Think I annoyed my neighbour

Energize said:
Children won't die if they are woken up. I don't know how some of you cope in life. What happens if a dog barks or a car drives past?
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True, they will not die it they are woken and, of course, they will get woken up at times by the things you mention. I would argue that sleep for parents when you have a kid is at a premium which is why many people do not like their kids being woken up. My point in all of this is that I would hope is for people to be considerate of the needs of others. On topic, of course I have no idea how much noise SpeedFreak was making so it is impossible to say if his behavior is appropriate or not.

I have asked Heofz and I also ask Energise do you have kids and if so have your opinions changed since you have had them?
 
Ahahahahah, what happened after? Did you get sued or anything (wasnt a protected tree was it?)?
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na just one annoying big conifer tree,grew over to are side and they wasnt going to do anything about it,so we did, he wasnt a very happy chappy at time especially when he walks out of house F'in n blindin holding a exhaust pipe i think, was a laugh tho and suppose it was a bit of a payback from all them early hour mornings he's woke me up with worlds loudest chopper....
 
snail1 said:
Absolutely, I would (and do) my very best to ensure that my young son disturbs others as little as possible. For example, I am always up early - but would never start noisy jobs until a reasonable hour.
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Ditto, the reason I really don't understand the OP's point of view he obviously knew it was quite late for noisemaking and copping an attitude at someone who is trying to get their kids to sleep is immature and pig headed.

Though I don't agree with the whole shouting at people out of the window thing, what does it take to walk out and have a word, if the OP gives attitude when it's a civil word then Karma's going to kick his behind, but all in all I think it's a fair reflection of Britain today :(
 
snail1 said:
Absolutely, I would (and do) my very best to ensure that my young son disturbs others as little as possible. For example, I am always up early - but would never start noisy jobs until a reasonable hour.
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I meant more along the lines live and let live - if he's got to hit a caliper a couple of times so what. If it goes on all night then have a word but fundamentally his need to fix his brakes is no more important than your need to sleep.

You may think your needs are more important than his - but everybody thinks that.

Most I've ever done when I've heard noise outside is close the window - perhaps I'm just more easy going but I just don't see the point of yelling at people.
 
@ snail1, oops sorry must've missed your question. No I don't have kids, but I'm sure they will become the most precious thing to me the day I become a father. I'm an uncle of 2 kids and have done a bit of babysitting so I have had a sneak peek of what its like to try and get them to sleep. I'm quite the genius though you see (;)), I always trick them into doing what they're told :p
 
Heofz said:
@ snail1, oops sorry must've missed your question. No I don't have kids, but I'm sure they will become the most precious thing to me the day I become a father. I'm an uncle of 2 kids and have done a bit of babysitting so I have had a sneak peek of what its like to try and get them to sleep. I'm quite the genius though you see (;)), I always trick them into doing what they're told :p
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lol, got a lot to learn :)
 
Telescopi said:
I meant more along the lines live and let live - if he's got to hit a caliper a couple of times so what. If it goes on all night then have a word but fundamentally his need to fix his brakes is no more important than your need to sleep.

You may think your needs are more important than his - but everybody thinks that.

Most I've ever done when I've heard noise outside is close the window - perhaps I'm just more easy going but I just don't see the point of yelling at people.
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All fair points, I personally would never yell at people in that situation nothing ever gets solved that way and it just gets people's backs up.

My point throughout is that if people just discussed these things sensibly then these situations might never arise. For example, if my neighbour came around and said that she needed to do a noisy job in the middle of the night I would hope to accommodate her by moving my baby to the other side of the house and shutting the windows. I would hope I might even help.
 
Heofz said:
@ snail1, oops sorry must've missed your question. No I don't have kids, but I'm sure they will become the most precious thing to me the day I become a father. I'm an uncle of 2 kids and have done a bit of babysitting so I have had a sneak peek of what its like to try and get them to sleep. I'm quite the genius though you see (;)), I always trick them into doing what they're told :p
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np. It is only that having recently become a father my opinions about kids and parenting has changed massively. Beforehand I would judge people with kids on how they were acting, but it is never, ever, ever simple.
 
It doesn't seem like anyones mentioned it yet, does no one have common sense anymore? My mum's the same, she hears one bang from my strong sub and she's screaming up the stairs even though i only hit the sub volume dial by accident and was already off again. People react assuming they know whats coming next and its an ahole thing to do.

you hear to bangs, you don't react, you wait and see if theres persistant noise. If there is, you ask how long or if they can stop depending on the situation. You don't hear something formulate the idea in your head the noise will somehow continue to follow you right into the afterlife and run out screaming at the source of the noise.

People seem completely unable to take tiny tiny little moments to actually use common sense before reacting blindly.

NO two loud bangs at 10pm isn't the best, it isn't the worst either. You've got to realise that what, at least half of the road(probably lots more) will be awake at 10pm and really its not an issue. Lots of people over react to anything these days, but parents seem to always be upfront and centre and loudest of any people complaining. They completely forget how freaking horrifically irritating their kids are screaming at 2am, or banging around in the garden all summer long while you are relaxing after a hard weeks work, or in a restuarant/cinema/any damn where making more noise than anyone else and irritating everyone else.

Parents lives revolve around their kids, so they completely unfairly expect everyone else's to aswell.
 
Drukenmaster - that is very thought-provoking. I only really disagree with the last sentence. Yes, my life revolves around my son but I do not expect others to but I would expect others to respect my needs and I really hope I can respect the needs of others.
 
Skyfall said:
lol, got a lot to learn :)
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snail1 said:
np. It is only that having recently become a father my opinions about kids and parenting has changed massively. Beforehand I would judge people with kids on how they were acting, but it is never, ever, ever simple.
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@ both of you: I don't doubt it :)

But what drunkenmaster said is indeed thought provoking. I'm surprised (at myself as much as anyone else) nobody has raised the points he did until page 3.
 
WOo me, to be fair not all parents are like that at all, but some certainly really couldn't give a monkeys about anyone else. Frankly, I'm always being too nice to everyone/anyone when out and about. I see an old granny type and i'll let her in a queue infront of me, I don't push to have to be first on the bus/train i can wait my turn and not be an ass. IF theres a mother with 2-3 kids in the post office(as i often send loads of old kit off) i'll let them go first as i know kids + queuing don't go great together. But its when some mother pushes her pram in and acts like she's the only one that matters and she should go first. Ok lots of people are like that, you know the "you don't mind if i go first, i'm in a rush" type, I've yet to meet someone who wants to spend all day in a queue and doesn't have something better to do.

Loads of people need more manners and simple thought before acting.
 
Skyfall said:
You wouldn't die if someone kicked you in the goolies for no reason, but it would annoy you wouldn't it.
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Great straw man there.

The situation in the op is not one that warrants the reaction that it got. A minor disturbance waking up someones kids is not something that requires the parents to intervene, just because they have kids doesn't give them some special right to have total silence near their house, this is the real world afterall and you can't honestly expect someone to put off every task they might do in case someone overhears some slight noise.

snail1 said:
I have asked Heofz and I also ask Energise do you have kids and if so have your opinions changed since you have had them?
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God no. :p

Next door does have baby right next to my room though which cries at night and wakes everyone in our house up.
 
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Around here theres dogs barking, people yelling coming out of the pub across the street, i cant go around yelling saying keep the noise down.... people swearing and being absolutely bladderd, yelling and swearing is a lot worse than a few bangs or taps in my opinion.
 
Currently. I can hear a semi-acoustic guitar from the pub next door. Even though there's thick walls you can hear *strum strum strum*

Don't think 2 hammer knocks would bother me much :p
 
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