What do I do? any help please urgent!

HITMAN_LEON said:
One other thing what if I did tell the police or childline and it was just too vague for them to do anything, also what if the story was not true, there are so many variables i can't think right.
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Surely your daughter knows the girls name?! Thats enough for the police to go on, call them!!


HITMAN_LEON said:
my daughter says she dose not want to upset her friend.
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Calmly point out that she wont be able to hurt her friend any more than suicide or her dad would/do!
 
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Good man.
You don't have to worry about the school withholding the girls address as you arent going to ask for it, you just need to tell the police everything you know, and they will get the info themselves. There's no more you can do than that.
 
I got in at 4-30 my daughter told me it was not the case of her friends dad just being heavy handed, I posted here and phoned the police within 20 minutes most of those minutes spent calming down a crying 11yo, my daughter. Why in hell am I being cained here by some for trying to do right, I thought this place was full of reasonable people obviously some are letting the side down.
 
Good on you Leon even if (I doubt it is wrong) wrong then you know you've done the right thing.

Keep us updated.

Aero

EDIT: To those who choose to "cain" Leon he asked for advice on a course of action, not to judge him.
 
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HITMAN_LEON said:
I got in at 4-30 my daughter told me it was not the case of her friends dad just being heavy handed, I posted here and phoned the police within 20 minutes most of those minutes spent calming down a crying 11yo, my daughter. Why in hell am I being cained here by some for trying to do right, I thought this place was full of reasonable people obviously some are letting the side down.
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Fully behind you mate and it's good that you've contacted the police now. Hope they can sort something out. The father sounds like a **** and he really needs to be dealt with properly.
 
Sounds like you did the right thing, i was going to post something along the lines of "why havent you called the police already" but once i thought about it i probably would have wanted to be sure it wasnt a cry for attention as well.

Lets hope it is.
 
You've done the right thing. Anyone calling you out for posting is an idiot. If they had ever been in this situation themselves they might realise it aint always easy to know what to do, or exactly how to go about doing it. This is something that many people who might be expected to professionally deal with this sort of problem have ballsed up in the past, you just need to look at cases like Victoria Climbie
 
To those who called me out on this im sat here in a cold sweat, I could tear the house apart in a heartbeat out of the total frustration of this whole thing ive never been so helpless waiting for a phonecall from the police to give the information to the people who can help. If you are so clever please feel free to take my place I would give it away gladly and have done with it. Its not like this thing happens with any regularity and there are people who would just sweep it away as some kind of fairy story. Not me I have done the right things and I did not drag my feet in anyway. Im a good dad and I listen to my daughter and it dose not feel good at all to have to listen to what she told me and see her upset or know that another girl her age may be any danger but I did and I have acted.
 
Hitman you did the only thing you could do - I hope you can help this poor girl before things get worse. Please let us know how you get on
 
Should have lived up to your forum name mate. Talk to your local mob boss he would have given that guy what he deserevred, fighting fire with fire. We can only hope the police do something useful without letting the daughter get hurt more.
 
hate to put a damper/doubt on this thread, or the subject in question but my sister had pretty much the same thing happen with a friend from her school a few years ago now, pretty much along the same lines, it turned out that it was a pretty much completely made up story because she disliked her dad (she was a very messed up kid) social got involved and it pretty much all came out how she's lied about the whole thing. don't take everything at face value with kids, they hve good imaginations.

overcourse it could be genuine, and it is best to investigate a possible probable problem as opposed to letting an actual problem spiral further out of control. first and only port of call for you however would be to contact the school. after that there is not much else you can do appart from let them know everything you know.


edit: having read all the posts in the thread i can say you've done the right thing. lets just hope the kid gets help for what ever is behind this.
 
You've done the right thing, if it turns out the girl is inventing this her father should understand it is not your fault and that you acted for the best, and it will bring the girls issue into the open. I struggled for a long time with a best friend who told me stories of abuse and suicide attempts and I know how horrible it can be knowing a friend is going through that but being too young to really understand or help, so you have done the best thing you could for your daughter by taking it out of her hands.
 
I suspect the reason your daughter has given you so much detail me that she is hoping you will do something.

I have no idea what the best way to report this is, and I'm not going to pretend to, but you should report this to some authority.
 
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