Money and Women...

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Im sure i will offend all women on here with this:

But why are you all gold-diggers? If i go out with someone i dont ask them first "how much do you earn" Thats their business.

I go out with someone based on who they are not how large their bank balance is! :mad:


Also a question for everyone: How much do you think is a wage to get by on? (not luxury but okish)

And how much cash do you have to spend each month?

at a push after bills i have about £750 - £800 pcm (if i work a little more could prolly push it up to £900 but jeez spend it on what?) to spend on anything i like is that quite cheap then? I thought it was ok...how little i know then....

Also can you afford a Quarter of a Million £ mortgage on your wages? Yeah thats the going rate for decent houses round here.... :rolleyes:
 
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Money and women eh, i have only one complain, my girlfriend still thinks its acceptable to spend the balance on things such as tony and guy hair products ( i mean who spends £8 on a bottle of snot ?) , when the money is needed for more usefull things - like .... oh i dont know..... bills. :p
 
I spend it on enjoying myself and on my daughter. I don't save any money for myself because as the old saying goes "you can't take it with you!"

The only money i do save is for my daughter and gets paid in to her child trust fund.

So i pay

mortgage
bills
petrol
daughter
me me me me me me
 
Ive never asked any man how much he earns, nor would I want to know unless he told me. I also happily go halves on things. The one man ive lived with, we split the cost of the shopping during the month, and I never piled loads more things in when it was his week to pay.

I am on what I would consider a low wage for the job I do, but I do it because I love it, and not because it earns me lots of money.

Money really isnt important to me, and I certainly wouldnt go out with a man because he was rich, nor would I dump a man because he was poor. If I am short of money one week, I just dont go out, its as simple as that, I wouldnt piggy back off someone elses money to take the mick.
 
Surfer said:
Also a question for everyone: How much do you think is a wage to get by on? (not luxury but okish)

And how much cash do you have to spend each month?
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I think there are people out there who do tremendously well with small amounts of cash. I'm sure I (gf, no offspring) earn more than some families, but with student debts and relatively high aspirations (wanting to own house etc), my wage needs to cover my student debts and this and have 0 cash to spend each month. It depends where you live in the country on how much you need to get by.

If I do spend, it normally comes out of somewhere where it should be going.

From this, I have learnt to be less materialistic which is a good thing.
 
Surfer said:
Also can you afford a Quarter of a Million £ mortgage on your wages? Yeah thats the going rate for decent houses round here.... :rolleyes:
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No, but then I don't believe that we all have a divine right to own a decent house. Decent houses should be owned by the richer/high income people, people on lesser incomes such as myself should be renting if they want a decent house, or setting their sights lower if they want to buy (i.e. look at average/flawed housing).

Regarding the 'gold diggers' question, I don't think it is unreasonable to ask how much your partner earns if you are in a serious relationship. If you aren't willing to discuss your salary with a partner then I do wonder how much trust and communication there is in that relationship.

One thing I have found slightly annoying however is that I've had to bail out my partner a couple of times financially, despite the fact that she earns more money than me. I've never known someone to buy so much useless tat that never/rarely gets used. Notepads get written on for 3 pages out of 250 and then a new one gets bought, as much food ends up in the bin as in our stomachs etc.
 
i agree with what your saying Hangtime. When i mean a decent house i mean something more than a studio flat/bedsit! :/ 2 or 3 bedroom with garden is just insanely expensive up here.

Some things should remain private - sure your partner should be financially able to support themselves equally. But it should only be brought up when you get to that stage where you are pooling resources, joint bank accounts, starting a family or buying houses etc together.
 
I'm not offended but I do think you've been mixing with the wrong sort of women!

I've been with my partner for 3 years and I have absolutely no idea how much he earns nor am I interested. I look after myself thank you very much!

I'm in the process of setting up my own business so have very little spending money right now but that's fine as I'm too busy working and planning to spend anyway!

My mortgage is actually ok as I bought before the house prices went through the roof so am sorted there.
 
All women are interested in money Period.

Any woman that says they are not is telling FIBS.

Women don't won't losers for partners.They want security,a nice home and things to put

in it.

Its ingrained into their DNA since caveman times.
 
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Roberta said:
I've been with my partner for 3 years and I have absolutely no idea how much he earns...
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How can you be with someone for 3 years and have 'absolutely no idea' how much they earn? I know it doesnt exactly come up in casual conversation but if you ever make plans or if you actually do anything together (like booking holidays) it must give a hint at how much they earn. And does he never say "I got a raise today" or anything of that nature?
 
adeyman said:
How can you be with someone for 3 years and have 'absolutely no idea' how much they earn? I know it doesnt exactly come up in casual conversation but if you ever make plans or if you actually do anything together (like booking holidays) it must give a hint at how much they earn. And does he never say "I got a raise today" or anything of that nature?
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He tells me when he gets a bonus. I don't ask how much it was. We don't live together so his money is his and mine is mine. I tend not to look for 'hints' as I really couldn't care less. As long as he's happy I'm happy.

He just read this thread over my shoulder and is laughing!
 
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He tells me when he gets a bonus. I don't ask how much it was. We don't live together so his money is his and mine is mine. I tend not to look for 'hints' as I really couldn't care less. As long as he's happy I'm happy.

He just read this thread over my shoulder and is laughing!
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mmmmmmmm

<sits and ponders whether you made those posts on purpose knowing your boyfriend would read them and therefore give you an avenue into finding out more about how much he earns>

<takes off conspiracy hat>

:p
 
lowrider007 said:
mmmmmmmm

<sits and ponders whether you made those posts on purpose knowing your boyfriend would read them and therefore give you an avenue into finding out more about how much he earns>

<takes off conspiracy hat>

:p
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Hahahaha! I might just ask him now!

BRB!
 
I asked. He said 'Thruppence an hour.'

So I dumped him.

I should be entitled to at least a penny and a half of that, right?
 
LOL

I split with my ex because she had no concept of money management. She just used to plunder the bank account and spend it on random crap she didn't need :( She also thought that because I was earning a fair whack, it meant she could give up her job and be a kept woman :mad:

Whenever I meet someone now I tell them I'm on something like £6.50 an hour. Soon weeds out the gold diggers :p

There *are* genuine girls out there who aren't materialistic at all, but they seem to be an increasingly rare breed these days. My problem is I like spoiling family and those close to me so I tend to end up with people who take advantage of my good nature :(
 
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But why are you all gold-diggers?
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they maybe all gold diggers, but there's a finite amount of gold

young women have a distorted view of reality where only the perfect man will do, eventually they accept that it's not going to happen

Recently in the news
A taxi driver who pretends he is a lottery winner before drugging and raping female passengers is thought to have struck at least five times and may have attacked many more women, police fear.
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Mine isn't. She buys me shirts and bits of clothing, some little gifts "just because". She earns considerably more money than me, but she works very very hard and deserves all that she earns. WE both know what we earn, we help each other look after our money and be sensible with it. I still treat her, and take her away on nice weekends, on holidays and so on. Money should be no object in a relationship - in fact it only becomes an issue if the worry of debt or lack of money starts to affect your relationship.;
 
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