Friend - Argument. Not sure what to do...

buckeejit

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buckeejit

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Hi, Earlier today, a girl I know (friend no.1) asked me if I wanted to do summit 2nite so I said yeah. One of my other good female friends was going also (friend no.2). I txted friend no.2 and she wouldn't give a straight answer regarding a time. I txted them both and said that half 6 onwards was fine for me because they obv couldn't make up their minds. On the train on the way home from work, I was txting friend no.1 and said 'I'm not really bothered about going but if you wanna go then I will to lol'. Well, she txted me back and said that she 'couldn't' be bothered and that all 3 of us will just do summit on Sunday.

I got a txt about 40 mins later from friend no.2 asking me why I confirm a time and then say that I couldn't be bothered. I txted her back and said that I said 'I'm not really bothered' (difference). Well, she snapped and sayin I was rude and stuff. I txted back as I was kind of in shock as I've done nothing. She also said (it was like she snapped) that she wasn't doin nothing and she'd see me later on in the month (that's when we have summit planned). I think this was rude.

I txted back saying that I wanna leave it because I didn't want to fall out.

Thing is, I've noticed a big change in her over the past 9 months and I'm not liking it. We used to get on so well.

I'm due to go on holiday with her and 2 other mates in Oct and my head is messed up at the min. I'm honestly not sure if I want to be mates anymore. I just don't know what to do.

Basically, with past arguments between friend no.2 and I, I would just lie down (not literally) and take it and not say anything back. I don't see why I should have to tolerate this anymore.

I honestly don't know what to do and I'm sorry about this thread, I understand it's a tad weird lol but I just needed to get this off my chest.

BTW, the txts earlier went into more detail, I just didn't want to type the full transcript as it were, on here lol.

Any advise is greatly appreciated.
 
Be a man - hissypissy like this is for girls. Also, if you can't write clear texts make a phone call so to avoid confusion in future.
 
She said, then i said, then our other friend said, then i said , then she said....................


**** off
 
Tbh you haven't given enough info about what she's like, but it's understandable for her to be a bit stroppy if you've arranged a night out and so she's made plans and then you cancel last minute.

Talk to her once you've both cooled down a bit. :)
 
buckeejit said:
my txt was clear. There is a difference between I can't be bothered and I'm not bothered.
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Apparently it wasn't.

With phone calls, these situations happen FAR less. I bet this 'argument' dragged on over about half an hour too, with a phone call it would have been a misunderstanding, and resolved in minutes.

buckeejit said:
that's just plain rude like.
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He's right.
 
G|mp said:
init.
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At the point she text you, rather than reply and lead to the argument, why didn't you ring instead of ensue a long drawn out text session (where it is quite easy to misjudge ones intentions - even my own when reading back sent texts with totally different meanings) and sort it all in less than a minute? Tone of voice wins ...

... also, you're 21? No offence, grow some nads/pills/balls/insert word here... I thought this was the kind of trouble 15year olds would have.
 
G|mp said:
She said, then i said, then our other friend said, then i said , then she said....................


**** off
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Exactly what I was thinking!! Sounds like you've fallen into the friend zone and now are trying to make it reasonable :p
 
i say get a grip, some people get emotional and if they have had a long day in the sun they may not be in the best mood.
 
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