A relationship thread we've probably never seen before...
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Nope.
What happens is you end up with somebody that is actually happy when you are happy & who likes the kind of things you like. No good a base jumper marrying a Drama queen is there.
but what about from her point of view, he's not saying, I'm happy if your happy.
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The death rate has been declining as the equipment has become better and the instructor levels have improved. You're more likely to win the lottery than you are dying skydiving - fact. In fact the most dangerous part of my skydive was riding my motorbike to the DZ - oh and the plane too 
that's why you want to jump out of them! 
that's why you want to jump out of them! The safety aspects are not even relevant. If one partner wants to do something then the other should support them no matter how they feel about it. If they hate it that much then they should question whether they love the person or not.
I can see that quite a lot of people have Never ben in Love as if you had you would understand. When in Love you would do anything for your partner including ignoring your own feelings to make them happy.
I can see that quite a lot of people have Never ben in Love as if you had you would understand. When in Love you would do anything for your partner including ignoring your own feelings to make them happy.
At this point i would question whether she loved him rather than the other way around as he is only wanting to pursue a sporting activity, It's not like he has asked her to Swing or owt is it.
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Whenever i see these thread i always think "this time would be much better spent talking to the person the threads about" and i cant see how its different here.
My opnion is it depends how strongly she feels about it, if you get the feeling she cant take the stress of having you in danger all the time and she might walk out, you need to get your ass out of the sky and into a church pretty damn quick.
My opnion is it depends how strongly she feels about it, if you get the feeling she cant take the stress of having you in danger all the time and she might walk out, you need to get your ass out of the sky and into a church pretty damn quick.
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Base Jumping and sky diving are not dangerous sports relative to many other daily activities and other popular sports.
Many actives have some inherent risk, and if that risk wasn't there then we wouldn't do it.
For me, my activity is big-mountain skiing and ski mountaineering. I have lost friends, and frequently read about someone who dies, Certain situations have high risk but a high reward. Over 100 people died this winter in avalanches in the N. Hemisphere. Double that for ski related accidents.
We each have to choose the activity and conditions that have the right risk-payoff function. As Jean Boivin said, "You can accept to die doing this, you don't want to, but by being that close to the edge you understand what life really is, and it makes you a better person". I would rather die doing something I love than die in a car crash or die an 80 year old vegetable.
Your girlfriend must understand your desires and accommodate them. You must understand the risk and payoff and fit that in with the beliefs of your GF. I told my current girlfriend this, she does not like me doing dangerous sports but she knows she can't stop me doing something I love just like she knows she can't control me and stop me going tot he mountains.
Many actives have some inherent risk, and if that risk wasn't there then we wouldn't do it.
For me, my activity is big-mountain skiing and ski mountaineering. I have lost friends, and frequently read about someone who dies, Certain situations have high risk but a high reward. Over 100 people died this winter in avalanches in the N. Hemisphere. Double that for ski related accidents.
We each have to choose the activity and conditions that have the right risk-payoff function. As Jean Boivin said, "You can accept to die doing this, you don't want to, but by being that close to the edge you understand what life really is, and it makes you a better person". I would rather die doing something I love than die in a car crash or die an 80 year old vegetable.
Your girlfriend must understand your desires and accommodate them. You must understand the risk and payoff and fit that in with the beliefs of your GF. I told my current girlfriend this, she does not like me doing dangerous sports but she knows she can't stop me doing something I love just like she knows she can't control me and stop me going tot he mountains.
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I wouldn't say so. IF she is willing to leave him because he continues to do something he loves then she is not right for him.
The simple premise is this - who/what is more important.
Part of being in a relationship is being understanding and making small sacrifices. That works both ways, she seems to have sacrificied a lot of peace of mind by not objecting to you sky diving.
For those who say what makes you happy, makes me happy. If your wife turned around and said I am off to sleep with 5 of your best mates cause it will make me happy - would you be supportive? Its far less dangerous.
You mentioned having kids - is this the woman you would want to have kids with? If it is, your love for her will be the same as your love for any kids you do have.
There are a lot of things I did not do when I was single which I could have done. I missed out and now that I am married with kids I accept that and move on.
Part of being in a relationship is being understanding and making small sacrifices. That works both ways, she seems to have sacrificied a lot of peace of mind by not objecting to you sky diving.
For those who say what makes you happy, makes me happy. If your wife turned around and said I am off to sleep with 5 of your best mates cause it will make me happy - would you be supportive? Its far less dangerous.
You mentioned having kids - is this the woman you would want to have kids with? If it is, your love for her will be the same as your love for any kids you do have.
There are a lot of things I did not do when I was single which I could have done. I missed out and now that I am married with kids I accept that and move on.
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What? So if you loved killing kittens and your girlfriend had a problem with it she should stfu?
Relationships are about give and take. If she is concerned about him and his safety and has a hard time seeing him putting himself in danger i'd say she sounds like a decent girl that he needs to keep hold of.
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The common factor in those two arguments is "love"... Either you not loving her enough or vice versa. Surely a relationship needs a reciprocal love in order to last any length of time?
How is that the same?!
Sleeping with my mates is the same as sleeping with me (but worse
), so why would she need to go elsewhere. If I didn't have a johnson and she said she'd like to hire an escort then it comes a bit closer... but still, what?! 
I'm too young to consider kids (early 20s), but I can see myself staying with this girl forever.