriage / a year + and girlfriends as blow 3 months.

How would others define these terms ?

RB
 
I've had 2 previous serious relationships (3.5 years and 2.5 years) and am currently heading towards my 3rd. I'm 25.
 
Freefaller said:
Define "relationship" - you may get higher/lower numbers purely on that definition. Each person's perception of a relationship is different. I've only been in 3 possibly 4 "serious" relationships, but have had dozens of "girlfriends".
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i agree with you freefaller.

i have only had 1 serious relationship. but 4 short relationships as well.

i miss the serious relationship mind you, the others im not bothered about lol
 
Depends on the person. I've only had 2 serious relationships.

But I have had more girlfriends. I consider a relationship when you've been with that person for more than 3 months as said above, and you start to get close.

I've been out with girls and left them after days. For various reasons, They were girlfriends, But mistakes.
 
I've only had one serious relationship, and I'm still with her :) I'm 20, we met and started 'dating' at 14 and it's just been a strong relationship since. Obviously at 14 it was more of a girlfriend/boyfriend thing but we stayed together and it turned in to a much more serious relationship. Had a bit of a rough patch around 18/19 but other than that we've been really happy.

People have said to me "don't you get bored" and "it's a bit sad just being with one person", but whatever... we're on the same level and really enjoy being together. I don't understand why someone would consider ruining a relationship just so they can say they've been with more than one person!

I think if you're on your 14th serious relationship in 16 years... then you've had bad luck. But if you're on your 14th relationship, but have had a few "flings", that's okay surely? It's not even one per year.

My girlfriends sister must have at least a fling a month, but she is basically a whore. My mate seems to have a relationship a year, usually lasting a few months before he gets dumped or they drift apart...
 
Varies from person to person.

I'm engaged to my 4th long term girlfriend, and 7th girlfriend altogether and I'm 25.
 
Gilly said:
14 isn't that high.
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I think it is. He's talking about getting in a serious relationship 14 times in 16 years. Unless of course your the sort of person that has a bunk up and thinks it's love, to me that seems a lot of times to be falling in and out of love in 16 years.

As he said for the purposes of the thread a bunk up isn't counted 14 serious relationships seems a lot to me.
 
dannyjo22 said:
I think it is. He's talking about getting in a serious relationship 14 times in 16 years. Unless of course your the sort of person that has a bunk up and thinks it's love, to me that seems a lot of times to be falling in and out of love in 16 years.

As he said for the purposes of the thread a bunk up isn't counted 14 serious relationships seems a lot to me.
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You can have a relationship with someone without falling in love with them.

Usually it's a few 2-3 month relationships followed by a longer more successful one IMO.

As long as you're happy with the reasons why these relationships didn't work out or ended, what's the problem? If they all ended for the same reason then maybe you should do something (What I don't know, I'm not an expert either:o)
 
I'd say I've had probably 3-4 what I would call relationships.

Occasionally it's taken 2-3 dates to get in a girls pants, but I wouldn't class that as a relationship :p
 
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