moving into a student flat, (room choice fairness)

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Hey

So in sept we'll be moving into a new house as second years.

It has 4 rooms, 3 large and one smaller. The smaller room im not sure if it would fit a double bed in properly..

Anyway, so, I'm the only one out of us with a gf (long term, 2.5 years so far and I can quite easily seeing being married with her) and ideally I'm looking to buy a double bed (found an offer on :D).

Everyone else wants to pick out a hat which I can fully understand for the fairness, but sleeping 2 in a small/single room to me isn't exactly fair. I'd understand if it was a simple few week relationship but, hey.

Of course no one wants the smaller room, even if it is a tenner a week cheaper, but no one else seems to understand where I'm coming from, with comments like "but we might get gf's next year"... (Yes but you aren't in a stable position to think about marriage.)

Wondering what your views are, would you kick up a fuss? Or let the hat picking choose fate? I don't want to waste a 180quid bed to find it wont fit.
 
First, try to decide among yourselves who wants which room - negotiate, offer to hoover, pay more, volunteer to sort out bill payments, swap after 6/12 months, etc. If this works, everyone's happy. We did that in our 8-bed house at uni and everyone was reasonably happy.

If you don't reach an agreeable conclusion, names out of a hat is the only other way I can think of I am afraid, regardless of whether you have a gf or not.
 
I think your friends are right, although I see where you are coming from, the fact you have a gf is irrelevant, there are 4 people paying and 4 rooms, just because you have a gf doesn't make you entitled to a bigger room. That's how I see it anyway.
 
They might get girlfriends. You think you're in a stable relationship but you never know whats going to happen (maybe you think you do, but from your flatmates point of view they don't).

Just draw straws
 
We were also in a similar situation and we ended up drawing cards. And the in the 14 month relationship got the small room. :)
 
Are you serious? Straws. The whole possibility of girlfriends and marriage is irrelevant. You've got a 3/4 chance of "winning" anyway.
 
Sorry You are clinging to the possibility of marriage to justify your room choice and that is just pathetic. A friend of mine at brighton uni has a long term boyfriend, she has the box room in her house and she gets along fine. Im assuming your girlfriend will be living somewhere as well? Is she getting the small room to? Why does she have to explicitly stay over at yours?

In room choice, I believe karma applies. ie, if you have a string of crap rooms you can justify, if all are in agreement, getting a better room. However, since this is your first year out of halls you are all in the same boat. Be a man and stop winging.
 
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If you're thinking about marriage maybe you should move in somewhere with your gf :) if not then straws it is tbh unless someone is willing to go in the small room with a rent discount.
 
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Sorry You are clinging to the possibility of marriage to justify your room choice and that is just pathetic. A friend of mine at brighton uni has a long term boyfriend, she has the box room in her house and she gets along fine. Im assuming your girlfriend will be living somewhere as well? Is she getting the small room to? Why does she have to explicitly stay over at yours?

In room choice, I believe karma applies. ie, if you have a string of crap rooms you can justify, if all are in agreement, getting a better room. However, since this is your first year out of halls you are all in the same boat. Be a man and stop winging.
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Jeez.

I was just wondering, curiosity never killed the cat as they say :/

I said I'd fully go with the straws route, just wondering what other people thought of the situation.
 
lol

your joking right?? be fair, take your chance.

At the end of the day, 4 rooms, 4 of you living there.

Are you gonna be paying more of the bills if your lass is living there or staying over??

lol
 
I will be in this situation soon...the 2 girls both have boyfriends, the other 2 guys won't have women around so i SHOULD get a double bedroom by peaceful discussions. :) :o
 
Psypher5 said:
Jeez.

I was just wondering, curiosity never killed the cat as they say :/

I said I'd fully go with the straws route, just wondering what other people thought of the situation.
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Sorry, no

I have been down the road of justifying uni room choices by anything other than chance and it never, ever works.

Its a simple fact. EVERYBODY has a tangiable reason as to why they should get the better bigger room. There is not one person who cannot come up with a logical argument. However, since these arguments are subjective, not objective, it is impossible for any one person to say which are more relevant than the other.
 
Having a gf should play no preference in picking out rooms, unless your gf is paying the housemate who ended up with the smaller room for his trouble. Just pick your name out of a hat and take you chances.
 
If none of you were willing to move into a smaller room, you shouldn't have picked that flat. My boyfriend was going to live with some friends a couple of years ago, and while they were looking for flats, they found a nice one in a good area, with 2 double rooms and a single. Neither of the other guys wanted to take the smaller room just because I'd be staying some nights and they were single, which was fair enough. In the end, he moved in with me anyway.
 
Cheers for the comments.

Having never been in this situation I feel it was a perfectly viable question to be fair :P

Straws at dawn it is :D
 
I got the biggest room when we sorted out a flat as I did all the looking and chatting to landlords, the rest of them were understanding to each other as we had girls in the house etc they got the rest of the upstairs. Otherwise picking out a hat is the best way, and swap at 6 months.
 
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I got the biggest room when we sorted out a flat as I did all the looking and chatting to landlords, the rest of them were understanding to each other as we had girls in the house etc they got the rest of the upstairs. Otherwise picking out a hat is the best way, and swap at 6 months.
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Swapping imo very rarely happens and never really works. When living in a space for any amount of time you grow attached to it. Odd but true. We are about 6 months into this academic year and the idea of switching rooms with one of my housemates right now is incredibly alien!
 
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If none of you were willing to move into a smaller room, you shouldn't have picked that flat. My boyfriend was going to live with some friends a couple of years ago, and while they were looking for flats, they found a nice one in a good area, with 2 double rooms and a single. Neither of the other guys wanted to take the smaller room just because I'd be staying some nights and they were single, which was fair enough. In the end, he moved in with me anyway.
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Most/every other house we have viewed has been a **** hole, really. For the price/quality/location of the house it was a no brainer.

(heck the room aint that much smaller, it aint like its going to be living in a shoebox,)
 
Having a partner should make no diffrence unless you agreed befor getting the house that someone should have the bigger room. Personally if I were in you're house mates situation I'd stick to my guns and demand a fair draw for the room, if you did get the small room maybe try and barter for a bigger room/swap with someone but you can't expect to have one of the bigger rooms.
 
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